Butch or Femme?

Vamwolf · 08-13-2003, 08:51 PM

Can anyone explain difference between butch and femme? I find it difficult with those labels and are ridiculous cuz for example butch mean the male role in a homosexual relationship women dress like a man as wear men 's clothes especially acting like a man but understand it has to do with hormone or other that made them that way for some reasons. And femme mean a female role in a homosexual relationship. I myself lesbian and I dont usually use those label butch or femme cuz I just being myself just find it very annoying that everytime anyone ask me if I am a femme or butch. I wear anything that made me comfortable like everyone else that I am sure that I am not only one that wear either men or women 's clothes just feel comfortable so felt it nothing to do with the label femme or butch. Whenever they asked me the question and I usually say half femme and half soft butch whatever lol. I just find it hard question to answer so it alway made me uncomfortable so wish anyone stop ask this stupid question lol unless anyone get perpective like gaydar lol. So hope if anyone can relate to this or have experience with this labels. Also if you want to tell what actually u are femme or butch and why you think that you are butch or femme. What is your opinions with butch and femme?.. thanks..

Hope this make sense to you?!

Fly Free · 08-14-2003, 12:40 AM

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Originally Posted by Vamwolf

Can anyone explain difference between butch and femme? I find it difficult with those labels and are ridiculous cuz for example butch mean the male role in a homosexual relationship women dress like a man as wear men 's clothes especially acting like a man but understand it has to do with hormone or other that made them that way for some reasons. And femme mean a female role in a homosexual relationship. I myself lesbian and I dont usually use those label butch or femme cuz I just being myself just find it very annoying that everytime anyone ask me if I am a femme or butch. I wear anything that made me comfortable like everyone else that I am sure that I am not only one that wear either men or women 's clothes just feel comfortable so felt it nothing to do with the label femme or butch. Whenever they asked me the question and I usually say half femme and half soft butch whatever lol. I just find it hard question to answer so it alway made me uncomfortable so wish anyone stop ask this stupid question lol unless anyone get perpective like gaydar lol. So hope if anyone can relate to this or have experience with this labels. Also if you want to tell what actually u are femme or butch and why you think that you are butch or femme. What is your opinions with butch and femme?.. thanks..

Hope this make sense to you?!

i know what u mean vamwolf -- i myself am a lesbian and i dont care much for labels either but if ppl do ask i answer that im soft butch altho ive been told i have some more masculine characteristics sometimes

if thats actually accurate after all i cannot really see myself on a daily basis on how i behave around others -- im just comfortable with myself as a female and loving women

javapride · 08-14-2003, 12:43 AM

Fly, I agree with u but for some poeple who see them selves as they are i can understand it's annoyance of who thier role is hence some would say full butch, soft butch or femme, depends on thier style, Me im a strong butch have male skills and etc. i like doing the domanince roles. its just whats natural is fine with me, it depends on my feelings. and as well as the women
u know outside we have the male feeling but when it comes to bed, I for one sometimes get all femmie and cuddle with my bed partner so it depends.

Oddball · 08-14-2003, 06:10 PM

How about being crooked? hee hee.

(No offense to any GBLT community and no flaming, ok).

Fly Free · 08-14-2003, 06:24 PM

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Originally Posted by Oddball

How about being crooked? hee hee.

(No offense to any GBLT community and no flaming, ok).

Oddball -- crooked u may LOL -- u are a known and proud faghag LOL and us 3 buddies

u!!!!!

javapride · 08-14-2003, 07:05 PM

to the MAX

ODDBALL ur DA BEST!!!!

ChelEler · 08-15-2003, 09:59 AM

Does it mean that a butch woman not want to get pregnant, while a femme woman want to get pregnant?

Fly Free · 08-15-2003, 10:18 AM

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Originally Posted by ChelEler

Does it mean that a butch woman not want to get pregnant, while a femme woman want to get pregnant?

not always Chel -- there are some butch women that would want to be preggy

deafdyke · 08-16-2003, 05:22 PM

Me, I cannot STAND the whole butch/ femme thing. Why attach gender roles to loving someone? That's just really dumb.

Fly Free · 08-16-2003, 06:12 PM

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Originally Posted by deafdyke

Me, I cannot STAND the whole butch/ femme thing. Why attach gender roles to loving someone? That's just really dumb.

Deafdyke -- i agree with ur comments -- ive had a few women asking me "are u butch or femme qq" many dont ask really -- they just ask what interests i have and all that as opposed to asking abt what gender role i am/do (however way its perceived as)

CatoCooper13 · 08-19-2003, 05:17 AM

Hmmm...if I were a full-on lesbian, I reckon I would be a soft butch cos I hate wearing feminine clothes...which I only reserve for special occassions.

I'm most comfortable in a pair of pants and t-shirt.

Mizzou · 08-21-2003, 05:10 PM

me, myself feel MALE inside but people look at me different. It is depend on my partner has view about me then I would accept who I am. Mostly, person I am is KIDDO toward to the bed... you better WATCH OUT! lol just joking!

Fly Free · 08-24-2003, 12:06 PM

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Originally Posted by MizzDeaf

me, myself feel MALE inside but people look at me different. It is depend on my partner has view about me then I would accept who I am. Mostly, person I am is KIDDO toward to the bed... you better WATCH OUT! lol just joking!

hiii MizzDeaf gurl!!!!! yes alot of butch women i notice says they feel more male inside their feelings and all -- no worries MizzDeaf grrl -- BE YOURSELF

u silly grrl

lilredridinhood · 08-31-2003, 10:54 PM

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Originally Posted by Fly Free

not always Chel -- there are some butch women that would want to be preggy

yeah, like my ex gf, she's butch, and she wants to have a kid more than i do so... *shrugs*

and as for the butch/femme thing, i guess i'd be labeled a femme... i dress feminine, i act feminine, but in the bedroom, i tend to take the lead role...

Irish Devil Dog · 12-09-2003, 03:55 AM

I agree with most of you about labels.. Some people have asked me that question too.. For me I dont really care which femme or butch to be in relationship.. As long there is a good personalities come first. Myself am butch and have male feelings inside of me since I dont like dress up like femme... and i tend to hang out w/ male friends that we have same interest in.

TweetyBird · 12-11-2003, 10:50 PM

I started BI 2 yrs ago, I got confused what i am soft butch, or femme or butch?? so I admitted yalll n yall can read abt me.. I was so embarrassed that few my friends asked me "are u BI?" I wont answer this... Then later, i followed my heart what i am inside... I changed full femme last may of this yr and I started like to have strong butch gf! hehehehe!!! Some my friends asked me, is this true are u lesbo? I FINALLY say yea, cuz of I am not embarrassed anymore.. I am SO proud myself!!!!

***VamPyroX*** · 12-12-2003, 12:02 AM

I see nothing wrong with gals being femme or butch, as long as they don't exaggerate their behavior. The same goes for guys. I've seen guys who are so femme that they panic over something that even a normal gal wouldn't do.

"OMG! I broke my nail!"

"Aah! I can't carry this big thing!" (referring to a 12-pack of pop)

Mizzou · 12-12-2003, 10:37 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by VamPyroX

I see nothing wrong with gals being femme or butch, as long as they don't exaggerate their behavior. The same goes for guys. I've seen guys who are so femme that they panic over something that even a normal gal wouldn't do.

"OMG! I broke my nail!"

"Aah! I can't carry this big thing!" (referring to a 12-pack of pop)

That's True!!! I seen those men make a good drama.

Fly Free · 12-12-2003, 11:13 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by VamPyroX

I see nothing wrong with gals being femme or butch, as long as they don't exaggerate their behavior. The same goes for guys. I've seen guys who are so femme that they panic over something that even a normal gal wouldn't do.

"OMG! I broke my nail!"

"Aah! I can't carry this big thing!" (referring to a 12-pack of pop)

hahaha Vampy thats true!!!!

ive had those who would go the extreme over something so minor like that

javapride · 12-12-2003, 12:27 PM

hey tweetybird \o NOW ur getting the hang of this hehehe and yep ur still beautiful to me no matter weather ur Femme or Butch ur still beautiful to me

TweetyBird · 12-12-2003, 10:49 PM

hey javababe, that SO sweet of u say that.. smile..

to u!!!! hehehe... but i feel inside that i am more femme.. oh well... u know me! babe!

PeaceRainbowGal · 02-02-2004, 11:52 PM

Hey, I am full Femme but My gf is Butch.. I love her much..

DreamDeaf · 02-03-2004, 01:27 PM

It doesnt matter to me - I know I'm a femme but who cares? I don't. I don't label people, even when they label me...heh heh...but I do know I love my friends, no matter what they are! Be they butch, be they femme, be they cat people, be they dog people...and I could go yadda, yadda, all day...heh heh.

Love,
DD

Fly Free · 02-03-2004, 03:30 PM

mommy!!!

08-13-2003, 08:51 PM	#1 (permalink)
Vamwolf VamWolf Join Date: May 2003 Location: new york, new york Posts: 36	Butch or Femme? Can anyone explain difference between butch and femme? I find it difficult with those labels and are ridiculous cuz for example butch mean the male role in a homosexual relationship women dress like a man as wear men 's clothes especially acting like a man but understand it has to do with hormone or other that made them that way for some reasons. And femme mean a female role in a homosexual relationship. I myself lesbian and I dont usually use those label butch or femme cuz I just being myself just find it very annoying that everytime anyone ask me if I am a femme or butch. I wear anything that made me comfortable like everyone else that I am sure that I am not only one that wear either men or women 's clothes just feel comfortable so felt it nothing to do with the label femme or butch. Whenever they asked me the question and I usually say half femme and half soft butch whatever lol. I just find it hard question to answer so it alway made me uncomfortable so wish anyone stop ask this stupid question lol unless anyone get perpective like gaydar lol. So hope if anyone can relate to this or have experience with this labels. Also if you want to tell what actually u are femme or butch and why you think that you are butch or femme. What is your opinions with butch and femme?.. thanks.. Hope this make sense to you?!

08-15-2003, 09:59 AM	#7 (permalink)
ChelEler Registered User Join Date: Mar 2003 Posts: 5,538	Does it mean that a butch woman not want to get pregnant, while a femme woman want to get pregnant? __________________ -ChelEler- =^.~=

08-19-2003, 05:17 AM	#11 (permalink)
CatoCooper13 Am attached and in LOVE! Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: Sonoma County, California Posts: 6,419	Hmmm...if I were a full-on lesbian, I reckon I would be a soft butch cos I hate wearing feminine clothes...which I only reserve for special occassions. I'm most comfortable in a pair of pants and t-shirt. __________________ Til I hold my bub in my arms.

12-11-2003, 10:50 PM	#16 (permalink)
TweetyBird Happy Halloween Join Date: Dec 2003 Posts: 21,353	I started BI 2 yrs ago, I got confused what i am soft butch, or femme or butch?? so I admitted yalll n yall can read abt me.. I was so embarrassed that few my friends asked me "are u BI?" I wont answer this... Then later, i followed my heart what i am inside... I changed full femme last may of this yr and I started like to have strong butch gf! hehehehe!!! Some my friends asked me, is this true are u lesbo? I FINALLY say yea, cuz of I am not embarrassed anymore.. I am SO proud myself!!!! Last edited by TweetyBird; 12-11-2003 at 10:53 PM.

12-12-2003, 12:02 AM	#17 (permalink)
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08-14-2003, 12:43 AM	#3 (permalink)
javapride Java's Big Island Life! Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: hawaii Posts: 6,509	Fly, I agree with u but for some poeple who see them selves as they are i can understand it's annoyance of who thier role is hence some would say full butch, soft butch or femme, depends on thier style, Me im a strong butch have male skills and etc. i like doing the domanince roles. its just whats natural is fine with me, it depends on my feelings. and as well as the women u know outside we have the male feeling but when it comes to bed, I for one sometimes get all femmie and cuddle with my bed partner so it depends.

08-14-2003, 06:10 PM	#4 (permalink)
Oddball Wacky Oddball Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: Cleveland native now lives in New Jersey. Posts: 3,161	How about being crooked? hee hee. (No offense to any GBLT community and no flaming, ok).

08-14-2003, 07:05 PM	#6 (permalink)
javapride Java's Big Island Life! Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: hawaii Posts: 6,509	to the MAX ODDBALL ur DA BEST!!!!

08-16-2003, 05:22 PM	#9 (permalink)
deafdyke So NOT a Princess! Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Trebekistan Posts: 6,580	Me, I cannot STAND the whole butch/ femme thing. Why attach gender roles to loving someone? That's just really dumb.

08-21-2003, 05:10 PM	#12 (permalink)
Mizzou Where is my car ? Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: somewhere in Missouri Posts: 2,597	me, myself feel MALE inside but people look at me different. It is depend on my partner has view about me then I would accept who I am. Mostly, person I am is KIDDO toward to the bed... you better WATCH OUT! lol just joking!

12-09-2003, 03:55 AM	#15 (permalink)
Irish Devil Dog ~Taken by my mystery hun~ Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: Florida Posts: 1,464	I agree with most of you about labels.. Some people have asked me that question too.. For me I dont really care which femme or butch to be in relationship.. As long there is a good personalities come first. Myself am butch and have male feelings inside of me since I dont like dress up like femme... and i tend to hang out w/ male friends that we have same interest in.

12-12-2003, 12:27 PM	#20 (permalink)
javapride Java's Big Island Life! Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: hawaii Posts: 6,509	hey tweetybird \o NOW ur getting the hang of this hehehe and yep ur still beautiful to me no matter weather ur Femme or Butch ur still beautiful to me

12-12-2003, 10:49 PM	#21 (permalink)
TweetyBird Happy Halloween Join Date: Dec 2003 Posts: 21,353	hey javababe, that SO sweet of u say that.. smile.. to u!!!! hehehe... but i feel inside that i am more femme.. oh well... u know me! babe!

02-02-2004, 11:52 PM	#22 (permalink)
PeaceRainbowGal Registered User Join Date: May 2003 Posts: 106	Hey, I am full Femme but My gf is Butch.. I love her much..

02-03-2004, 01:27 PM	#23 (permalink)
DreamDeaf Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: In a messy studio Posts: 4,562	Femme/Butch It doesnt matter to me - I know I'm a femme but who cares? I don't. I don't label people, even when they label me...heh heh...but I do know I love my friends, no matter what they are! Be they butch, be they femme, be they cat people, be they dog people...and I could go yadda, yadda, all day...heh heh. Love, DD

02-03-2004, 03:30 PM	#24 (permalink)
Fly Free Just me Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: Wherever i want to be LOL Posts: 9,101	mommy!!!

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