Your choice, Derek.
What Katz4Life was trying to say is that committed relationships never were games. Dating is a process that you go through. It's a building foundation of what the both of you like, dislike, understand, don't understand, etc. It's the bridge that brings you two together.
If you're seriously contemplating a committed relationship with a girlfriend, it's better not to think of it as a game and level up up to Godlike status so that your girl will kneel, fawn over you, and worship you as her sex god. Granted, you may not have thought of this but I was giving a picture that does sound negative in an educational sense.
A committed relationship are never games. War games may be for boys and that's fine when you're in the military having to conduct those types of engagements to become familiar with military protocols, etc., but a committed relationship? Come on... The reason why girls do not like men is because of the games men play! Granted, dating may ensure light banter, witty repartee, or flirtation to a point and it's great. Girls love that. They love a guy who can listen, remark on what they talked about earlier, and notice the small things that girls may not have thought of but love to be noticed about. For instance, telling a girl, "Hey! Nice boobs! You got the perfect size!" is going to get you a hard smack, a disgusted look, or a scream "PERVERT!" in the middle of a mall. You need to not look at the most obvious body parts and start looking to what she has on her person. For instance, if you have never seen her carry a nice piece of bracelet and she recently bought it, why not ask her, "Hey! That's a nice bracelet you got there... I recall that you didn't have a bracelet before; did you buy it?" That can get her attention. Some things she wants to be noticed, some other things she doesn't. Not all women think the same, want to be noticed for the same things; you have to stand out from the crowd!
Mind games are a big major no-no. You can't toy with a girl and lie to her. Some men do this on a regular basis. Serial cheaters use this type of game to keep a girl "in line" when in fact she'll find out one way or another. Abusers also use this type of game too, most especially to keep a committed relationship under his iron fist. There was a news article a few years ago about a man who kept abusing his wife for years. She became so heavily dependent on him. One day, he came home drunk and started abusing her. She ended up bleeding and left for dead in the middle of the snow. Neighbors came around and finally paramedics took her to the hospital. She barely survived. She actually said to the police that she loved him, she refused to press charges against him. And this was going on for YEARS of her life and neighbors couldn't help her because the husband was aggressive, very much knowledgeable about laws and trespassing, etc. This type of mind game is so powerful it'd chill any good man and any sensible woman. Take a look at an article about UK sex slaves and how powerful it is for a man to coerce a girl to go with him, even when she's in high school:
Sex trafficking in the UK: one woman's horrific story of kidnap, rape, beatings and prostitution | UK news | The Observer
Derek, we're living in an age where sexual/physical abuse, trafficking, rapes, murders are occurring at a faster rate. The reason why more men are becoming more distrusted is not because of good men but because of past relationships with men they didn't trust, men who bought off sex slaves for services, abused their wives and had an infamous renown among other neighbors. The more it occurs, the more it frightens girls and women to want to trust men. It would be reasonable to accept why women are putting off men more, are asking that men be friends with them first, and that their distrust has to be understood from their point of view, not yours!
You need to understand that committed relationships TAKE TIME! You can't ask a girl to hurry up, bend over backwards, and accept you. For all she knows, you could be a man knocking on her door, kidnapping her and selling her to a strange nation for money; a rapist who masks himself as a worker:
Sue Weaver’s Story | Sue Weaver C.A.U.S.E. , a pedophile who preys on single women with children:
Annie: Sexual predators often prey on single mothers to get closer to children | Lubbock Online | Lubbock Avalanche-Journal , and more. Are you now understanding why women want committed relationships? A emotionally/financially stable guy with no dark secrets, skeletons in his closet?
Women have the right to say no! No means no! Period. Just because no girl would talk to you because they're rude doesn't mean it that way. Either she's not into you, playing hard to get with the words "Try again some other time", or just looking to see if you're masculine enough to make her want you more in her mind "Is this guy worth it?" Anyway, you need to start stepping up your part of the plate by trying to find a honest way to connect. Not a cheap shot with a pickup line, a flirty or dirty imagery that'll tick her off, or some creepy smile. Girls love men who are honest and if you're honest, they'll definitely hang out with you more and the more they get to know you more, the more 'husband material' you'll be for them.
I hope you understand why women want a committed relationship, not mind games. Dating is not a game but a process in which two parties go through together getting to know one another and eventually when love strikes, a relationship can blossom. It takes months, years to get to where you want to be and marriage may not be so far off your horizon.
Understand from their point of view. Not yours.
