why so many deaf single men?

katz4life said:
So committed relationship is like a playing game? WHoa....*smh* If I were your "ex-gf" You would receive a lot of harsh face smacks from me.
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Some people want are willing to understand me. Some of them just wants to be rude. Go figure. I don't want to have conversations with people who are rude.
 
You know you all pretty much aware of it that deaf population are very sparse, very small group of deaf people spreaded all over USA. If Deaf population are majority and hearing population are minority, then that will be a different story. Sadly it's other way around and I'm sure you may or dreamed that there's a perfect love one somewhere 2000 miles away. What are the chance of finding her? Almost nil. Because it's someone out there and it's too sparse. Even both are on SSI/SDDI, no job, regardless if they are intelligent or not, they maybe a perfect match. It's a needle in the haysack somewhere out there.

When I look for a woman, I look for deaf woman first but always ended up hearing woman cuz there are thousands of hearing women are with in 20 miles radius that are perfect match for me, you know? Finally I have to seek out much farther and if there are special deaf event, small or big one, I have to drive/fly out to be in that social events and that is the only chance to meet special woman. I finally met that special deaf woman who live 9 hours away from where I live..not easy and we have to compromise about moving in together. So, it worked out very nicely.
 
dereksbicycles said:
Some people want are willing to understand me. Some of them just wants to be rude. Go figure. I don't want to have conversations with people who are rude.
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you got it

just because we're doesnt mean we cant reason others motives or suss how others really treats us, but again at times, if we had more skills (somehow but we missed out on osmosis learning) we could encourage others to tolerate and come half way (often time we get mistakened as intolerant! rme)
 
Huscurian said:
Interesting, DeafTim.






DeafTim, I think the issue of a grown deaf man acting like a child is not the problem with dating and single deaf men. The problem is understanding the concept of Friends First, Boyfriend/Girlfriend Second! I have had a hard time too but I am learning as I go realizing that having more female friends and no girlfriend in sight is better than pursuing a girlfriend and no friends who are girls. The more friends who are girls, the more likely you are to get a girlfriend. Zero friends who are girls, zero chance.
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You're right as mail. I know all about it. I explained it how I grew up and where I went to schools. It was very tough for me b/c I didnt know anybody in my town where I grew up in. I knew names and that was it.

I dont have any sisters,either. If you have sister, your chance is higher to get a gf as well.
 
WOW there still are good guys in this world....

@Huscurian I knew there was something I liked about you. :ty: for showing these guys how t respond respectfully to a comment even if you disagree with it. I'm tired of the guys who think they have to disrespect me to get with me. For one thing nobody will be getting with me ever again. I'm looking for a stable lasting relationship with a guy who respect me as a human being and a woman and who will respect my 5 year old daughter as well. I may be 25 but I'm not interested in partying and "getting laid". So again I will say :ty: for giving us good girls hope, that there are still good guys in this world. MAY GOD BLESS AND KEEP YOU AND YOURS SAFE!!!! :wave:

****As for @DeafTim and @Grummer and @Kaliphornia you guys need to grow up and learn how to respect women, no good woman in her right mind would ever choose to date either of you. You 3 are part of the reason that women have lost hope in the male population. Its guys like who have hurt women like me our whole lives. I pray that you can see the error of your ways and become better men.

Huscurian said:
Interesting, DeafTim.

To sum it up, you think most deaf people are not intelligent enough to carry a cerebrally stimulating conversation? Not even pass off a good sense of humor? Or help make a girl relax, feel comfortable with things that she knows she can talk about?

To be honest, I think your assessment of intelligence is highly inaccurate. You're saying that most deaf people are naturally buffoons, inept at social conversations. While that may be true while they're children but as they grow up, they can develop such a clever, devious intelligence worthy of noting. Peering into their real brain does not matter, what matters is that you know the person.

Just tonight, I conversed with TONS of hearing girls. I hung out with another deaf man, an elderly person (formerly my client), and kicked it off with other girls who were working. I even made a girl at a register feel welcome, another special just because of a hi, and three waitresses who enjoyed our jokes. I may not be able to hit it off with them tonight or have them stalking me on Facebook trying to get me to add them so we can date RIGHT AWAYYYY! *sigh* I'm in loveee! Okay, not this way... In a fantasy reality, maybe; but life is not that way.

Dating is not something you kick, run over, or make right away. It takes months, years even, to get girls to feel comfortable, special, and in a way receptive to a man asking her out and immediately saying yes. Asking a girl out on the first day you know her is not only downright too fast, but it is creepy, bothersome, and she doesn't know you well enough.

Girls want to be friends first if possible. Granted, some girls will WANT to be more than just friends RIIIIGHT AWAY but they may not end up being the right match for you. Some will bark, some will not. Then again, just because a girl barks doesn't mean she does. She may be doing that because she thinks 1) you're ignoring her, 2) pissing her off, 3) really angry and venting, or 4) may be doing something that may help save your life or something and 5) whatever she'd be doing that I am not aware of...

DeafTim, I think the issue of a grown deaf man acting like a child is not the problem with dating and single deaf men. The problem is understanding the concept of Friends First, Boyfriend/Girlfriend Second! I have had a hard time too but I am learning as I go realizing that having more female friends and no girlfriend in sight is better than pursuing a girlfriend and no friends who are girls. The more friends who are girls, the more likely you are to get a girlfriend. Zero friends who are girls, zero chance.

Annnnddddd....



This is true. Learn it, live it, and appreciate the beauty of having many girls who are your friends. It's better this way. I love having more friends who are girls and I just know it's worth it. Instead of trying to be sexually desperate, trying to stick yourself in them, think of them as human beings first.

DeafTim, no wonder you're getting so frustrated and pissing off the majority of girls on AllDeaf.com. Maybe the problem's not them, it's you? Check the mirror and you might find it.



Gee, I'm in! Let me act like this and see if I can find a woman that's not quite as desperate as to get an a**hole like me in bed with her. Actually, I'm not that type of guy. Those types of relationships do not last, dude. It either ends up badly, worse, or to a bitter end. Because of these relationships, these girls end up either distrusting guys completely, copping out or becoming truly gay, and more.

If you really want a real, awesome, sweet, kind, caring, loving girl, she doesn't typically need a guy like that. She needs a strong, confident, hardworking, financially stable, and emotionally/mentally stable guy. No girl would want to date a wacko, creep, psycho, bum, you get the picture.

You really need a lot of work before meeting any girl who's decent, smart enough NOT to date any jaded, angry, frustrated, pissed off guy.



Not cool, Grummer. Not cool. Not only does your statement make you look bad, you could be looking at being single here on AllDeaf.com. Ever wonder if newcomers, who are girls, signing up and checking out your statement? Just remember that women network well enough that they'd pass off any reputation of anyone to any of their gal friends.

Cool off, come back, then present an argument that's coherent and not full of anger. You may have made a point or two but writing it in anger... That's something girls can pick up: the intuitive sense. Something we men can't compete with.

All in all, very interesting.
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Sweet_Candice86 said:
****As for @DeafTim and @Grummer and @Kaliphornia you guys need to grow up and learn how to respect women, no good woman in her right mind would ever choose to date either of you. You 3 are part of the reason that women have lost hope in the male population. Its guys like who have hurt women like me our whole lives. I pray that you can see the error of your ways and become better men.
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:beer:
 
Sweet_Candice86 said:
@Huscurian I knew there was something I liked about you. :ty: for showing these guys how t respond respectfully to a comment even if you disagree with it. I'm tired of the guys who think they have to disrespect me to get with me. For one thing nobody will be getting with me ever again. I'm looking for a stable lasting relationship with a guy who respect me as a human being and a woman and who will respect my 5 year old daughter as well. I may be 25 but I'm not interested in partying and "getting laid". So again I will say :ty: for giving us good girls hope, that there are still good guys in this world. MAY GOD BLESS AND KEEP YOU AND YOURS SAFE!!!! :wave:

****As for @DeafTim and @Grummer and @Kaliphornia you guys need to grow up and learn how to respect women, no good woman in her right mind would ever choose to date either of you. You 3 are part of the reason that women have lost hope in the male population. Its guys like who have hurt women like me our whole lives. I pray that you can see the error of your ways and become better men.
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:sure:
 
Dont worry Deaftim, she hasnt meet real men, only pussy asslicker pansy types LOL...
let her go with the fruitboy LMAO

Real chicks Digs Bad boys! not metromorons
 
metromorons is just a newer version of 'rich and available' willing to give you everything even if this means to 'play the obedient 19th century catholic husband'..and..they dress like fags...because city culture is influenced by fruits,,,just one look at the set of glasses can tell you alot...lmao
 
DeafTim said:
You're right as mail. I know all about it. I explained it how I grew up and where I went to schools. It was very tough for me b/c I didnt know anybody in my town where I grew up in. I knew names and that was it.

I dont have any sisters,either. If you have sister, your chance is higher to get a gf as well.
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Wow, quite the statistician you are, DeafTim! Got any proof that having siblings do increase the chances of having a girlfriend? Possibly by an officiated government study? From Cambridge? Princeton? Go on, offer me this proof.

DeafTim, I have had two sisters and have not had a girlfriend for the majority of my lifetime. Does a sweetheart in 3rd or 4th grade count? Probably not since it wasn't officiated and we didn't know what love really was at that age. I'm 29 years old so I would be 28 and 1/2 down the road single...

I have tried to ask a couple of girls out, successfully did, but bombed on my first dates. I also have tried to get to know one girl at a dance and later asked her to prom; she really really wanted to go with me but her mom prevented her from going because truthfully her mom was right. Her daughter does not know me very very well and our coming straight from Texas stuck in the middle of Nowhere, Montana isn't helping our 'budding' relationship. She left Montana a year after so I never saw her again. My lack of understanding in dating and how it works are pretty much most of what causes my failures to be able to cement a relationship.

I guess I have to say this: some deaf people are so amazing at connecting with other girls that they have no siblings, some others which have them do too; and others do so badly with or without their siblings. Your quote has effectively diminished your credibility on this thread because 1) You're not a qualified sociologist, 2) you're not endorsed nor officiated by the government to make a study, and 3) until you have proof, your quote means nothing but your own opinion.

It is true that deaf people lag behind when it comes to the dating arena. We learn a lot of it later on in life while hearing people surpass us in this area. It's the truth. So many deaf people can't date early because they are missing out the cognitive cues, clues, and our ability to be aware of what the opposite sex wants. We're not retarded, true; but our deafness is what retards our ability to learn things that we can't even remember in Kindergarten because 1) the deaf person in question were in a mainstream school, 2) the teacher spoke, never signed.

My sister can remember the cues of dating when she was in Kindergarten because she read about it, heard about it, and picked up the "subtlety" of those cues. We can't. We are visual, we see past the big picture sometimes and miss out the most crucial information. Just like a movie without captioning, a lot of "ad-libbing" dialogue, and nothing but our perception to try to make up the story as we go along.

For starters, you need to learn how to do better around girls. It's not the girls that's the problem. It's you. If you can't see the problems, I'll list them for you:

1) You talk about how you wanted a deaf girl but no kids. Granted, that's sexual lust but not all girls want to have sex and no kids. Those who do are women who are putting it off and realizing they're missing out on motherhood. Most women want kids because it gives them a deeper level, an intimate connection with their spouses, and naturally gives them that yearning they have since playing with dolls, wondering what is it like to have a boyfriend at a young age, what it's like to get married, what kind of dress does she want to get married in, etc. Women are mental in a good way about this and having sex with a man, who's deaf like her, but wants no kids... You'd be hard-pressed to find her wanting to stay in with you.
2) Your statements, very scientific, like the one you posted about having a greater chance of getting a girlfriend is through having siblings are absolutely very ridiculous. Seriously, DeafTim. Stop being the scientist! Try to think outside of the box and realize that just because we have no siblings doesn't mean we can't get a girlfriend. There are men who are motherless, fatherless, sibling-less who have had girlfriends, gotten married, and became happy!
3) Your arrogance and level of misogyny is what's making most women on AllDeaf.com very pissed off. They may either 1) think of leaving, 2) stay but hope for the best you stop acting like a child and start realizing that women are not the kind who desire to be "oppressed", "whipped", "beaten", or "sexual objects to be controlled" just to be proved that men are right, and 3) ignore you altogether with others, and chat with others as if you don't exist. They can play this one for very long and it won't be a game. It'll be a reality.

And if you read my past previous post about to understand girls better, I wrote this here:

Huscurian said:
The more friends who are girls, the more likely you are to get a girlfriend. Zero friends who are girls, zero chance.
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Not only that but there's more to it and under the surface that you need to learn how to appreciate. Consider dating an art form if you will and mastering it can help you but first, drop your arrogance, misogyny, and other forms of selfish pride... You're a work in progress if you put your first foot forward.

Sweet_Candice86 said:
@Huscurian I knew there was something I liked about you. :ty: for showing these guys how t respond respectfully to a comment even if you disagree with it. I'm tired of the guys who think they have to disrespect me to get with me. For one thing nobody will be getting with me ever again. I'm looking for a stable lasting relationship with a guy who respect me as a human being and a woman and who will respect my 5 year old daughter as well. I may be 25 but I'm not interested in partying and "getting laid". So again I will say :ty: for giving us good girls hope, that there are still good guys in this world. MAY GOD BLESS AND KEEP YOU AND YOURS SAFE!!!! :wave:

****As for @DeafTim and @Grummer and @Kaliphornia you guys need to grow up and learn how to respect women, no good woman in her right mind would ever choose to date either of you. You 3 are part of the reason that women have lost hope in the male population. Its guys like who have hurt women like me our whole lives. I pray that you can see the error of your ways and become better men.
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You're welcome, Candice. :)

Grummer said:
I DID wrote without any expletives...check your facts.
geez
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I did see your posts before. Despite the operative word wrote, you actually created one here:

Grummer said:
:gives::booty:
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I did say that you need to word your sentences diplomatically to able to diffuse the situation and ensure that you two are on equal footing. Such writing must have been sorely missed when you attended English for the first time in high school. Writing a truly diplomatic paragraph takes time, practice, and skill.

Grummer said:
Girls want to be friends first if possible. Granted, some girls will WANT to be more than just friends RIIIIGHT AWAY but they may not end up being the right match for you. Some will bark, some will not. Then again, just because a girl barks doesn't mean she does. She may be doing that because she thinks 1) you're ignoring her, 2) pissing her off, 3) really angry and venting, or 4) may be doing something that may help save your life or something and 5) whatever she'd be doing that I am not aware of...

<< or just a bitch

just because you 'dated' her doesnt mean you can't say she's a bitch...(but often time they will say it once fucked, gave baby and started milking $$ out of you then cancel your visiting rights...in other words way way too late...
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Interesting, Grummer. It's all you right now. You can say that a girl is a "bitch" but socially, it is considered unacceptable if you want a girlfriend. There are rules we've already developed at breaking light-speed that once cemented, you need to know what rules to follow, what not to follow. Calling a girl a bitch while dating is not very good on her terms unless she's the one who's 'using you' to get what she wants and will sleep around with other guys without your "express permission" because she does not give a care about you at all.

You know, Grummer, the statement you made about women who love hearing it while having sex, producing children, then leeching the fathers out of their $$$.... It proves that you are more jaded than you'll ever be. The bitterness, malice, and anger you'll have will not give you the girl you desire so much and need right now, most especially one who will not leave you, milk you out of your $$$ but want your love. The 'good girls' usually leave out the ones who are mean, jaded, bitter and you're part of the rejected genepool. To be honest, I think it'll happen to you someday because your perception of what women are nowadays are simply striking and something girls will avoid. And let's not forget, their intuition. They can smell your jadedness, bitterness miles away and will run from you.
 
dereksbicycles said:
Some people want are willing to understand me. Some of them just wants to be rude. Go figure. I don't want to have conversations with people who are rude.
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Your choice, Derek.

What Katz4Life was trying to say is that committed relationships never were games. Dating is a process that you go through. It's a building foundation of what the both of you like, dislike, understand, don't understand, etc. It's the bridge that brings you two together.

If you're seriously contemplating a committed relationship with a girlfriend, it's better not to think of it as a game and level up up to Godlike status so that your girl will kneel, fawn over you, and worship you as her sex god. Granted, you may not have thought of this but I was giving a picture that does sound negative in an educational sense.

A committed relationship are never games. War games may be for boys and that's fine when you're in the military having to conduct those types of engagements to become familiar with military protocols, etc., but a committed relationship? Come on... The reason why girls do not like men is because of the games men play! Granted, dating may ensure light banter, witty repartee, or flirtation to a point and it's great. Girls love that. They love a guy who can listen, remark on what they talked about earlier, and notice the small things that girls may not have thought of but love to be noticed about. For instance, telling a girl, "Hey! Nice boobs! You got the perfect size!" is going to get you a hard smack, a disgusted look, or a scream "PERVERT!" in the middle of a mall. You need to not look at the most obvious body parts and start looking to what she has on her person. For instance, if you have never seen her carry a nice piece of bracelet and she recently bought it, why not ask her, "Hey! That's a nice bracelet you got there... I recall that you didn't have a bracelet before; did you buy it?" That can get her attention. Some things she wants to be noticed, some other things she doesn't. Not all women think the same, want to be noticed for the same things; you have to stand out from the crowd!

Mind games are a big major no-no. You can't toy with a girl and lie to her. Some men do this on a regular basis. Serial cheaters use this type of game to keep a girl "in line" when in fact she'll find out one way or another. Abusers also use this type of game too, most especially to keep a committed relationship under his iron fist. There was a news article a few years ago about a man who kept abusing his wife for years. She became so heavily dependent on him. One day, he came home drunk and started abusing her. She ended up bleeding and left for dead in the middle of the snow. Neighbors came around and finally paramedics took her to the hospital. She barely survived. She actually said to the police that she loved him, she refused to press charges against him. And this was going on for YEARS of her life and neighbors couldn't help her because the husband was aggressive, very much knowledgeable about laws and trespassing, etc. This type of mind game is so powerful it'd chill any good man and any sensible woman. Take a look at an article about UK sex slaves and how powerful it is for a man to coerce a girl to go with him, even when she's in high school: Sex trafficking in the UK: one woman's horrific story of kidnap, rape, beatings and prostitution | UK news | The Observer

Derek, we're living in an age where sexual/physical abuse, trafficking, rapes, murders are occurring at a faster rate. The reason why more men are becoming more distrusted is not because of good men but because of past relationships with men they didn't trust, men who bought off sex slaves for services, abused their wives and had an infamous renown among other neighbors. The more it occurs, the more it frightens girls and women to want to trust men. It would be reasonable to accept why women are putting off men more, are asking that men be friends with them first, and that their distrust has to be understood from their point of view, not yours!

You need to understand that committed relationships TAKE TIME! You can't ask a girl to hurry up, bend over backwards, and accept you. For all she knows, you could be a man knocking on her door, kidnapping her and selling her to a strange nation for money; a rapist who masks himself as a worker: Sue Weaver’s Story | Sue Weaver C.A.U.S.E. , a pedophile who preys on single women with children: Annie: Sexual predators often prey on single mothers to get closer to children | Lubbock Online | Lubbock Avalanche-Journal , and more. Are you now understanding why women want committed relationships? A emotionally/financially stable guy with no dark secrets, skeletons in his closet?

Women have the right to say no! No means no! Period. Just because no girl would talk to you because they're rude doesn't mean it that way. Either she's not into you, playing hard to get with the words "Try again some other time", or just looking to see if you're masculine enough to make her want you more in her mind "Is this guy worth it?" Anyway, you need to start stepping up your part of the plate by trying to find a honest way to connect. Not a cheap shot with a pickup line, a flirty or dirty imagery that'll tick her off, or some creepy smile. Girls love men who are honest and if you're honest, they'll definitely hang out with you more and the more they get to know you more, the more 'husband material' you'll be for them.

I hope you understand why women want a committed relationship, not mind games. Dating is not a game but a process in which two parties go through together getting to know one another and eventually when love strikes, a relationship can blossom. It takes months, years to get to where you want to be and marriage may not be so far off your horizon.

Understand from their point of view. Not yours.
 
jillio said:
Good post. In general, people are getting married and starting families at later ages than in the past. There are many reasons for that.
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And more women are deciding not have kids. Women are more independent today, they have a job their own car and home, they do not need a man to take care of them. They will have date but do not want to be ties down. I bet is not only deaf men that are single.
 
whatdidyousay! said:
And more women are deciding not have kids. Women are more independent today, they have a job their own car and home, they do not need a man to take care of them. They will have date but do not want to be ties down. I bet is not only deaf men that are single.
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Huscurian said:
You know, Grummer, the statement you made about women who love hearing it while having sex, producing children, then leeching the fathers out of their $$$.... It proves that you are more jaded than you'll ever be. The bitterness, malice, and anger you'll have will not give you the girl you desire so much and need right now, most especially one who will not leave you, milk you out of your $$$ but want your love. The 'good girls' usually leave out the ones who are mean, jaded, bitter and you're part of the rejected genepool. To be honest, I think it'll happen to you someday because your perception of what women are nowadays are simply striking and something girls will avoid. And let's not forget, their intuition. They can smell your jadedness, bitterness miles away and will run from you.
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you haven't got a CLUE about me, or my life or ANything dont ever assume
you are just posting this to make yourself look cute, girls will suss YOU out too trust me they dont like bullshitters
whats more, in real life, i have 3 women chasing me, its hard to keep a straight line, i didnt even have sex with any of them yet for fear of jumping on the wrong one, (one of them is not attractive in my taste, other one is OK other one is hot but she's boring and doesnt know anything) so now dont tell me i cant attract - i didnt even need to try...AND i dont use them...im trying to suss who to flick off as not trustworthy, thats not going to 'take years' as the years is Not available i need to do it quick...id be honest here, I dont want any of them, none of them meets my standards or we're not that compatiable besides i have too much work to do at the moment
 
genepool?! LOL there's another term you fail to understand - social classes. It occurs regardless of 'genepool' that you speak of So ever wonder why ugly people gets it? it because they have other means = money or education (with money)... stop being a ass
 
I never understand double standards here, but whatever. :| Again, what do she mean "many seem oppressed likely for good reason" in her quote? I fail to see how it is a "good" reason. Well, I probably wouldn't complain if it is "many seem oppressed likely for various reasons", or something...
 
Grummer said:
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you haven't got a CLUE about me, or my life or ANything dont ever assume
you are just posting this to make yourself look cute, girls will suss YOU out too trust me they dont like bullshitters
whats more, in real life, i have 3 women chasing me, its hard to keep a straight line, i didnt even have sex with any of them yet for fear of jumping on the wrong one, (one of them is not attractive in my taste, other one is OK other one is hot but she's boring and doesnt know anything) so now dont tell me i cant attract - i didnt even need to try...AND i dont use them...im trying to suss who to flick off as not trustworthy, thats not going to 'take years' as the years is Not available i need to do it quick...id be honest here, I dont want any of them, none of them meets my standards or we're not that compatiable besides i have too much work to do at the moment
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I am posting what I believe what I see, Grummer. If you believe that I was posting to be cute, try to attract all the girls here on AllDeaf.com, I'm sorry you think this way. I wasn't. I wrote out of my heart what I believed, not what I wanted them to hear.

If the girls suss me out for being a bullshitter, Grummer; perhaps they haven't decided yet who I really am yet. If they do suss me out, that's their choice and decision. I have no anger, bitterness, or malice to lash out, start making crazy statements like you do from time to time. Actually, I prefer that girls make up their own mind. If I'm a bullshitter to them, kudos. If I'm not, kudos.

You know, from what you wrote about those girls that are not up to your standards? That's pretty lame. You're putting girls in specific classifications that you're EITHER chasing the Holy Grail of all Women, a mythic Unicorn (which only exist for those who deserve it), or just someone you just want in your life without honorable needs or intentions.

Like I said, you need to make friends first with all girls. Those three girls you just listed? The one that wasn't attractive, the other that was okay, the one that was hot but doesn't know anything? I'd take them all and become their friends first. All the more to them to know who I am and the more for me to know who they are and treat them like human beings. Your VERY OWN WORDS are actually sounding like you treat them a part of cattles that you split, align, and put into their pastures.

Let me ask you a question. Even if they aren't compatible, haven't you tried to be their friend? Possibly give them the benefits of the doubt? Take one out on a date? You'll never know what works, what doesn't UNTIL you take the risk!

Above all, Grummer, I think I can peg you for the type who have a lot of deep wounding issues to resolve. You probably have looked back at the past and wished for what it was, that it'll never be. Your anger, bitterness, your disregard for respect for women on this forum clearly indicates rebellion and you definitely are on a destructive roll that you literally don't care.

If anything, my mom told me that anger is fear. I didn't realize it until she told me. I was like, "Ooh! So that's why I kept having those problems! That's why I was angry." I started examining my past, reflected on what I did, and realized that I had fear in my life. There are people who are afraid of the unknown and negative emotions can often cause fear.

You're afraid of letting go your anger. You're afraid of finding the one person in your life that if you do not find her in all of the women in this world, how can your life be the way you wanted?

Am I getting warmer? Be honest. Do not deny. I may not know who you are but your behaviorism shows signs of rebellion, anger, fear, all the classic signs of those who have really seriously deep issues in this life. Rebecca figured you out already long before you hit fruit boy, metromoron, the glass is full, etc. More will figure you out as you go along.

As for being and acting intolerant, there's a BIG BIG difference. Being intolerant is like being inconsiderate. So is acting intolerant. In order to be perceived as nice, kind, compassionate, caring, drop the intolerant act. You need to walk the walk, talk the talk before others notice! Otherwise you're just one fluke.

So... even if I said it's up to those girls who decide who I am: a bullshitter or not. Know what that makes me? A person who doesn't care about what other people think because it matters what I wrote from my heart, I know how to write from it. My opinion here is only floating on the internet, out of the billionths of opinions that already are. We are individuals with beliefs, troubles, and more and not one opinion, not even mine, can force anyone to change. Everyone has the right to either dismiss, accept, or re-evaluate then critique my opinion. That's what we call debating.
 
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