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I know of this situation regarding a 10 year old who is profoundly deaf in both ears. She was exposed to speech therapy as a baby/toddler..didnt work so she is fluent in ASL. Literacy skills are fine. She has a great concept of the world around her and learns new concepts easily. Very happy and social with her friends both deaf and hearing.
Ok..for some reason, her parents decided to get her a CI so she is scheduled to get one soon. At first, she was excited until she saw the pics of the actual surgery and understood that she will need intensive speech therapy afterwards. She has been begging her parents about not getting one and been really crying a lot about it. She begged us deaf adults to convince her parents to cancel it. It seems she doesnt want it but the parents, like many of the parents here, say it is their decision. Now, I really think that is wrong cuz in the 10 years, they have never really bothered to learn more than a few basic signs and keep saying they are too busy and dont have time. This girl is very very bright and her knowledge is so advanced considering she is from a hearing family and having been language deprived in the first few years of her life due to AVT therapy. Once she was placed in an ASL program, she just took off. It is apparent that she is happy with who she is so I think it is selfish of the parents to say that they are doing it because they want her to learn to speak so they can communicate with her. I was really disgusted by that..I mean, why now? If she is happy as she is, leave it! That's my opinion.
If a child says no, is it her right or the parents' rights to their decisions?
This is not a statement to bash other parents here but a new situation and an interesting one that I have never thought of when debating about "Letting the Child Decide"
Ok..for some reason, her parents decided to get her a CI so she is scheduled to get one soon. At first, she was excited until she saw the pics of the actual surgery and understood that she will need intensive speech therapy afterwards. She has been begging her parents about not getting one and been really crying a lot about it. She begged us deaf adults to convince her parents to cancel it. It seems she doesnt want it but the parents, like many of the parents here, say it is their decision. Now, I really think that is wrong cuz in the 10 years, they have never really bothered to learn more than a few basic signs and keep saying they are too busy and dont have time. This girl is very very bright and her knowledge is so advanced considering she is from a hearing family and having been language deprived in the first few years of her life due to AVT therapy. Once she was placed in an ASL program, she just took off. It is apparent that she is happy with who she is so I think it is selfish of the parents to say that they are doing it because they want her to learn to speak so they can communicate with her. I was really disgusted by that..I mean, why now? If she is happy as she is, leave it! That's my opinion.
If a child says no, is it her right or the parents' rights to their decisions?
This is not a statement to bash other parents here but a new situation and an interesting one that I have never thought of when debating about "Letting the Child Decide"