1) You are lucky that your husband is trying to accommodate you, even if it is not working.yes, late deaf so trying to work out what's best. Just wondering what most people do that works.
2) You are pretty much doing what we all have to do....sit there and wait for it to be over. You can only try by speaking one-on-one, but if you can't read lips well, pull one person at a time into a quiet area. I've done that, and hearing people appreciate it when you actually make an effort to listen to them.
We don't host parties larger than 5 hearing-only people, period. Anything larger than 5 is usually a mixture of deaf & hearing or all deaf.
If we are invited to large hearing-only parties, we usually have a good excuse not to go....however, we must attend family events, which doesn't happen often.