When one marries, you marry the family for better or for worse. Sometimes the families are warm and welcoming and sometimes they pretend to be warm welcoming. My spouse was of retirement age when we married. I didn't learn about the family secret. Everyone pretended that everything was wonderful.
Six individuals with four masters degree, and two bachelor degrees could not forgive the sibling who had a lifelong stutter. These siblings went to church twice a week for 70 years and never learned a thing about Christ or HIS message to the world.
I'm not religious; I've never have been, but I have read several books on world religions, history of religion, and the lost Scriptures. I've read the religious books of a few denominations, and I've been to services of a few.
I am not opposed to religion, or to what others believe. The last thing my spouse ever said was sad, "My family never liked me. My spouse was right.