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<blockquote data-quote="Destiny's Sister" data-source="post: 2507400" data-attributes="member: 82472"><p>I say 'pardon?' Or 'what did you say?' probably 50 times a day.&nbsp; I think I just eventually get tired of saying it and just start guessing. Sometimes I feel as if the other person is on the verge of saying, &quot;Oh,&nbsp; never mind!&quot; and that's just about the worst, most triggering, rejecting, insulting and insensitive phrase a person could say to me.&nbsp; No doubt I have a tendency to try to avoid being told that.&nbsp; I didn't realize how much I've been guessing lately.&nbsp; I've been trying to become much more aware when I'm doing it because it has become so automatic.&nbsp; Needless to say, it causes a lot of miscommunication.&nbsp; My guesses tend to be consistent with the context...so if a kid has been giving me attitude, my brain is going to hear the words that most closely match that 'attitude'.&nbsp; If they were actually apologizing but think I hear an insult instead, well you can see how well that's going to work out.&nbsp; I also think my ability to hear and make sense of words takes a nosedive when I'm angry or threatened.</p></blockquote><p></p>

[QUOTE="Destiny's Sister, post: 2507400, member: 82472"] I say 'pardon?' Or 'what did you say?' probably 50 times a day. I think I just eventually get tired of saying it and just start guessing. Sometimes I feel as if the other person is on the verge of saying, "Oh, never mind!" and that's just about the worst, most triggering, rejecting, insulting and insensitive phrase a person could say to me. No doubt I have a tendency to try to avoid being told that. I didn't realize how much I've been guessing lately. I've been trying to become much more aware when I'm doing it because it has become so automatic. Needless to say, it causes a lot of miscommunication. My guesses tend to be consistent with the context...so if a kid has been giving me attitude, my brain is going to hear the words that most closely match that 'attitude'. If they were actually apologizing but think I hear an insult instead, well you can see how well that's going to work out. I also think my ability to hear and make sense of words takes a nosedive when I'm angry or threatened. [/QUOTE]

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