Hearing loss Pet Peeves!

Danders

New Member
I won't fake hearing anything if I can help it.... too much stuff goes missed and then you really have a problem on your hands. If it's someone you really can't understand then make them write it down.

Part of the reason why I hate the phone... I don't trust translators or videophone interpeters to get the message across. I much prefer using email or text!
 

stephaniep

Active Member
Thank you for the replies. You've all been helpful. I think before I get anything I will have to research it first, but for now, getting ideas is good.

There is so much I have to learn and accept. Not doing good with the accepting just yet? My husband and I went to the dentist yesterday. I struggled to hear him clearly even with my hearing aids, but I thought I did okay, I may not have picked up everything he said, but I thought it was good enough. I was taken first and then my husband was seen. When I finished I sat in the waiting room and waited for him to finish. When he came out, I waited for him to get his jacket and the dentist came up to him and handed him an appointment slip. . I figured ha ha he's got a cavity. My husband turns and hands me the appointment slip for some further dental work next week. I was only a few steps away from where the dentist was standing, couldn't he have handed it to me, hello, I'm here! Once again, I felt like I didn't exist. I felt like the invisible woman. While I'm grateful for my husband's help, how do I take back control over my life and speak for myself in these situations? My husband is only suppose to step in when I fail to communicate? Come to think of it, that was a rude thing for the dentist to do! I've always been in control of my life and affairs and now it seems I've lost that? Well, that's my Pet Peeve for today.
 

Jane B.

Well-Known Member
Thank you for the replies. You've all been helpful. I think before I get anything I will have to research it first, but for now, getting ideas is good.

There is so much I have to learn and accept. Not doing good with the accepting just yet? My husband and I went to the dentist yesterday. I struggled to hear him clearly even with my hearing aids, but I thought I did okay, I may not have picked up everything he said, but I thought it was good enough. I was taken first and then my husband was seen. When I finished I sat in the waiting room and waited for him to finish. When he came out, I waited for him to get his jacket and the dentist came up to him and handed him an appointment slip. . I figured ha ha he's got a cavity. My husband turns and hands me the appointment slip for some further dental work next week. I was only a few steps away from where the dentist was standing, couldn't he have handed it to me, hello, I'm here! Once again, I felt like I didn't exist. I felt like the invisible woman. While I'm grateful for my husband's help, how do I take back control over my life and speak for myself in these situations? My husband is only suppose to step in when I fail to communicate? Come to think of it, that was a rude thing for the dentist to do! I've always been in control of my life and affairs and now it seems I've lost that? Well, that's my Pet Peeve for today.

You say something about it when it happens. Did you say anything about how hurt you were because of what the dentist did? There may have been simply the fact that you husband was the first one of you seen as the dentist came out.

I would also be screaming about why they made and appointment and not just told you that you needed more work done. They have no way of knowing what you already have coming up next week or any given date. In fact I lost a doctor over this issue years ago. I greatly objected to them making an appointment and not just giving a referral and he wouldn't see me again because of the way I objected to what they did.
 

sammiller525

New Member
I can’t tell you how many times I have faked understanding people. I usually just nod and smile and I have no idea what was said. I try to read their body language. It’s when they look at me quizzically and don’t go away that I have to say, “ok? What? Say it again?” I’m sure I have left people scratching their heads. :)
Me too. Some get mad. I don’t give a fuck. Be mad. I’m deaf. Can they change it? Can i? Then why be mad? Be efficient with communication.. i swear, hearies are so slow sometimes
 

stephaniep

Active Member
No, I usually sit there and take it. Then my husband hears all the venting when we get home? I never was much of a potty mouth, but since my hearing worsened even I let out a few F-words. It's just not me. After I say it, it surprises me, then I feel guilt and ask what is happening to me, it sure is changing me? Well sammiller, the hearing swear for all kind of reasons, so we should fit right in, except when they swear at us we won't hear, unless we look at them and know how to lip read? .Well, then in return we can always use a sign language they'll understand...Lol...it's a joke.
 

mypjpants

Member
A lot of times I have to fake it with my boyfriend. My hearing isn't too far gone so I can catch a lot of what he says just because he has a very deep voice, but he likes to call me on his breaks and talk to me and I just can't understand anything. I've tried to explain to him that I don't like calls but he's a little oblivious and doesn't realise he's not really talking to me when he calls me, it's just me faking it whenever I hear him speak.
 

stephaniep

Active Member
Do you have volume control on your phone, maybe if your hearing loss is mild, you might want to try to turn the volume up, and hopefully you'll be able to hear him? I have one of the volume controls on mine, and for the longest time, I was still able to take calls when I turned it up? Now I have to use the volume control and put myself on speaker and still can't hear properly, so for the most part, I have quit using the phone. I've put myself into too many embarrassing situations to continue. I thought I received a call from the Drug Store about my RX, well here I am giving her all my personal information assuming she was asking for it, after bluffing my way through that call, I find out it was
H & R block Tax Professionals? Funny she was going along with it, maybe because I wouldn't let her get in an word edgewise. Then there was the doctors calls, who were calling me about some medical urgency, and I would bluff that too. I would hang up rudely on friends , thinking it was soliciting calls.... Finally figured out, it 's best for them to leave a message then my husband can try to drill it into me later as to who it was and what they wanted? So much for staying independent..
 
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stephaniep

Active Member
Pet Peeve, no longer being able to hear some of the tones in music,. Because of it, the music kind of died when my hearing loss worsened, I tried ear buds, headphones, total silence, Turning up speakers often don't help, the singer screech their sound, no longer able to hear it clearly, and it sounds like the music and the singer is missing notes? To me they sound off tune but I know they are not? .If someone played my classics and asked me to identify the vocalist, I wouldn't even be able to do that anymore because the song sounds so different? ? Anyone find that? I went through some of the classics like David Bowie and Queen,, Celine Dion, Tina, Turner, Bonjovi, my favorites, although there was one song out of them all, that I could still hear very close to normal was Prince's Purple Rain. For me that song had all the right tones in it, maybe not the higher pitches of the song, but boy was it nice to relate to music again. The rest of my classics are in my head, and maybe one day, there will be a gadget of some sort that will allow me to hear music again. the way it's supposed to sound. Was thinking it could be caused by the Oticons, before I had Sharkey HA's and they gave me a more natural sound.




























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mypjpants

Member
Do you have volume control on your phone, maybe if your hearing loss is mild, you might want to try to turn the volume up, and hopefully you'll be able to hear him? I have one of the volume controls on mine, and for the longest time, I was still able to take calls when I turned it up? Now I have to use the volume control and put myself on speaker and still can't hear properly, so for the most part, I have quit using the phone. I've put myself into too many embarrassing situations to continue. I thought I received a call from the Drug Store about my RX, well here I am giving her all my personal information assuming she was asking for it, after bluffing my way through that call, I find out it was
H & R block Tax Professionals? Funny she was going along with it, maybe because I wouldn't let her get in an word edgewise. Then there was the doctors calls, who were calling me about some medical urgency, and I would bluff that too. I would hang up rudely on friends , thinking it was soliciting calls.... Finally figured out, it 's best for them to leave a message then my husband can try to drill it into me later as to who it was and what they wanted? So much for staying independent..
I do have volume on my phone but I still can't understand him because of the white noise that always comes with phone calls. I once faked a whole conversation with him because at the beginning all I could do was ask him to repeat himself over and over. I like the calls though because even though I can't really talk to him, I do miss his voice and it's nice to hear even when hes not there.
 

Valorrian

Active Member
Do you have volume control on your phone, maybe if your hearing loss is mild, you might want to try to turn the volume up, and hopefully you'll be able to hear him? I have one of the volume controls on mine, and for the longest time, I was still able to take calls when I turned it up? Now I have to use the volume control and put myself on speaker and still can't hear properly, so for the most part, I have quit using the phone. I've put myself into too many embarrassing situations to continue. I thought I received a call from the Drug Store about my RX, well here I am giving her all my personal information assuming she was asking for it, after bluffing my way through that call, I find out it was
H & R block Tax Professionals? Funny she was going along with it, maybe because I wouldn't let her get in an word edgewise. Then there was the doctors calls, who were calling me about some medical urgency, and I would bluff that too. I would hang up rudely on friends , thinking it was soliciting calls.... Finally figured out, it 's best for them to leave a message then my husband can try to drill it into me later as to who it was and what they wanted? So much for staying independent..

Get Captioncall. It will help you on the phone and it's free. Your audiologist can send in the paper work. That is what they did for me. It's a phone for your home (not cell). The phone is free and caption call comes in and sets up everything for you. It was very easy and the lady that came was really nice. It will give you freedom again to use the phone. It also has an answering machine built in.

http://captioncallphone.com/
 

stephaniep

Active Member
Just recently my husband bought me a used Apple Iphone for a try out, to see if it would help me, and I got a plan from Telus but it's only Talk and Text. LOL, my first cell phone. I have no data with it, and don't even use the phone part because I hear nothing at all even with my hearing Aids, but the text feature is coming in handy, for which I am grateful for.
 

stephaniep

Active Member
Today was a little upsetting. Got a call from the doctors office and I didn't dare pick it up, so let the machine grab it. Well sad to say the receptionist wasn't very understandable. It's hard to make her out, so I will be lucky if my husband can.? These people were asked more than once not to phone, but to send information through email or text. They aren't listening at all?
 

Jane B.

Well-Known Member
Just recently my husband bought me a used Apple Iphone for a try out, to see if it would help me, and I got a plan from Telus but it's only Talk and Text. LOL, my first cell phone. I have no data with it, and don't even use the phone part because I hear nothing at all even with my hearing Aids, but the text feature is coming in handy, for which I am grateful for.

I had some suggestions until I looked up Telus and discovered you are in Canada so suggestions for services in the US would not work.
 
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