What I want is some way of bridging the gap between my hearing friends and me, and making them understand my problems that I may have.
You just want people to show more consideration. That doesn't mean being a carer or being 'on-call' when they're with you, it just means being sensitive to your needs.
They already hang out with you but you might need to spell it out: exactly what issues you're having with them right now, and what they'd need to remember to help out, because they might not understand or realize right now, so used are they to your boyfriend handling 'that'.
Ask him, too... it will help his current frustration you're working on this together to remove this thing that bothers the both of you, and he might have some suggestions of things you weren't aware of.