You are right.....take deaf away, Deaf culture, and what's left is just him the individual person. He was player, and I didn't see it until now. I was sooo focused on the trying to work through the communication barrier, I thought his behavior was due to lack of trust of hearing people, not because he was just taking advantage of me....So, there are good and bad deaf; good and bad hearing people. We just need to trust what our gut is saying. It's usually accurate.