What if your child was in a relationship with someone who is controlling or abusing your child and your child refused to leave that relationship because she/he loves this person so much to leave them, what will you do as a parents?...
I would suggest him to leave and move in with me if he has no where else to go and call the police on that woman and have my son press charge against her.
I will go ahead and press charge against her, Why?? I am not trying to upset my son but to protect him because we would never know what that woman would do to him.
I wouldn't live with that if anything bad happens to my son.
Raven said:The problem is, even if you "suggest" to him to leave her and move in, he'll take your act as hostile towards his time of "love". It's easier to say that you would go call the police and have your son press charge against her, but more often than never, he won't.
I concede, we will never know what someone could do to our children. The problem is, the charge might not be uphold because it will require a testimony from the abusee and you will need evidence of such abuse (evidence for verbal abuse is harder to obtain than physical abuse). It also depends on the caseload in the course, it's possible that your case will never be heard for a long time or it might get cleared by the police based on insufficent evidence.
Maybe so, but would you be able to live with yourself if your son become disgusted with your act of vigilant in the name of motherly love? Disgusted to the point where he'll never tell you anything anymore or have you in his life at all?
Consider this situation, your son got infurtiated with you to the point where he completely segegrated himself from your life and refuses to have any contact with you, while at the same time maintaining his relationship with the abuser.
In conclusion, I would strongly advise against taking the aggressive method as you have stated and be more passive about the situation. You are not the immediate party, you are the third party. If anything, you should suggest relationship counselling or allow your son to realize the situation he is in.
ps: as a mother, you would feel obligated to disagree with me. I understand, but remember... add s to mother and you get smother.
Cheri said:How would you know he won't press charge, I have seen it done before.
You think I don't know that I would need evidence Do you see "stupid" written on my forehead?
Are you always this negative? Beside that is far from the truth, I bet you never watched true stories movies before either huh? Maybe you should and you'll be surprised.
Another negative comment again coming from you? Why in the world would a son refuse to have any contact with his mother, when she is only looking out for him. That makes no sense at all to me.
I wouldn't call myself "third party" more likey being called his mother, and trying to save his life.
Yep you are correct I do fully disagree with you.
^Angel^ said:LOL @ Cheri and Malfoyish, you girls are funni, but I like what you guys said !....
^Angel^ said:Sweetie,
I do feel the same way as you do and that's exactly what I would do too , it funni cause you just made me laugh seriously!!...I like ya girl!
^Angel^ said:What if your child was in a relationship with someone who is controlling or abusing your child and your child refused to leave that relationship because she/he loves this person so much to leave them, what will you do as a parents?...
Liebling:-))) said:If there're physical/volience abuse: I would go to have a talk with abuser's parents first. If those situation to solve is not work then go to police........
Cheri said:Raven,
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