My mom and dad were divorce when my sister and I were little, and my dad spend all his hours working a lot and overtime and he never got to spend time with me, so my mom took care of me and my sister. They went to court, and divorce was final, and my mom fought fought fought to get the full custody of me and my sister, cause my dad wanted to keep me and my sister. Now I get the point, who is going to watch us while my dad work 12 hours. Who is going to pick me up from school? Who is going to fix dinner? Think about.
My mom won the full custody of me and my sister, and Judge ordered him to pay child support every month (In WV law - $400 dollar for each child - that is $800 for 2 kids). $800 dollars will help my mom to buy foods, new clothes, and doctor's fee and school's meals. Two months after the divorce hearing and child custody, my dad stopped paying child support and my mom won't let us to see him unless he pay the child support. If he still pay child support, my mom will let us to see him. Obviously, he only paid 3 times and that is all. I was mad at him, and I didn't wanted to see him, and my sister didn't want to see him either, and we haven't see him for 12 years.
My sister and I saw him when I was 18 years old and my sister was 17 and I asked him if he can help me to pay for college, and my dad said, "No, it cost too much money, and I am not paying for college, get a job." I told him, "WTF! You never pay child support on us and you owe my mom a lot of money". My dad was ike, "Who care, your mom was a greedy, and asking for money." My sister said, "She get your money to help us to be fed, to have nice clothes, etc)". He didn't believe that. So I told him, "Fine, if you don't pay my mom for all what she did to us, and if you don't want to help me pay for college, 1st car, like any father would do for their daughters, I am leaving you for good". I think it broke his heart, cause my sister and I were pissed at him so bad, and we were hoping that he would help my mom to take care of us. We realized that we don't need him, and we had a great stepdad who are still like a father to us, he married my mom, he helped my mom, he brought us our 1st car, he paid for my college and my sister's college.
I cannot wait to see my real dad in the jail for not paying child support and he STILL owe my mom $800 X 13 years = $10,400.
My sister and I have no contact with him, and we are estranged from him. I remember my mom calling him from hospital room when I was in the hospital for illness, and he never bother to call, send flower or card or visit. What kind of father is like that? My stepdad was there for me, he was there to watch me play, he was there, he gave me away when I got married, and so on. 2 years ago, when I was in the hospital when I had my son Kyler, and I was in the room, and watched my mom called my real dad about Kyler's being born, and he never say anything, he never send me nothing, or anything. I was like, "WTF!"
Now my real father is a deadbeat and he owe a lot of money on child support. That is the law in WV.
IT IS NOT FAIR FOR MY MOTHER TO RAISE 2 KIDS ALL BY HERSELF WITHOUT ANY CHILD SUPPORT...
And that is the same thing for other member here (DeafScuba), it is not FAIR for him to raise his son without any child support. He needs help from his child's mother to pay child support so his son can have new pajamas, new clothes, daycare, etc.