Autism and Puberty

Jolie77

Jolie77

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So, my son is about to turn 12 in few weeks. He is going through some changes that involves puberty.

As of lately, He has started to become curious with the opposite sex, especially with adult females by trying to grab their shirts to see if they have bras on. I have tried to explain to him countless of times that it is not appropriate. He doesn't have the concept of understanding that kind of behavior is not appropriate. Usually, I would say "It's private (signing secret) and wrong." He kinds of gets that but he would go back to repeat the same behavior.

He isn't a danger to anyone or to himself though. I know there's all sorts of various tips related to this subject on the internet, but, however, I would like to see if there's any other tips or experiences that maybe any one of you have with this to help me get a better idea how I can work this out with my son.

It'd be greatly appreciated.
 
Let him? It's the perfectly natural thing for men to do.

Just kidding. I have no clue, so I'll just watch over this thread.
 
wow that is serious whoa!

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no idea not sure
 
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Oh boy!...No clue....I have 3 boys, but they don't have Autism....Hoping someone here will be able to help you, tho'.
 
Jolie, is there a service for special needs children such as BOST or Friendship Care Services that might be able to help? I'm sure there are Autism Support Groups that have addressed this issue in the past. I wish I could be of more help, but that would be the first place I would look.

Good luck on finding the answers your looking for. :)
 
I really have no idea how to help with that situation but hope you find what you are looking for.
 
Thanks y'all - It was worth a shot.

Dixie - Not that I know of but I have discussed this with his therapy counselor about the situation. She said she would work on finding more information for me to have. So, We'll see what happens thereafter.
 
Smack his hand really hard and let him cry. He needs to learn the hard way. That's my answer. :)
 
This is something that his therapist could address through behavioral modification techniques. As you already know, it will probably take awhile for the behavior mod to get through to him,though. I'd say keep telling him that is private and it is wrong for him to do that. Repetition is the key, I think.

Autism is not really my area of expertise, but you might also borrow a Barbie doll and allow him to play out his curiousity with the doll. I don't know that it would help, but if it satisfied his curiosity about women's breasts it would be worth the shot.
 
DeafTim said:
Smack his hand really hard and let him cry. He needs to learn the hard way. That's my answer. :)
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No. This child is autistic. That is the wrong way to address the problem, for any number of reasons.
 
:hmm:I like that doll idea, what about a role playing exercise involving two dolls and a script, what can he do instead of grabbing their skirts....

see if you can somehow illustrate "private" as a visual concept - ask him to draw a picture of "private" or find pictures in magazines that illustrate "private" and use that with the doll scenario - a way of attaching something concrete to something he can still touch

hope I'm not overstepping, just brainstorming here.....
 
@ my son's school, the autistic girls are with female teachers/aides and the autistic boys are with male teachers/male aides. It's been like this for the past four years and so far it's been working very well.

I've taught my son from very early on not to touch the other person's "wrong" parts and nobody can touch him but only the doctor and his father. That's it.

If your child is recently DXed with autism, I stress you to teach your child/ren from very early on to know what's right and what's wrong.

Jolie, I wonder if your son is in the class with all boys and male teacher?
 
Jolie77 said:
So, my son is about to turn 12 in few weeks. He is going through some changes that involves puberty.

As of lately, He has started to become curious with the opposite sex, especially with adult females by trying to grab their shirts to see if they have bras on. I have tried to explain to him countless of times that it is not appropriate. He doesn't have the concept of understanding that kind of behavior is not appropriate. Usually, I would say "It's private (signing secret) and wrong." He kinds of gets that but he would go back to repeat the same behavior.

He isn't a danger to anyone or to himself though. I know there's all sorts of various tips related to this subject on the internet, but, however, I would like to see if there's any other tips or experiences that maybe any one of you have with this to help me get a better idea how I can work this out with my son.

It'd be greatly appreciated.
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I think "secret" is implying that there's a treasure inside. Maybe you should try to trick him like "if you do that, Santa will not give you a gift this year"

I'm just guessing :dunno:
 
I have 9 boys and a girl in my class, myself are female and my colleague is male. These boys/girl are in their teens, There are a lot of hormones around. We always keep telling them whats right/wrong. We also use reward system (age appropriate) Targets and they are prize driven.... they will behave if they really want something they like!
So far we had no major issues. We have a girl (not in my class) she would go round pulling female's tops to check their bra! We have few boys who likes touching females (holding hands/stroking, nothing in depth type of touching) we say no touching (short and simple)
I have a boy in my class who touches but his was sensory thing so I say it's ok to touch shoulders thats all no where else. They do grasp but it takes A LOT of time and patience. Keep verbal very short and simple such as name then no touching.
I am returning back to school (yep we are still on summer holidays) on
wednesday and will look up in the puberty pack for any info.
 
Behavior modification program is what he needs to address this behavior especially if he is unable to make the connection between the behavior and the consequences. We have a boy with autism who is becoming a pre-teen and he has the same issues. Does the school have a behavior specialist?
 
wow

honesty wouldnt have a clue....

behaviour modding is something way out of my league

good luck
 
jillio said:
No. This child is autistic. That is the wrong way to address the problem, for any number of reasons.
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MMM...how about this... let adult woman bring her husband/bf.... (kapow!!!) Me hands off....(walk away)
 
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