I'm referring to your posts in general.
it appears that you are oblivious to what we are saying to you. and it also appears that you are oblivious to what is happening to deafies. looks like you'll learn it painfully thru your deaf son.
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I agree with what DC and many on here are describing
a child with a perceived "weakness" or difference or "disability" is in a situation directly tied to a "normal" vs. "abnormal" dichotomy brought about by societal views. The "default" is such-and-such. That one kid is not such-and-such, therefore the child is de-valued because they do not represent the "majority". They are not perceived to be "the same". Therefore a situation involving bullying a deaf child is tied to audism because audism is where hearing is perceived as "better", "normal".
To say that audism doesn't exist in this situation is same as saying one is colorblind, doesn't see race...well, that in itself perpetuates racism, same as avoiding audism perpetuates audism.
I get what you're saying Dogmom.
I have a question though... What do we call it when someone bullies a person
because they have glasses? Or because they don't dress well? Or because they are short?
I think when someone bullies a person because they have glasses, or wear clothes not "approved" by majority or are short - that's also bullying but the sociological aspects of the larger "ism" aren't there. Those are targeted characteristics based on individual traits, not a collective, institutional bias such as is perpetuated by societal action.
In addition to the personal bullying I described earlier in this thread, I was also bullied based on clothes/boots I had, what I ate, because I was short/physically little <born several months premature> and know I woulda been bullied if I'd gotten the glasses I knew I needed in 8th grade. I spent that whole year trying to be especially invisible to my 8th grade history teacher. His assignments were done this way - he'd write a list of questions on the blackboard which students had to copy and then go back and look in their books for the answers. I couldn't see the board where I sat and so I asked a student sitting next to me <who was one of the few kids who didn't mess with me> , if, after she was done copying the questions, could she hand back her paper and I'd quickly copy the questions from her sheet. She agreed to the arrangement. She had nothing to do while I copied her questions so she just tried to look like she was looking in her book. so I got really good at taking super-quick notes and using some of my own short-hand, which came in very handy in college.
But the point of my story was, based on my experiences I knew I'd also have gotten it pretty bad if I'd gotten the eyeglasses. I waited til 8th grade was done to let it slip that I needed them.
However, the significance of any of those individual experiences and the hurt of that, which I knew all too well - not quite the same as the "power-over" that is audism.
When I was growing up in '60s and '70, it seemed that the teachers focused on who was bullied - not on the bullies themselves. I thought they were focusing on the wrong group when they should focus on the bullies. Did I see things wrong (like the teachers were helping the victims)???
One kid did try to bully me, but I kicked his ass on the playground. He never messed with me again...and I got my reputation. No one bothered me.
This may sound really strange, especially coming from an educator, but sometimes the best thing you can do for a kid is to teach that kid to stand up to others. If that means punching the bully's lights out, so be it. I told my daughter, who had a kid picking on her, to shove him back if he does it again. She did tell the teacher, and the teacher has tried to deal with the kid numerous times...nothing really seems to work. Finally, one day, he shoved her out of the way while she was drinking water from the foundation, and she shoved him back and kicked his leg. He never bothered her again.
I don't know. I did try asking for help when I was bullied and the most common response I got was " don't tattle-tale".
We have to remember that every society is not the same, they do vary from place to place. There are places where the deaf are bullied to the point where they commit suicide or move away to somewhere else. Meanwhile, some are treated like an equal. However, I do believe that the bigger the presence of the deaf, the less susceptible they will be to bullying problems.
It all boils down to one thing about an individual's fate... attitude. Not the individual's attitude, but the society's attitude. The society is a powerful force, they can do a great deal of damages to one's self-esteem.