Annoying ignorant hearing people stories

I apologize on behalf of the hearing, LOL. I remember thinking that my friends house was somehow going to be different the first time I went in. I was looking around, I suppose in amazement, and he asked me what are you looking for? "I said I don't know, it looks just like my house" and didn't admit to him my ignorance until much later, we can have a good laugh at it now. I'm lucky he is a patient friend. Love this thread. Thanks for sharing.
 
I just joined this site and I am glad I ran into your post. After reading some of the posts I started to wonder if I should even try to learn ASl. I wondered that if I learned ASL and tried to practice, would HOH people think I was annoying. I wondered, could a HOH person get over my hearing in the same way a hearing person could try to get over HOH? Thanks for giving me a little insight and a positive attitude.
 
ASL is simply a form of communication. I'd liken this to visiting France. When there, if you speak in English all the time and don't attempt to communicate in French, that is annoying. If you try to make contact on their terms, regardless of how poorly, it's more easily forgiven and accepted.
 
New To This "Hearing", But Get It!

I say new to this "hearing" as in, I am hearing, just to make sure that is clear. lol

Anyway, I started dating a wonderful man in January who is Deaf since birth. Within a month I started taking ASL classes. To me it was a no-brainer, I mean, why wouldn't I?

I have always been extremely sensitive to other people having grown up gay and being discriminated upon. So to me meeting a Deaf person was just like meeting a foreign person. Different culture, different way of speaking, so this has not and never has been an issue for me. I work with different people in different countries every day and have traveled extensively for work.

I don't try to say things correctly nor do I try to avoid saying things that would be offensive because to me, I "just get it". I am amazed though at how people treat those who are Deaf. Now that I am in a deep relationship and am in many conversations with Hearing people around me as well as my partner, I see how he is treated and its appalling to say the least. I once watched a Hearing person laugh at him when he wrote on paper that he was Deaf. She felt it was such a big joke. I couldn't believe the ignorance!!!

I found this site as I have been looking for ways to improve my signing as well as constantly learning about Deaf culture. I saw this topic and jumped right in.

I stopped reading after a while simply as everything I read was obviously a stupid comment by a Hearing person so it was good in a way that I had never said any of those things.

One word did catch me though, and I truly find this word offensive as a Hearing person as well, so it is of no surprise that it is offensive to a Deaf person. This is why I decided to write this never ending story. lol The word was "nevermind". I have always hated this word. I feel it is a very very very rude word to say and in my opinion never really has a place to be used. Any time it has been used to me I took great offense and even felt quite hurt/bothered by it.

So this is one Hearing person who says I get it and always did.

I look forward to learning more about Deaf culture and looking forward to a day when I can sign as good as you, or at least close enough to keep up. :)

-David
 
This is kinda different, but my Uncle who used to could speak English pretty good, due to living in America for awhile, had a condition years ago that affected his memory in a way that he can't anymore.... my mom, bless her for trying, when she talks to him, talks very loud and ends words with an "o"...uh mom, he's not hoh, that'd be me (she forgets this all the time) and an "o" at the end of a word doesn't turn it into a spanish word... comprendo?? I love her, so nobody gets to say anything about her okay??? NADA!! People just don't get it, and sometimes I think the laughing is a defense of not knowing how to respond ... cause they look silly too. Everyone has an insecurity. No one is exempt or safe from it. Some people just hide it better than others.
 
People are people no matter how small, or tall, or round, or skinny, or hearing, or not hearing, or walking, or not walking, or seeing, or not seeing.....you get my point.... do unto others... and no one wants to feel like they are a "nevermind". Even when my kids come home talking about mean kids at school I'm compassionate as to why a kid would act this way. I start explaining well maybe they don't have a happy home life, or things aren't good at home right now, it's such a bad economy. You don't have to take this treatment, but maybe you could understand it. We are just east of Austin, Texas. There are classes of just Spanish students only that would sit across from oldest at lunch, they would want to start fights with the English speaking students. I taught my son it's because they didn't understand what him and his friends were saying and felt they were making fun of the Spanish students. So if he could try to smile friendly at the kids and make sure he didn't look at them when they were laughing, try his best to make it look like he was including them instead of excluding them because it was only insecurities they were acting on. Then I put him in their shoes, asked how he'd feel, and he understood. It helped a lot. Education is the best tool we have. Compassion is how we survive with each other.
 
I think what u guys are saying about hearing people is rude. I'm hearin and I'm trying to learn ASL and understand the deaf culture but if u guys armrest just goig to b rude to us then noone will want to anyway so maybe u should change your attitude and be thankful that people try to understand. Anyone can be tude it doesn't matter if ur deaf or hearing.
 
Alligator123 said:
I think what u guys are saying about hearing people is rude. I'm hearin and I'm trying to learn ASL and understand the deaf culture but if u guys armrest just goig to b rude to us then noone will want to anyway so maybe u should change your attitude and be thankful that people try to understand. Anyone can be tude it doesn't matter if ur deaf or hearing.
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It's so annoying when hearing people write in this thread.

It's not for them, and they usually can't spell and it makes it hard for deaf people to know what they are saying!!!! :wave:
 
First i would like to preface this with....Some people are just assholes, it doesn't have anything to with the fact that they can hear. anywho

Some of the rudest things said to me was during the time I was actually losing my hearing, but before I got my aids. See I lost my hearing my left ear at age 20, but I managed fine until I started losing it my right ear around age 25/26. So one my biggest problems was the actually the fact that my speech is normal (although I've recently discovered that I'm getting classic deaf speech. My audiologist asked my sister how long I've been losing my hearing because I've started holding my consonants longer than my vowels) At the time my hearing went in my right ear I was a cashier at Mobil. When I couldn't understand someone I would tell them I was hard of hearing, could they please speak up. Then they'd say it exactly the same, so I'd ask again, sometimes this would happen several times, until finally they would say "are you serious?" OMG yes!! No, I just like making you repeat yourself over and over, good times. But they didn't believe me because I spoke normal. I can't tell you how many times my coworkers would get angry at the customers, and yell at them "she's deaf!!" I don't think I've ever wanted to punch anyone so badly as this one guy that asked me a question when I wasn't looking at him. So I asked him "what/". He goes "a baaaaag" said it all slow like I was stupid or something, I looked at the guy and said "Dude, I understand the English language, I just can't hear it!"

Another time, also while I was waiting for my hearing aids ( I went thru the Voc Rehab and it took like 8 months cuz they wanted me to get mris ctscans, see a specialist in Boston etc meanwhile I was losing more and more hearing) I went to the DMV to renew my license. Everytime the guy said something to me I'd repeat it back to him to make sure I was understanding correctly, he says at one point "are you deaf" (in a nasty tome of voice) I said "yes!", oh the look on his face. hahahaha it was priceless. And this other customer, nasty lady, if I asked her "what" (she was a regular and so this happened often) she'd say "has the bleach gotten into your brain?" You can see in my pic I'm blonde. Nice, so now I'm stupid because I'm deaf AND blonde. I always wanted to ask the lady "you do realize that blonde is a naturally occurring hair color correct? With your big brunette brain you do realize that if I was bleaching my hair to be a blonde that would mean that I was really a brunette right? SO are you saying that you think brunettes are stupid?

BUT now I have aids so people have a visual clue that I'm deaf/hoh, so I don't run into assholes too often anymore, well I do, everybody does ;) but they aren't so blatant in their assholery anymore.

One thing I think is funny people do. I'm a massage therapist now, and after I've talked to the client about they need/want I warn them that I'm deaf *points at hearing aid* and that when they're face down on the table I won't be able to understand them, so if they want to talk to me talk to my face not my feet. I can't tell you how often when I tell someone this they go OH, and take a step closer and focus on my face more intently....like they're going to read my lips or something. That always cracks me up. I'm thinking...what are you doing? I'M the one that can't hear, you're fine lol. BTW people are very cool about getting a massage from a deaf person, I have never had a client act like this was going to be a problem, this is actually kind of a bonus for them because it's more relaxing. I'm not going to chit chat with them, most people like a quiet therapist so it works out well for everybody.
 
Very sorry you feel this way Bottesini. From this “hearing” person who is trying very hard to learn ASL and learn your culture I’m sorry to see you say this.

I find that my spelling is always perfect as I take the time to properly spell check it and read it before posting. I felt I was offering some good insight and I have not seen anywhere where it indicates this thread is not for “hearing” and only for the “Deaf”.

Some of us are trying and making a real concerted effort, so perhaps you can cut some of us some slack…..
 
Alligator123 said:
I think what u guys are saying about hearing people is rude. I'm hearin and I'm trying to learn ASL and understand the deaf culture but if u guys armrest just goig to b rude to us then noone will want to anyway so maybe u should change your attitude and be thankful that people try to understand. Anyone can be tude it doesn't matter if ur deaf or hearing.
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Why don't you change hearing peoples attitudes when they treat Deaf deaf hoh people in general? They are the one who makes Deaf deaf hoh people that way due to the attitude issue.

Lastly, just socialize with asl users than being online. if you could not find any where deaf people then search harder.
 
david40price said:
Very sorry you feel this way Bottesini. From this “hearing” person who is trying very hard to learn ASL and learn your culture I’m sorry to see you say this.

I find that my spelling is always perfect as I take the time to properly spell check it and read it before posting. I felt I was offering some good insight and I have not seen anywhere where it indicates this thread is not for “hearing” and only for the “Deaf”.

Some of us are trying and making a real concerted effort, so perhaps you can cut some of us some slack…..
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Botts and other don't like hearing people posting on this thread because it's supposed to be thread for deaf/Deaf people to post their frustrations with hearing people. It's ok for hearing people to read it, but they should not post in it.

BTW, nevermind is not a word. It's "never mind" - two words. So I wouldn't trust your spell check if it did not indicate that it was wrong.
 
david40price said:
Very sorry you feel this way Bottesini. From this “hearing” person who is trying very hard to learn ASL and learn your culture I’m sorry to see you say this.

I find that my spelling is always perfect as I take the time to properly spell check it and read it before posting. I felt I was offering some good insight and I have not seen anywhere where it indicates this thread is not for “hearing” and only for the “Deaf”.

Some of us are trying and making a real concerted effort, so perhaps you can cut some of us some slack…..
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You have a little trouble reading? I don't believe the post you responded to was addressed to you.:aw:

If I have a problem with you, I will let you know it. No use looking to start trouble with me.

I will try to pay you no nevermind...
 
LoveBlue said:
Botts and other don't like hearing people posting on this thread because it's supposed to be thread for deaf/Deaf people to post their frustrations with hearing people. It's ok for hearing people to read it, but they should not post in it.

BTW, nevermind is not a word. It's "never mind" - two words. So I wouldn't trust your spell check if it did not indicate that it was wrong.
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I posted a story in here once.

But only because I was REALLY angry. And other than that I really only read it.

And I hate it when people come in and post something like "aww ur complaining about nothing suck it up"

>:-(
 
@ Frisky Feline "Why don't you change hearing peoples attitudes when they treat Deaf deaf hoh people in general? They are the one who makes Deaf deaf hoh people that way due to the attitude issue.

Lastly, just socialize with asl users than being online. if you could not find any where deaf people then search harder."

I do change their attitudes as I encounter them. I honestly don't run into people every day that act rude or ignorant, but when I do, I do correct their attitude, if it is possible. I am new to your world, so I have only encountered this so much, but when I see it, I won't stand for it.

@LoveBlue "Botts and other don't like hearing people posting on this thread because it's supposed to be thread for deaf/Deaf people to post their frustrations with hearing people. It's ok for hearing people to read it, but they should not post in it.

BTW, nevermind is not a word. It's "never mind" - two words. So I wouldn't trust your spell check if it did not indicate that it was wrong."

I understand what you are saying that this thread is for Deaf and HOH people only however; I looked at the very top and I could not find anything that indicated it was only for Deaf and HOH so if I can't find it, neither can other people. And yes, I do spell never mind as nevermind, but that is how I learned to spell it and believe it or not, have an english dictionary that shows it this way. So perhaps there are two ways to spell it?

@Bottesini "Agreed and understand what you are saying. I realize the comment was not meant for me. I guess I was just a little surprised that you were beating someone up who was making an effort. I have no issues with you."

Again, I was not trying to offend anyone here. Just give us "hearies" some slack. Some of us are trying and not all of us are assholes.
 
warpedpink said:
What are some of the annoying things hearing people say to you? Classic examples include "i'll pray for you" (to get your hearing back), *over enunciating* "can you read my lips?"

A while ago, I was visiting my parents and the three of us went to this little bakery. I wandered off and browsed the pastries. My dad came up and told this worker who was talking to my back that I was Deaf... Her response? "OHH how CUUUUUUUUTE!!" like I was a puppy. :roll: lol

My friends and I are playing a drinking game and swapping stories and I'm fresh out because I don't hang with hearing people almost ever soooo.. help me out!
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david40price said:
@ Frisky Feline "Why don't you change hearing peoples attitudes when they treat Deaf deaf hoh people in general? They are the one who makes Deaf deaf hoh people that way due to the attitude issue.

Lastly, just socialize with asl users than being online. if you could not find any where deaf people then search harder."

I do change their attitudes as I encounter them. I honestly don't run into people every day that act rude or ignorant, but when I do, I do correct their attitude, if it is possible. I am new to your world, so I have only encountered this so much, but when I see it, I won't stand for it.

@LoveBlue "Botts and other don't like hearing people posting on this thread because it's supposed to be thread for deaf/Deaf people to post their frustrations with hearing people. It's ok for hearing people to read it, but they should not post in it.

BTW, nevermind is not a word. It's "never mind" - two words. So I wouldn't trust your spell check if it did not indicate that it was wrong."

I understand what you are saying that this thread is for Deaf and HOH people only however; I looked at the very top and I could not find anything that indicated it was only for Deaf and HOH so if I can't find it, neither can other people. And yes, I do spell never mind as nevermind, but that is how I learned to spell it and believe it or not, have an english dictionary that shows it this way. So perhaps there are two ways to spell it?

@Bottesini "Agreed and understand what you are saying. I realize the comment was not meant for me. I guess I was just a little surprised that you were beating someone up who was making an effort. I have no issues with you."

Again, I was not trying to offend anyone here. Just give us "hearies" some slack. Some of us are trying and not all of us are assholes.
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The original post made it abundantly clear what this thread was for, not to mention the title itself.

And as for beating up someone, I just reversed what he was saying to deaf and turned it back to hearing.

Please be a little less emotional and more analytical.
 
Alligator123 said:
I think what u guys are saying about hearing people is rude. I'm hearin and I'm trying to learn ASL and understand the deaf culture but if u guys armrest just goig to b rude to us then noone will want to anyway so maybe u should change your attitude and be thankful that people try to understand. Anyone can be tude it doesn't matter if ur deaf or hearing.
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I understand that you are trying hard to learn ASL and understand our deaf culture. But honestly, If you see this thread titled and underlined "annoying ignorant hearing people stories" then maybe you shouldn't come in here and be all mad about it. This thread is mainly for deaf people venting out their frustrations from the reality that we go through with everyday. Don't judge us unless you've been into our shoes.

:ty: :wave:
 
Great advert for co-operation :roll: Is this about getting fair play for us all or just having ago at hearing ? If the latter we are NOT amused.
 
this old thread....i no understand computer or quite got hang of this site yet,just seem strange keep thread open after a year.
back to your subject,i could say same that i appear to be one of few brits on prodminatly american site but i incorperated so i not sure what your point is,i have read many hearing posts on here no one seems to have hump
 
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