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umm im not sure where to start but i have a kinda problem here...
my gf's parent found out about her being lesbian and being with me

but the problem is.. Her family gave her the choice.. Family and God or Micah

What is thier point? it's really hardest part for my gf's family to get
accpetable for her to be lesbain..

Do you have any way to help? :confused: :confused:
 
Aww how sad....

I know there will be serveral family members who wouldn't approve their lovers or their life style....All it matters is how you and your gf really feel for eachothers and hopefully her family will come around and see how much she really means to you....

I wish you both the best! ;)
 
CoolieFroggie said:
umm im not sure where to start but i have a kinda problem here...
my gf's parent found out about her being lesbian and being with me

but the problem is.. Her family gave her the choice.. Family and God or Micah

What is thier point? it's really hardest part for my gf's family to get
accpetable for her to be lesbain..

Do you have any way to help? :confused: :confused:
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Let me speak out my perspective...your girlfriend's parents challenged her with two choice family and God or Micah...I believe this parents of your girlfriend are doing out of their forcing action without realize the true love and show support ( I am not speaking of support lesbian) their child in time of major change of their life. As bottom of line, your girlfriend's parents should have respect their child's wish since the child is adult enough to make good or bad decision as parents are expected to be showing love and support for thier child than to holler with kinds of choice...get my point? God isnt God of force..God is God of love and full of compassionating...
 
your gf shouldnt be made to choose between loved ones.. her family is only using emotional blackmail, and that is below the belt.. :ugh2:

all i can say is not to make her choose, girlie.. let her decide, and while she decidea.. be her unconditional support and a source of love :)

why would anyone wanna choose someone who will keep on DOING that, after they have "won?" no way... all your gf can do is to have a frank talk with her family, and what they are really doing.. AND leave the choice up to THEM how they can proceed from there ;)

In the meanwhile, it looks like you just sit on the sidelines, and love that gf of yours.
 
Oh dear

What your girlfriend´s family did to her is BLACKMAIL.

It´s unfair. :(
 
alright people... I'm the girlfriend of Cooliefroggie... just to clearlify... this is nothing related with blackmailing, demanding me to do this or that... none of that crap. This isn't helping if you are thinking of that. I could go on and on, but I don't feel like tying much so all I'm asking of you to simply not to think of it as a blackmail or anything of that sort. Thank you. You can try to think of a way to help my girlfriend because she is the one who started this thread and asks for help. God bless
 
hey coolie i respect that u are asking for help, and now that yr gf came in and isn't too thrilled from my perspective maybe you should ask for help in private rather than posting in here, cuz from what we understand the choices are really for your gf to make not about you, she has to decide for herself and shes right in some ways its not about forcing or anything, its hers and hers alone to grapple the decison she needs to make in her own life with her family and with you all u can do is just be supportive and respect her decision is the grown and mature way to do this. :) Good luck! i know its hard right now for you but the support u give goes a long way!
 
Liza said:
family is only using emotional blackmail,
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umm...I don't personally see this as a blackmail to me, you see families often do that when you date someone they disapprove and that's very common thing coming from a parents....

I know because I've been there before LOL...
 
umm, if ur gf is over 18 yrs old, then she can decide herself which best for her... if she is under 18 yrs old, that is plms....
 
Hey, I see that and there before. It is her decide to choice family or gf. I know God is everything that you believe in but your choice ? I would choice both! :lol:
 
Froggie and Sleepytaz,
My advice that I can give is that you need to discuss and talk with your families together than individuals, to support eachother. Try educate your families. Sometimes families are old fashioned, and won't change. Try to be calm, not arugementive while talk to families, and tell them honestly how much you love eachother, and why you decided to be lesbian instead of straight, what is more important for yourselves as a couple. I am not sure what I will do if your family doesn't want to cooperate and listen. I hope my advice help you.
 
Her family gave her the choice.. Family and God or Micah

What is thier point? it's really hardest part for my gf's family to get
accpetable for her to be lesbain..
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My friend Jocelyn went through this a couple of years ago. She ended up breaking up with her girlfriend. Some people are so damn conservative and bullheaded! What religion do they follow? Maybe there's a support group out there that can help them see that being gay isn't all that bad. Some of the hyperreligous conservatives think that us GLB folk are completely and totally evil. However there are plenty of support groups out there who are working to change things. I think there are even gay-positive books out there for religious parents of GLB folks. I know of at least one by a hyperChristian mother of a gay son who committed sucide b/c of her belief that being gay was evil. If it makes you feel better, even thirty years ago you would have dealt with the same attitudes and concerns if you'd fallen in love with a black guy! Yeah...I know that's hard to believe for the majority of us young'uns here....but it's true!
I don't get why some conservatives think that we are godless hediondistic sex addicts who are filled with immorality.
 
sleepytaz said:
alright people... I'm the girlfriend of Cooliefroggie... just to clearlify... this is nothing related with blackmailing, demanding me to do this or that... none of that crap. This isn't helping if you are thinking of that. I could go on and on, but I don't feel like tying much so all I'm asking of you to simply not to think of it as a blackmail or anything of that sort. Thank you. You can try to think of a way to help my girlfriend because she is the one who started this thread and asks for help. God bless
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Thanks for clarifying this and helping us to steer away from the assumption that was being made about 'blackmailing', 'demanding', etc....I do wish all the best for you as you go through this trying time...just speak your heart and stand firm for whatever you desire and believe in your life.... :thumb:

CoolieFroggie said:
Do you have any way to help?
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We all sure can help in one way or another by reading into this situation and giving good friendly advice and feedback...yet, it's YOU that surely can be of the most help for SleepyTaz with your unconditional support, rapport and standing by her whenever she needs you....although, LOVE is the greatest tool and the most encouraging strength to have and live by!! :cool:
 
deafdyke said:
My friend Jocelyn went through this a couple of years ago. She ended up breaking up with her girlfriend. Some people are so damn conservative and bullheaded! What religion do they follow? Maybe there's a support group out there that can help them see that being gay isn't all that bad. Some of the hyperreligous conservatives think that us GLB folk are completely and totally evil. However there are plenty of support groups out there who are working to change things. I think there are even gay-positive books out there for religious parents of GLB folks. I know of at least one by a hyperChristian mother of a gay son who committed sucide b/c of her belief that being gay was evil. If it makes you feel better, even thirty years ago you would have dealt with the same attitudes and concerns if you'd fallen in love with a black guy! Yeah...I know that's hard to believe for the majority of us young'uns here....but it's true!
I don't get why some conservatives think that we are godless hediondistic sex addicts who are filled with immorality.
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DeafDyke there is a Support group called PFLAG its chapters are all over the usa, it's called * Parents Of Lesbains And Gays * ( if i spelled that lesbain wrong don't get down on me for that im the world's famous Typoist!) but this is a great way to find out more informations u can share with the community and its poeple too. but then again this is solely for Sleepytaz to deal with and cooliefrog just needs to let her make her ( her gf that is) choices of what she wants to do. and be supportive in what Sleepytaz decides to do.
 
Have her go to one of those women shelters, most wont kick her out because she's a lesbian.

This stuff happens everywhere.

Richard
 
mm interesting comments so far... thank you for trying to help *winks* take care and God Bless!
 
DeafDyke there is a Support group called PFLAG its chapters are all over the usa, it's called * Parents Of Lesbains And Gays *
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Yeah, I know about PFLAG. I was talking about religious GLB support groups...like Dignity (Catholics) and others. Let me see if I can dig up some links to give to your parents . Maybe you could make them see that it's all in the interpretation of things, and there are some Christian churches that accept GLB folks...as a matter of fact, there are GLB pastors, priests, nuns, ministers, monks and other people of God.
 
Everybody, thanks for the all the help.. What i will do is.. love her and be there for her much as I can...

Thank again...

you may giving the advices if you wish to and i will listen.
 
KEWL Coolie i know it's hard i know its emotional but hey at least being suppoirtive will show the parents all u do is care and love her and respect her decision
 
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