I'm open to any suggestion or help...

[nozobo]

hello y'll.. i'm just gonna say it right here... I feel like :gives: about my best friend and as my bedroom roommate... We usually do have problems on and off but it seem to go with the flow but until two day agin (Monday night)... Lemme explain and I'm glad to hear from your advice or anything.... such as domestic violence or what what what ???

Okay last Monday evening... after I got home from work to check my mails and do some errands then zoom to my boyfriend's home to hang out with him... During at that time my best friend aim me on my sidekick and begging me to stay at my boyfriend overnight which I told her I wasn't sure but might sleep on my bed that night... then I actually went home to watch tv for short amount of time then was about to head into shower and my best friend got home and got upset that I was there and she expected me to be at my boyfriend's home and I told her I want to take a shower and sleep in my bed... she argued that she want privacy in our bedroom and use my bed cuz my bed is double sized bed and her bed right next to me is standard regular bed is small for her and her boyfriend and she doesn't get privacy at her boyfriend's home cuz their family is around... then she got mad and left the apt... I went to shower and went to bed...

last night (recently Tuesday) I arrived home as usual from work around 5:45 to fetch my mails and bills and went to my apt to my laptop to work on my errands... I haven't got the chance to go in my bedroom until 8:45pm and found the note that my best friend wroted that I'm selfish spoiled brat and unfair for letting her use our bedroom as privacy... and she also added that I must be at my boyfriend's home for overnight and she doesn't want to see my face.. well the time went by 9pm as I complete read the note and two of my other roommates show up which I explained to them the situation that was been going on and they had some issues with my best friend... later on my best friend show up and read my note on front door that I stated that I found the note around 8:45pm and had no way to reach my best friend with apology with my name on it... she came into the apt and teared up the notes and got mad at me... I tried to reason with her but she absolutely refused to look at me so I decide to leave her alone for awhile... after my roommates left for work for overnight and I went into shower and when I was done, I got into my bed to watch some tv then ready to sleep but my best friend barged in and took her pillows and blankets and argued front of me for a sec and left the room. So I approached to her and tried to reason with her again. She said to leave her alone and that I will lose her as best friend if I continue annoy her. and i tried to tell her so what and explain to her and she refused to look at me so I finally gave up and went to watch tv in my room for few more minutes... my best friend came into the room again and took another piece of her blanket on her bed and started to argued with me so I decide to ignore her. Her anger got worse when she came to side of my bed right next to me laying on my bed, she try to get my attention by tapping on my right shoulder and refuse to stop tapping so I cover my shoulder with blanket and she does to my other shoulder until the point she use her hand to grab my below right shoulder skin so I pushed her back to get away from me and tell her to get out, and she lurched at me punching all she can and her boyfriend was in the room by the door the whole time and he held her back then she lurched at me again and finally he held her back and escort her out of the bedroom... That's the point I got fed up with her by leaving the house myself to see my roommates at their work and explained the situation... then i went to my work to see one of the supervisor to see my face and shouler that my "female roommate" basically hurt me so I request to take the day off cuz I wouldn't want anyone to see my bruised face so my supervisor approved my request then I purchased the ready to use camera and went to see my roomamates at their work again to take pictures of me as a evidence... then I went straight to my boyfriend's home to sleep... now I cannot sleep at all as I type the situation so far... any comments or what i should do... call the police on my best friend for domestic violence tmw or what??? HELP!

 

[Cheri]

wow, Sounds like She needs the "Sex" real bad.. Well, If you both have one bedroom that isn't going to work... She needs to understand that it is your bed and you are allow to sleep on ur own bed...She can either find another apartment with two bedrooms and get her own Double bed Or whatever bigger to have them both on the bed.. this whole thing is not your fault at all.. I do not see why she has to make a big fuss over the whole situation..I would suggest to sit down and have a talk with her if her temper keeps going then tell her You want her to move out or Chill out... You could call the Cops if you want but that's isn't going to solved anything she will still be mad when she gets out of Jail.. It might ruin the whole friendship...You did the right thing to leave her a note and apology but I still do not think u owe her one either... She has no right to tell u what to do when its your own bed.

 

[Malfoyish]

Errr....sorry you are having trouble with your best friend...

I'm not sure about calling the police or filing reports here, but...perhaps you can find other living arrangements if this setup isn't working out for either one or both of you. Saves a lot of trouble in the meantime, and probably your friendship, too.

However, if you really believe she can further hurt you physically, then you do know what steps you would have to take to protect yourself. The police do not pay much attention unless the "battered" person, in their opinion, is really and truly being physically harmed. (By this I mean broken bones, bloody noses, cuts, cracked ribs, things like that...) Not trying to say that she doesn't hit you - I'm sure she does, and you have proof of that if you've taken a picture of your bruised face, but to someone on the outside, looking in...it only looks slightly odd for a man to come in complaining about a woman, especially when the cops can't "see" any lasting affects of her "abuse." They would more than likely (at the most) would ask you some questions, have you file a report, and ah, maybe issue her a warning, and probably advise you to terminate your living arrangements. I do have a feeling that since she is your best friend, you don't want her to get into trouble...you just want her to wake up and smell the proverbial coffee...

:::shrug::: Might be a good idea though - for you to find another roomie...one that will respect the fact that sometimes you just want to shower in your own bathroom and sleep in your own bed. There should never be any question about that - after all, you do pay rent, right? As for her using your bed - well...if she likes your bed simply because it's "bigger," then perhaps she needs to go to your local Sleepy's...

Of course, the bottom line here is, no one deserves to be mistreated or hit...so, either she will stop, or I am confident that you will remove yourself from that situation before it gets any worse.

Good luck, pimpdaddyposse! Keep us updated...

 

[Liza]

Shit, PDP - she should NOT have hit you in the first place to just get some little sex on YOUR bed. If she is your friend, then she should have understood - get a hotel room for privacy in the weekends, ya know?

 

[VamPyroX]

Damn, that sucks! That's why I'm not crazy for having roommates.

 

[Mistyrose]

Damn, that sucks! That's why I'm not crazy for having roommates.

I agree!!...When i was going to business college out of town, i had a roommate straight from hell!! I had to move out within 3 months..i found an apartment and a part time job so i can pay the rent myself..it was worth it!
*shudders at the memory* gawd!...........
So..you'd be better off living by yourself, pdp..be worth the peace and quiet!

 

[Fly Free]

and the plan of using YOUR bed for sexual romps are unacceptable (IMO) -- she can go rent a damn hotel room if she feels she "has no privacy"!!!!!

 

[Lasza]

Oh Golly!
Visited Pimpdaddyposse's apt last month. Nice place there as I have seen. Hard to believe about his best friend done to Pimpdaddyposse very stupid. Her temper hurted her friendship big time. In my opinion, she should knows better about planning to live with Pimpdaddyposse and two other roomates for some reasons. Seem that she missed one big issue, that's "privacy". That's her problem. If she's dying to have sex with her bf then do it in the car, bathroom, motel/hotel, or camping. She can be patience till find time for her privacy.
If best friend feel increase uncomfort with "Privacy" problem then move out. And move in with her bf by their own apartment. If you want call the police, up to your decision. Look like best friend's boyfriend is a witness. Think twice about her boyfriend. How can we know if her boyfriend might tell the truth or cover up as lies to the police.
For me, I will be very disguest if i find out my roomate (whoever) sex with other person on my bed without my knowledge.

 

[knightwolf68]

Ouch i am sorry to hear about that what u have been through ... What I can suggest u to do is move out and live in apartment for one bedroom or studio to meet ur needs of affordable... I know few place that I think u could afford .. Otherwise , She should know better that u have every rights to be in bedroom since both of u share the room... what i can do is let them have their pravicy for one night per week so u can sleep on couch not everyday ... also, they should know that there is many different way to have the pravicy out of the apartments like hotel or in car or camping or retreat to somewhere else for theirselves for few days ... They should respect the arrangement between u and them to set straight out ... U know that u are more than welcome to come and talk to me in person .. u know where i am lol ... even would have let u crush overnight...

 

[Cheri]

Damn, that sucks! That's why I'm not crazy for having roommates.

But, I am a good roommate.. haven't tried me out yet....

 

[javapride]

PDP if that apt is under yr name U can kick her out and not allow her to tell u what she wants, As for the Sex i belive the BF wants to have sex and is pressuring her for this. thats not your problem its hers! U can KICK her out shes not being a friend to u much less a best friend when all u want to do is relax, and have a peaceful night, as far as im concerned. KICK her out yr life isn't worth losing over a crazed sex freak best friend, she needs to learn what respect and privacy is and if she doesnt' have that then yr better off letting her go and finding a better peace of mind, I for one will not condone anyone having sex on my bed and i have kicked many poeple out wheni busted them on my bed and before doing that i forced them to clean the mess they made as i will not sleep on a soiled bed for the hell of that! they know my reasons and know my rules they break it thier gone!

as for U u don't need to be living in a stressful situation best off????????? either if this lease is in yr name kick her out, OR move out yrself and save yr neck and do not allow her over ur place til SHE apologizes, As for the BF status like lasza said I have to oppose it, i know the bf will take the gf's side i been there with my sister she lied SO much and got others to take THIER side when it was the bf's doing not us, As for calling the police IF u have a evidence and u have the statement ready and if u feel u need to do this to prevent any dangers then go for it, if not then the choice is up to u, u can move out or kick her out!

Im sorry yr going thru this PDP.....

(((((PDP)))))))))

 

[Fly Free]

For me, I will be very disguest if i find out my roomate (whoever) sex with other person on my bed without my knowledge.

TOTALLY!!!!!!!!!!!! i would be throughly disgusted too! and tell the roommate to go get a hotel room!

 

[TweetyBird]

honest with u... i think u should call the cop what she did to u... u can report cuz of never know she will do again! u know what i mean? i ask u QQ, who is head of apt name??? if ur name on the head of apt and u can kick her out of apt... no choice!!! she cant do anything with u cuz of if ur name on head of apt... u know what i mean???

i am very sowwy hear that u got bad thru like that.. same happened to me and my ex best friend, we didnt talk each other for one year by now!!! cuz of she did wrong to me and hurted me so much!! i fed up with her and not best friend with her anymore period!!!

 

[lilredridinhood]

gah. i'd have hit her back but then again, i'm me so... lol. what i'd do is tell her to get out of the apartment for a while because of what she did and make it clear that it was not appreciated. tell her that it is your bedroom, and it is your bed and she should not have any expectations about being able to use your bed just so she can get some with her boyfriend.

 

[deafdyke]

That's why I'm not crazy for having roommates.

You don't even want to KNOW the horrible roomies I've gone through!
First one was a snotty stuck up bitch who wouldn't even talk to me and even complained to the RA b/c I was hoh! Next up were these teenyboppers from hell...Let me put it this way....cheerleader, uberperky Princess-shirt type ."Let's all be best friends forever!" ....STAY AWAY FROM ME <makes sign of the cross>

 

[WhoCare]

Next time, your best friend can use a bathtub with boyfriend for all night.

I never had a roommate. Am I lucky? I don't know.

Its up to you, what do you want to do with your best friend, remain friend or broke up? its make your decision. GOod luck.

I'm sorry for your bad hair day. Soon recovery.

 

[Fly Free]

You don't even want to KNOW the horrible roomies I've gone through!
First one was a snotty stuck up bitch who wouldn't even talk to me and even complained to the RA b/c I was hoh! Next up were these teenyboppers from hell...Let me put it this way....cheerleader, uberperky Princess-shirt type ."Let's all be best friends forever!" ....STAY AWAY FROM ME <makes sign of the cross>

Deafdyke!! hahahaha i love the way u say <makes sign of the cross>

 

[Maria]

PDP...

I totally understand how you feel. I am glad that I live all by myself in my own apt. No room mate. *Whew* LOL But, anyways... if, she kept insistin' about usin' your bed, just tell her to use her b/f's doghouse!!

 

[racheleggert]

Just call cops on her if she come back to your house and have her arrested. Show police the evidence such as pictures. You also may want to file an restaining order against her and have police use "no contact" order and request that if she come back to your house, she can be charged with trespassing. You also can kick her out if she live with you as well. I am sorry for what happen to you. She need to find somewhere to have sex, that what hotels are for??? You can tell her she can go to hotel, that what it is for.....

 

[Oddball]

Damn, that sucks! That's why I'm not crazy for having roommates.

Me too. I hate having roommates in tiny apt. Two roommates took over the refrigator.