How to make him understand?

Kikiers

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I recently started dating a Hearing guy, He knows I'm HOH and I've told him how he should face me when talking and some other tips to make sure i hear them. But he dosn't really ever seem to remember that, and therefor i miss half the conversation most times. This seems to happen a lot when im around Hearing people, i get lost in the conversations there having and it's proving difficult to make friendships with his friends (I used to eat alone and stuff didnt have many friends besides him and a couple others that are in our shared class). What should i do to emphasize to him and his friends so they know they need to speak up, slow their speech a little bit, and stuff?
 
This is just a reality of being hearing impaired.

I just continue to gently remind people to face me. Eventually, they start saying sorry which means they understand. In the end, that's all I really want to know, that they understand(even if I need to know it 5 times a day).

Bottom line, you can't "make" someone do things, they have to do it on their own.

Keep going with the relationship for now and just remind him.
 
Well, people have some rules about dating. For me, I make rule that I'll protect women if they get bitten by a cat or ferret. Women respect me and protect me too. Maybe it's good idea to make a list of what you want in a guy?
 
she pretty seems on teenage. she younger. cause on not enough know how relationship, dating, not yet. should be process first it friendship wise. better friends then (after 1.dating wise1. friendship 2.dating 3.marriage)it is very complication it not easy!
 
One thing to remember is people have been speaking and behaving in an certain way for so long that when they need to speak differently its like learning a new language. So give em a couple of minths aand years to get used to facing you or speaking slower.. its not aas easy as it seems.
 
THanks everyone, he is getting much better he actually taught his family how to talk to me lol and his friends are learning also. :)
 
Kikiers said:
THanks everyone, he is getting much better he actually taught his family how to talk to me lol and his friends are learning also. :)
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I am a lot older than you and I still have to tell my family not to yell at me if I can't understand a word. I really think hearing people can't understand to what it like being hoh or deaf any more than I can understand what is like to hearing. You'll have to keep reminding people to talk louder or slower and to face you when talking you . People do forget .
 
whatdidyousay! said:
I am a lot older than you and I still have to tell my family not to yell at me if I can't understand a word. I really think hearing people can't understand to what it like being hoh or deaf any more than I can understand what is like to hearing. You'll have to keep reminding people to talk louder or slower and to face you when talking you . People do forget .
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Yeah im figuring tht out, thanks :)
 
So you've told him? Several times? If he lacks the maturity to understand you, he may never will. Seek someone who does.
 
Jess said:
So you've told him? Several times? If he lacks the maturity to understand you, he may never will. Seek someone who does.
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Well at first yeah he was kinda bad at remembering but i am his first gf that is not full hearing so i understand. hes much better now i just had to give it time for him to get used to it :) hes really a great guy
 
I find if repetitive reminders don't work... a good b***h slap always goes a long way... Buahahaha....
 
To tell you the truth...based from experience. They will keep forgetting. Sure, they will do well for a time but eventually, they will go back to forgetting about accodomating you.
 
shel90 said:
To tell you the truth...based from experience. They will keep forgetting. Sure, they will do well for a time but eventually, they will go back to forgetting about accodomating you.
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Ain't that the truth....After while, they usually get "annoyed"...One-on-one isn't so bad tho'...but in a group of friends?....And you'll be "hearing this..."nevermind!"...or "just forget it!"....
 
shel90 said:
To tell you the truth...based from experience. They will keep forgetting. Sure, they will do well for a time but eventually, they will go back to forgetting about accodomating you.
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AMEN! My mother use to drive me nuts when she tried to talk me to when I had my back to her face. I told her and my older sister told mom that I had to see her face. I was in my 20's so my mom knew me 20 years and still could not remember this. Now I would I loves to have my mom do this. I really believe people that have all their hearing are clueless to what it mean to be hoh or deaf.
 
rockin'robin said:
Ain't that the truth....After while, they usually get "annoyed"...One-on-one isn't so bad tho'...but in a group of friends?....And you'll be "hearing this..."nevermind!"...or "just forget it!"....
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yeah in groups that happens a lot just something we have to deal with since were Deaf or HOH
 
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