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This is a good one wrote by Brenda from the Newspaper...read on
Maybe we can't "all just get along", but could we at least -please -act like ladies and gentlemen ?
Basic manners.
It seems that as technology moves forward, civility seems to take three or nine steps back.
People are rude, inconsiderate and impatient.
Bad weather driving brings out some of the worst behavior, like finger-flicking and horn-honking.
Our fuses are short, and we no longer seem to feel obligated to be respectful of others.
We've reached the point where it's surprising when someone holds a door for you.
My youngest son and I were exiting Genesee Valley shopping center last week, and he noticed an older gentleman with a cane approaching the door. I had not seen the man and was headed to the car when I realized my son wasn't with me. I turned around in time to see him stand for a long time and wait as the man, who was moving at the pace of an injured snail, made his way to the door. He thanked my son. Not just "thanks" -but he stopped and talked to him for a minute; told him how surprised he was to meet a young man with such patience and manners.
OK, he's my kid and I'm proud of him. I bet you're proud of your kids when they do something like that. Good for you. Kids don't just grow up and become well-mannered.
You are taught manners.
I got mine from my mother. She believed that the 10 Commandments were not suggestions, and she also believed in karma-what you give, you get.
Basic golden rule stuff.
Treat others the way you want to be treated.
Rules of behavior in our home were rules that were to be respected anywhere you went.
For instance, don't jump on the furniture.
I grew up not jumping on furniture or sitting on the arms of a chair or "plopping," as my mother called it, onto a sofa. My kids have the same rules. The oldest, who hasn't lived at home in years, stopped by with a friend who sat on the arm of a chair for about a second, until my son suggested another seat.
I have a favorite line from the 1999 movie "Blast from the Past" with Brendan Fraser, Alicia Silverstone and Dave Foley. Fraser's character (raised alone with his parents in a bomb shelter since the '50s) emerges into mid-'80s America and meets Eve (Silverstone) and Troy (Foley) who are shocked at his old-fashioned manners.
Troy says to Eve: "He thinks I'm a gentleman and you're a lady."
Eve says she doesn't even know what a lady is, and Troy says: "I know, I mean I thought a 'gentleman' was somebody that owned horses. But it turns out, his short and simple definition of a lady or a gentleman is someone who always tries to make sure the people around him or her are as comfortable as possible."
"Where do you think he got all that information ?" Eve asks. And Troy replies: "From the oddest place -his parents. I mean, I don't think I got that memo from mine."
Good story ?
Maybe we can't "all just get along", but could we at least -please -act like ladies and gentlemen ?
Basic manners.
It seems that as technology moves forward, civility seems to take three or nine steps back.
People are rude, inconsiderate and impatient.
Bad weather driving brings out some of the worst behavior, like finger-flicking and horn-honking.
Our fuses are short, and we no longer seem to feel obligated to be respectful of others.
We've reached the point where it's surprising when someone holds a door for you.
My youngest son and I were exiting Genesee Valley shopping center last week, and he noticed an older gentleman with a cane approaching the door. I had not seen the man and was headed to the car when I realized my son wasn't with me. I turned around in time to see him stand for a long time and wait as the man, who was moving at the pace of an injured snail, made his way to the door. He thanked my son. Not just "thanks" -but he stopped and talked to him for a minute; told him how surprised he was to meet a young man with such patience and manners.
OK, he's my kid and I'm proud of him. I bet you're proud of your kids when they do something like that. Good for you. Kids don't just grow up and become well-mannered.
You are taught manners.
I got mine from my mother. She believed that the 10 Commandments were not suggestions, and she also believed in karma-what you give, you get.
Basic golden rule stuff.
Treat others the way you want to be treated.
Rules of behavior in our home were rules that were to be respected anywhere you went.
For instance, don't jump on the furniture.
I grew up not jumping on furniture or sitting on the arms of a chair or "plopping," as my mother called it, onto a sofa. My kids have the same rules. The oldest, who hasn't lived at home in years, stopped by with a friend who sat on the arm of a chair for about a second, until my son suggested another seat.
I have a favorite line from the 1999 movie "Blast from the Past" with Brendan Fraser, Alicia Silverstone and Dave Foley. Fraser's character (raised alone with his parents in a bomb shelter since the '50s) emerges into mid-'80s America and meets Eve (Silverstone) and Troy (Foley) who are shocked at his old-fashioned manners.
Troy says to Eve: "He thinks I'm a gentleman and you're a lady."
Eve says she doesn't even know what a lady is, and Troy says: "I know, I mean I thought a 'gentleman' was somebody that owned horses. But it turns out, his short and simple definition of a lady or a gentleman is someone who always tries to make sure the people around him or her are as comfortable as possible."
"Where do you think he got all that information ?" Eve asks. And Troy replies: "From the oddest place -his parents. I mean, I don't think I got that memo from mine."
Good story ?
