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gnarlydorkette

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I have NO idea where this post would belong. This is personal, yet this is something to share...

I doubt if anybody here do notice that I haven't posted or came to AD lately...
Gosh, I dont know if I should vent this this out of respect but hopefully those who know me and my boyfriend do h ave some respect for us by keeping this to yourself rather than turning this into a juicy gossip....

Last week my boyfriend's father passed away. It was unexpected and shocked. I have been with my boyfriend for more than 5 months and for last 4 months I have literally lived at his parents' home so his parents have became my parents also. I love his Mom and Dad to death and they are the best parents a kid could ask for.

Now I only got Mom. It was a hard blow for my bfd and his family of two brothers and a mother. Dad recently had a doctor check-up and he was fit, just could lose some weight, but that was all. Nobody knew about the old clot that finally found its way to his heart.

Dad was the COOLEST guy. He worked in masonary... his middle name was Mason so it connected to his own identity. He was a BIG person but he was SOOO gentle and kind. I was sad that he departed too soon-- before he could see his sons marrying, before he could become a grandfather, before he could travel the country (he and Mom were planning to travel to Washington to start their "across the America" trip this summer)....

I have poured my heart out and energy to help the family through this orderal and the funeral... my goodness. It was wrenching but at the same time, I felt it was necessary for me to be strong so the family could grieve on their own terms and time...

After going through that, I felt more close to the family. It was horrible that I was not close to them (i was the "new girlfriend" and yak yak ahh) before the death, but it was like as if Dad is still the one that glues the family together, even in his spirit.

ah... i dont know what is the intention or point of this post.. I guess just to vent and let you guys venting also?

The family and I have came to terms with Dad's death.. and still consider him to be still around.

Love you and Miss you Dad... P.M.L., '55 to '04 (only 49 years of living.. but hell, it was one great life for you Dad)
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Awww gnarlydorkette!! :::hugs:::

I am so deeply sorry about your boyfriend's father. I've met him and he's such a great guy (your boyfriend, not his dad...) and I'm so sorry for his loss. From how you've spoken about him he seems like such a wonderful man.

Please know that he is in my prayers, as well as you and your man, too. I hate to see anyone in pain and I do know it's so hard to lose someone you love. Please feel free to lean on me anytime, should the need arise for you to vent...

Much love and hugs! So so sorry things have been so bad for you lately. Reminds me of what someone said to me when my grandmother passed away in February - they said that instead of having them here on earth with us, we now have them as our angels in Heaven. :)
 
:grouphug: I'm sorry to hear that your boyfriend's father has passed away. I am sure he's looking down at you, smiling.

When I grieve for someone I love, I always think "OK, he (or she) is gone now and is not suffering anymore, so I should be thankful for him (or her). Now he (or she) is happy with our Heavenly Father and Jesus." That helps me to feel better. I know it is difficult. I'll keep you and your family in my thoughts. :ily:
 
Awww Gnarlydorkette , *Hugs*...

I am so sorry to hear about your boyfriend's father....It sure not easy to lose someone you love, This must have been so hard on you both....My prayer is with you and your boyfriend! :(
 
Im sorry to hear that, gnarlydorkette...you and your b/f's family are in my prayers! God bless!
 
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