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pinkster

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You know what bothers me the most? People who are incapable of understanding and/or comprehending the fact that people are different. I target hearing people, not all, but most. I get tired of being treated badly, because it takes a TREMENDOUS amount of effort on my part to interact with hearing people. I watch their mouths and physical movements so that I may catch whatever it is they want to say. I have to stare at them and feel ridiculous while I read their lips on non-expressive faces. And then when I don't understand, I get subjected to discomfort, embarassment and frustration. For once I would like to be treated like an equal, not a person who seems to interact differently. It's not easy being deaf, its much harder when all I want is to be "normal."

I'm so FUCKING sick of being deaf. The lady at walgreen's was a total bitch to me when I told her my standard line.. "I'm sorry but I'm deaf, can you make sure you're looking at me when you talk?" She looked at me as if I was inhuman enough that I should have never spoken. I'm tired of it, not to mention my BC and migrane medicine cost me 84$ total. I spilled a few tears in the car, but when we were putting away groceries I flat out sobbed. Bill was walking away (per usual) but I guess I cried hard enough for him to come back and pull me up from my squatting position. He held me till I stopped crying and we finished putting away the groceries. I'm so angry I'm still crying.

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I am so sorry. Your pain breaks my heart. Please feel free to vent here anytime.
Hugs. :grouphug:
 
Keep the faith pinkster you ll be alright don't worry abt anything vent all u want we're not holding u back :)
 
I feel your pain... If I were you, I'd talk to the manager who the employee there was rude and ought to be trained properly to everyone include yourself...
 
awww!!!! :cuddle: not worry abt them... just stand up urself and be brave!!! so make them G U L P! allright girl??? :fruit:
 
Pinkster,
Yeah sometimes I feel fusterate being am I hating Deaf.. why can't they would understand me or not.. that fact really fusterate w/them.. Not you only ones.. as same thing rest other Deaf peoples feels..

Btw, I still accept who am I Deaf.. That really quite big challenge for all everyones w/me. Here's life goes on.. *sigh*~ :/ Glady you came and bring your vent here.. *wink*~ ;)
 
I feel your pain. :( Yes I have been there, and done that. But it isn't over though.

I know Life is such a BITCH, full of surprises, and so mysterious. Hope you feel better after your vent.
 
I do understand you and support u strongly...my stepdad used to quoted to me "Hearing People who dont understand Deafness are dumber than foolish" I agree with him....I went through much of tough fighting with hearing people about the deaf perspective and impact...they wont give any damn..all they want is shortcut and easy way....be strong (smile)
 
jams, thats one of the terrible things hearing people do., but hey keep ur chin up and show u're brave enough :D
 
I understand how u feel Pinster. They do the same with me too sometimes I Wondered Why people are like that way...It is a shame. Don't blame yourself because you are deaf. Sometimes it's good to be deaf so u wouldn't be hearing annoying things that u do not want to hear. It the same way talking through tdd u know how frustrated when u calling through a relay service hearing people sometimes hung up thinking it is some prank call without giving us a chance to explain what Relay is for...I hate to be hung up and I hate rude people who cannot have a time to explain more clearly...
 
Bullym0m said:
Pinkster,
Yeah sometimes I feel fusterate being am I hating Deaf.. why can't they would understand me or not.. that fact really fusterate w/them.. Not you only ones.. as same thing rest other Deaf peoples feels..

Btw, I still accept who am I Deaf.. That really quite big challenge for all everyones w/me. Here's life goes on.. *sigh*~ :/ Glady you came and bring your vent here.. *wink*~ ;)
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If you have no idea what it feels like to be hearing, then you have NO idea what I feel. I LONG to be hearing more than I love to be deaf. The clarity of my voice and the way I bring myself across to people, is very well done. But the minor fact that I am deaf, makes people treat me poorly. It shouldnt matter, it didnt when I was growing up and it shouldnt now. Fuckin' a if I'd tolerate it.
 
pinkster said:
If you have no idea what it feels like to be hearing, then you have NO idea what I feel. I LONG to be hearing more than I love to be deaf. The clarity of my voice and the way I bring myself across to people, is very well done. But the minor fact that I am deaf, makes people treat me poorly. It shouldnt matter, it didnt when I was growing up and it shouldnt now. Fuckin' a if I'd tolerate it.
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Yes I do certinally understand you totally how much you felt that way...

Of course, I dislike people turns you treat poorly or mistreatment anything general. So am I same thing alikely yours too..

It shouldnt matter, it didnt when I was growing up and it shouldnt now. Fuckin' a if I'd tolerate it.
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Really tough ones too.. If you could dare tolerate them ? Hard to making them change and UNDERSTAND to Deaf peoples feels and accept who they are! As same me2..

I would same your shoes too.. *sigh*
 
If you have no idea what it feels like to be hearing, then you have NO idea what I feel. I LONG to be hearing more than I love to be deaf.
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True....very few of us know what it's like to be hearing. Most of us here have never really known what it's like to be hearing. I sometimes wonder what it would have been like to be hearing, but most of the time I am fine with being deaf[/QUOTE]
The clarity of my voice and the way I bring myself across to people, is very well done. But the minor fact that I am deaf, makes people treat me poorly. It shouldnt matter, it didnt when I was growing up and it shouldnt now. Fuckin' a if I'd tolerate it.
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Well...I can understand. A lot of us here get treated poorly by stupid hearie people b/c we're dhh. I remember when I was little hating being hoh and wanting to be hearing...it wasn't until I was older that I realized that it wasn't my disabilty that was the problem, it was the way people treated me b/c of my disabilties. (I have a host of them)
 
Bullym0m said:
Yes I do certinally understand you totally how much you felt that way...

Of course, I dislike people turns you treat poorly or mistreatment anything general. So am I same thing alikely yours too..

Really tough ones too.. If you could dare tolerate them ? Hard to making them change and UNDERSTAND to Deaf peoples feels and accept who they are! As same me2..

I would same your shoes too.. *sigh*
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You do NOT understand. You were never HEARING, if you were, I'm sure it was short lived. Even though I gradually lost my hearing, I didnt go profoundly deaf till I was 17 and I remember every fucking thing I used to do as a hearing person.

"Fuckin' A if I'd tolerate it" means no fucking way will i ever tolerate people's behavior toward me or anyone that is deaf. :o
 
deafdyke said:
I realized that it wasn't my disabilty that was the problem, it was the way people treated me b/c of my disabilties. (I have a host of them)
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I'm aware of this, but thats not a solution. Im tired of being beaten down, tested everyday. That is NOT life, if someone says that in this thread I promise I'll quit AD.

But I'm just like all you deaf people, I whine and see no solution. My thread is pointless - and dont argue with me on that cause it is true. A vent is good, but a solution is better. I hate it when people say "oh ignore it" "oh thats life" "oh it'll go away" well Im not quite the passive type so I'm not going to do that. I want real solutions this time. I'm 20, life should not be a constant struggle. Thats for when I'm 25 ;)
 
pinkster said:
You do NOT understand. You were never HEARING, if you were, I'm sure it was short lived. Even though I gradually lost my hearing, I didnt go profoundly deaf till I was 17 and I remember every fucking thing I used to do as a hearing person.

"Fuckin' A if I'd tolerate it" means no fucking way will i ever tolerate people's behavior toward me or anyone that is deaf. :o
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Pinkster,

Okay, I understand. No problem.
 
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Hi Everyone
I am a coda kid. Both of my parents are deaf and growing up with them were hard. It seemed to me sometimes that they were against me because I could hear. I would scream at them so loud but they could never hear me. People would think that I was deaf because when I signed to them(my parents), I would also talk like they did and sound like a deaf person. Then I would hear what people would say and they would make fun of us. I would let them go on and act deaf and then I would go off on them. I know that it is hard for deaf people in a hearing world.I know that there are trials that deaf people go through. Anytime I meet a deaf person, I go to them and say hi. They get so excited that I even know sign language and start chattin away. I know that deaf people are very loving. My friend has summed it up pretty good

" I say this because when a tv program features deaf
actors, there is always a great deal of discussion
among Deaf individuals exactly how well represented
they feel they are - Sue Thomas, FBEYE is a
disappointment to many people because they feel it is
unrealistic to portray a deaf person as capable of
reading everyone's lips and have 100 percent accuracy
or near 100 percent accuracy - it's just not humanly
possible for anyone to do that. So, it will be labeled
as a show for "hearing people" rather than the Deaf
community because it shows deaf people in a light that
comes from the idea that speaking and hearing is
better than being deaf and signing. There is a long
tradition of banning ASL from educational programs,
schools and policies stating that ASL is not a true
language (which is incorrect). For a generation of
Deaf individuals who are the same age as our parents
and grandparents, ASL was banned from the schools and
their hands were slapped with rulers for signing. The
oppression of the language continues in more subtle
ways - very few schools have a policy of using ASL. So
Deaf people have been told they are bad, they aren't
intelligent if they sign, there is something wrong
with them. ASL has had to be fought for.

So, this probably seems to be a very long explanation
but it is summarizing over 150 years of Deaf history
and an entire language! :) It is important to
understand the source of pride and how individuals
have had to fight to use ASL and have the broader
hearing community accept them as Deaf signing
individuals."
 
Pinkester,
I undy how you feel like.. sometimes I hate it when hearies treat me like shit..... Truth to tell, I hate being deaf because it is hard to communicate when I do doorknocking so I have to do lit drop.. sometimes people are rude too... Whoever rude to us are stupid and immature...
 
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