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Unread 06-19-2004, 02:06 PM   #1 (permalink)
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Is it okay to call people a retard ?

Do you think it is okay to call AD members/anyone a retard in despite of their experiences, educations, opinions from their point of views, and all that ? What about their experiences (knowledge) that they've been through and that person still call them a "retard" when that person disagreed ?

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Unread 06-19-2004, 02:38 PM   #2 (permalink)
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Do you think it is okay to call AD members/anyone a retard in despite of their experiences, educations, opinions from their point of views, and all that ? What about their experiences (knowledge) that they've been through and that person still call them a "retard" when that person disagreed ?

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It's always good to agree to disagree and leave it at that. If the person can't handle it, then it's... well... you gotta be an example.

It's never okay to call others names. This is just bullying plain and simple - to cover up someone's inadequancy. If someone is harassing you, you should inform a trusted moderator or the administrator immediately and leave the matters up to them. Don't reply to that person who called you a retard (if you do, things will keep dragging on and you will never change the person).

If things aren't done as you want them to be, you may make feedback in how things can be improved/describe the action and how it can be prevented, get feedback on yourself etc.. and if solutions can't be reached that will make everybody happy, simply stop allowing yourself to be in an environment where this bullying is left unchecked. Of course, just my thoughts.
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Unread 06-19-2004, 02:41 PM   #3 (permalink)
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It's quite rude if you call somebody a name that may offend.
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Unread 06-19-2004, 02:46 PM   #4 (permalink)
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yeah..

a person who call someone a retard is an IGNORANT, INSECURE, LONELY, INFERIOR and UNEDUCATED.
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Unread 06-19-2004, 02:47 PM   #5 (permalink)
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I agree 100% with Liza on this. Not only does name-calling offend people, but it can cause a barrier between you and the person. Both persons will dislike each other and not want to listen to each other or open their minds to other person's ideas. Trying to discuss civilly will prevent that.
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Unread 06-19-2004, 02:52 PM   #6 (permalink)
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I agree 100% with Liza on this. Not only does name-calling offend people, but it can cause a barrier between you and the person. Both persons will dislike each other and not want to listen to each other or open their minds to other person's ideas. Trying to discuss civilly will prevent that.
Correct.

But it's not just the name-callings, it was also the accusations, snide remarks, and whining that caused the barriers too as well.
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Unread 06-19-2004, 02:54 PM   #7 (permalink)
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on liza and kootchie, I agree too, calling names that offend can cause a rift between two poeple who may want in later time make peace, if they call anyone a retard as a joke, then ofc must say its a joke but otherwise in plain meanness no way, im not like that....
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Unread 06-19-2004, 04:21 PM   #8 (permalink)
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Do you think it is okay to call AD members/anyone a retard in despite of their experiences, educations, opinions from their point of views, and all that ? What about their experiences (knowledge) that they've been through and that person still call them a "retard" when that person disagreed ?

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I think name calling is bad, with any name. Especially in anger. However, I do call my friends names, affectionately ofc.

My question to you is, are you pointing fingers? Because if you are, you're not really any better than people who name call, are you?
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Unread 06-19-2004, 05:43 PM   #9 (permalink)
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Thanks everyone for sharin' your voices....

I am glad that you posted to share your voices for certain member. I hope that the certain member read all your posts and try to understand that by usin' the word "retard" is NOT acceptable. Someone who used the word "retard" somewhere in this AD......... *Sigh* It's why I decided to make this thread and ask you if, it is ok to call someone a "retard". I know it's NOT okay to call someone like that since it's very rude.

In fact, I know some people from another forum called me "retard" in the past. To me, that's like someone who is a racist, Nazi, KKK, "Adolf Hilter" worshipper....... blah ! That word "retard" will not tolerate !
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Unread 06-19-2004, 07:53 PM   #10 (permalink)
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It's very interesting CyberRed. It's not ok to call them *retard* cuz it's can cause their's feel hurt if any memeber call them for no reason. If i were in ur shoe i will juz walk away or don't post in here till person will aploze(sp) to call *retard* for no reason or juz ingore. Cuz no one prefect right???
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Unread 06-19-2004, 07:56 PM   #11 (permalink)
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Nope....calling someone a retard is like calling someone "gay" as an insult.
I actually am developmentally delayed....I am 24 (close to 25) but still act like I am a teenager in a lot of ways, so the retard insult kinda hits close to home for me (as a matter of fact, I have a syndrome that can and does cause MR in a large percentage of affected people. Strangely enough I am not retarded) On the other hand some people DO act retarded...the type of person who is like "Ummm....Who's President Bush?" I think people should think of an alternative insult that means doofy and out of it, rather then insulting people with legitimate nereodevelopmental issues.
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Unread 06-19-2004, 08:03 PM   #12 (permalink)
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Thanks everyone for sharin' your voices....

I am glad that you posted to share your voices for certain member. I hope that the certain member read all your posts and try to understand that by usin' the word "retard" is NOT acceptable. Someone who used the word "retard" somewhere in this AD......... *Sigh* It's why I decided to make this thread and ask you if, it is ok to call someone a "retard". I know it's NOT okay to call someone like that since it's very rude.

In fact, I know some people from another forum called me "retard" in the past. To me, that's like someone who is a racist, Nazi, KKK, "Adolf Hilter" worshipper....... blah ! That word "retard" will not tolerate !
I totally agree that I do not like someone used the word retarded because they can find a better word instead of the word retareded. It shows that person who used the word that have limited themselve in order to say something but retarded. KWIM It disgusts me whoever used the word that is another issues. Glad you brought it up here. by the way, i am told that i m retarded too in the past. oh boy..
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Unread 06-19-2004, 08:11 PM   #13 (permalink)
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But if a person say something like, "Man, that is really gay".

The word, gay can be also translated as today's slang for the word, lame. Have you ever thought about that?

Just a thought.
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Unread 06-19-2004, 08:52 PM   #14 (permalink)
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I would have to agree with Liza and Kootchie.. Calling names is out of line. Repect to other people, no matter what they are. If you want to be a nice person and good friend, respect other people. If you do calling name to other, it could make you look like a bad person or bad friend.
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Unread 06-19-2004, 09:42 PM   #15 (permalink)
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Retard is not a NICE word to use. In fact it is against the law to use it in Australia.

No, I would never call one a retard. People deserve respect!
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Unread 06-19-2004, 09:51 PM   #16 (permalink)
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Retard is not a NICE word to use. In fact it is against the law to use it in Australia.

No, I would never call one a retard. People deserve respect!
It's against the law?

I personally don't believe there should be laws based on name-callings. But I do believe that it should be frowned upon.
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Unread 06-19-2004, 11:14 PM   #17 (permalink)
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But if a person say something like, "Man, that is really gay".

The word, gay can be also translated as today's slang for the word, lame. Have you ever thought about that?

Just a thought.

that one can be the one that i never thought of. thanks banjo.
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Unread 06-19-2004, 11:21 PM   #18 (permalink)
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But if a person say something like, "Man, that is really gay".
I always say something like " Really? I thought it was lesbian!" or " How do you know that thing's gay? Did you see it shagging another thing?"
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The word, gay can be also translated as today's slang for the word, lame. Have you ever thought about that?
Yeah, by FOURTH graders! To me the word gay is such a fourth grade slang word, along the lines of Dude and totally radical.
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Unread 06-19-2004, 11:23 PM   #19 (permalink)
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i agree with LIZA!!!
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Unread 06-20-2004, 12:57 AM   #20 (permalink)
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Never assume they are retard.....that's about it...gotta respect them no matter what. They had experiences growing up in a different way from others, social factors, and all that stuff....anyhow so far alldeaf has tons of nice people, I've never seen any one insult other members here on alldeaf....pretty cooperative.
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Unread 06-20-2004, 01:00 AM   #21 (permalink)
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I totally agree that I do not like someone used the word retarded because they can find a better word instead of the word retareded. It shows that person who used the word that have limited themselve in order to say something but retarded. KWIM It disgusts me whoever used the word that is another issues. Glad you brought it up here. by the way, i am told that i m retarded too in the past. oh boy..
Care to tell me what is KWIM ? lol
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Unread 06-20-2004, 02:08 AM   #22 (permalink)
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Yes, itīs not very nice word.

Retard is the most offense word. If anyone are disagreed with othersīs view then leave it or say why they are disagree instead of calling those names like this.

I hope Admin & Mod see it.
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Unread 06-20-2004, 05:49 AM   #23 (permalink)
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yeah..

a person who call someone a retard is an IGNORANT, INSECURE, LONELY, INFERIOR and UNEDUCATED.
I totally agree with what you said -- I saw the perfect example to that. Unfortunately, it's my step son.

I've removed the pictures, but I can explain what he did -- he slandered a few people on his forum he owns. Kept on insulting people 'gay', being stupid and suck balls, etc. His english isn't all that great.
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Removed this one as well -- I just know that I will be threatened by those people if they saw the photos I took. (Screenshots, that is)
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Unread 06-20-2004, 06:57 AM   #25 (permalink)
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Care to tell me what is KWIM ? lol
KWIM = Know what I mean.. My apologize for the abbrev. words.
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KWIM = Know what I mean.. My apologize for the abbrev. words.
Oh! Thanks for explainin' what it stands for. Nah...you are perfectly excused!
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Unread 06-20-2004, 10:13 AM   #27 (permalink)
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Thanks everyone for sharin' your voices....

I am glad that you posted to share your voices for certain member. I hope that the certain member read all your posts and try to understand that by usin' the word "retard" is NOT acceptable. Someone who used the word "retard" somewhere in this AD......... *Sigh* It's why I decided to make this thread and ask you if, it is ok to call someone a "retard". I know it's NOT okay to call someone like that since it's very rude.

In fact, I know some people from another forum called me "retard" in the past. To me, that's like someone who is a racist, Nazi, KKK, "Adolf Hilter" worshipper....... blah ! That word "retard" will not tolerate !
Is this your reply to my question?
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Oh, yeah, consider me with Liza on this one too. It's never okay to resort to name-calling. Like Jamie said, I do call my friends "dummies" or other names that would be deemed insulting, if they didn't know I was kidding. Of course, I do make sure that they know, either before or after I call them such a name, that I AM joking. It's not in my blood to hurt anyone in any way. Despite the screen name, too...LOL.
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Oh, yeah, consider me with Liza on this one too. It's never okay to resort to name-calling. Like Jamie said, I do call my friends "dummies" or other names that would be deemed insulting, if they didn't know I was kidding. Of course, I do make sure that they know, either before or after I call them such a name, that I AM joking. It's not in my blood to hurt anyone in any way. Despite the screen name, too...LOL.
Malfy, I've never known you to call anyone names even in gest! lol But, you're right, as is Liza.

I think if a person has to belittle someone simply for having a differing opinion, then they need a serious reality check, and probably should also grow up! Because, like my Mommy told me when I was young... "If you can't say anything nice, then maybe, you shouldn't say it at ALL!" lol

I think differing opinions are what make each of us unique, but there's no place for rudeness. This world is a difficult place to be in as it is. We don't need to add to the chaos by what we say to people, and how we say it.
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Unread 06-20-2004, 01:05 PM   #30 (permalink)
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My question to you is, are you pointing fingers? Because if you are, you're not really any better than people who name call, are you?
I don't call anyone a "retard" to point at. I am sure there's a certain member who called people a "retard" in this AD. It's why I made this thread to ask AD members if, they think it is okay to call anyone a "retard" or not.
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