Babyblue

We see many endless threads on abortions.

So what would you do to ensure your teenage daughter from getting pregnant? Or having your teen son getting someone pregnant?

By saying this, I am talking about educating children on waiting til they are married. As we know a lot of teens are sexually active regardless of what their parents say. Hence they are not all angels.

How do you feel about parents that put their daughters on birth control or condoms. Or giving your son condoms. Health dept will do it for free without parential consent.

I believe it is ok. Teaching teens to practice safe sex is NOT giving them permission. It is teaching them to protect themselves from STD and unwanted pregnancy.

I rather to know my children will practice sex safely than them doing it without protection.

It is almost impossible to stop teen sex. Statistic shows a lot of teen have sex before finishing High School.

Please discuss.

Deafness

__________________
This advertising will not be shown in this way to registered members.
Register your free account today and become a member on AllDeaf.com

Aleser

I'd much rather offer it to my children and be absolutely sure that they've got the education and skills to be safe rather than assume they're getting what they need (birth control and condoms for females, condoms for males, as well as STD testing) behind my back.

I was 13 or 14 when I got birth control without my parent's knowledge. I was self-educated enough to find a clinic that would let me come in alone, would not charge me full price for the exams or for the rx, so on and so forth.

I don't think most people that age, or even a few years older, are. A few of my young cousins, compliments of them asking me anything from 'do i need EC(emergency contraception) after x unprotected sex act' to 'where can i get an abortion' are proof enough for that- especially since they are 16+ at the time.. are proof that it needs to be talked about and not assumed.

Virtually everyone in the world has sex. Why's it wrong to make children and teens aware of that and maybe save their lives?

__________________
"She thinks... she can make people do what she wants or needs, what is right, by the sheer force of her own talent, not by forcing them... she can teach them and persuade them... that they'll catch it from her. This is still faith in their rationality, in the omnipotence of reason. The mistake? Reason is not automatic. Those who deny it cannot be conquered by it. Do not count on them."

lovezebras

I've been on birth control since I was 16. It was mostly due to really bad periods but at the same time I knew I was getting older and my feelings could change at any time about remaining abstinent so to be on the safe side I went on birth control which also helped with my skin, and period, and now it helps me be safe from accidently getting pregnant. My bf and I are now broken up/on a break but when we did have sex we almost always used condoms, i made him, and only once did we have an accident that we were unprotected as we had been drinking, but again i was still on the pill.

Babyblue

i agree with both post above.

Aleser thanks for reminding me of the female condom.
I believe education and teaching the new generation on preventions.

shel90

I agree with everyone else. I will need to start thinking about that soon. My mom took me to the dr to get me pills when I was 17 or 18 and I thank her for that.

__________________
"Wine improves with age. The older I get, the better I like it."

--- Anonymous

Gemma

I have already started this dialogue with my daughters. They dont want to hear it of course but I keep bringing it up so by the time they are ready they will remember that their Mom is open minded and want them to be safe and protected in every way so will be willing to get them on the pills or whatnot. It is not an easy subject to discuss in length with them as they are easily embarrased and shy about this topic but I want them to remember tidbits of our talks in back of their heads and that I am not a judgemental type.

Of course I talked about abstinence but thena gain I am not going to be fooling myself thinking that they wont have sex until they get married! I basically told them it is very important that they wait for that SPECIAL guy, not throw it away on some jerk. I pray that they will meet nice boys, not bad boys!

Gemma

I am glad to see that you are empowered and intent to protect yourself at every cost - being on the Pill does not always prevent pregnancy 100 percent of time. My sister was on the Pill yet got pregnant with twins last year! Boy she was stunned but thank god she was 24 at that time and went on to marry her sweetheart.

Cheri

I've taught my son how to have sex responsibly and safely, if I tell my son not to have sex until marriage like he would listen to me? Teenagers are going to have sex, rather we don't want them to. My son also has condoms, it doesn't mean I am promoting him to have sex or it's okay to have sex, It is only to ensure safety from STDs and pregnancy if he ever comes down to having sex in the future. I rather him to be safe than sorry.

__________________
Avoid being a victim of a stroke, a stroke can happen to anyone at anytime. You will never know how devastating this could be until you had live through it. It affects everybody. So Support Stroke Awareness to find a cure and hope.

Babyblue

I have started the same dialogue with my daughter. She thinks it is gross now. But I rather to educate her now than to wait til it is too late. My son have a couple more years and I will do the same.

Gemma

Right- it is important for boys to know that they have to carry around condoms and use it every single time - not expect girls to take care of it - many girls would say Im on the Pill - then the boy expect it to be okay. How do he know if the girl is following the Pill faithfully? Better to use condoms every time!

Gemma

I agree! HOw old is your daughter? My girls are 12 and 13 - I started it 2 years ago - never too early - I would watch TV shows or movies with them and bring up issue casually, pointing out to specific situations, etc so they would get a lecture without knowing that they got a lecture

Babyblue

Mine is 11 now soon to be 12. She is in Jr. High. I started talking to her last year.

As she get older I will throw in more and more details of sexual ed.

Babyblue

Actually she learned about some of it a while back.

"good touches and bad touches" a long time ago. As well as my son.
It is also important.

Gemma

I am not too crazy about Lifetime movies but I find some of them very educational for girls - such as teen pregnancies, molestations, rape, etc so that way the girls watch it with me and learn a few things.

Babyblue

Some people think birth control just gives their child permission to have sex.

Anyone here thinks that?

Maria

Yeah, some people think that. It's either that or their kid will hide from their parents doin' sex with their significant other.

Babyblue

They will sneak and hide regardless of what parents or educators say and have. S-E-X.

Do you personally think birth control gives permission to have sex?

Cheri

No, It is only to ensure safety from STDs and pregnancies. It's better than not having protection at all when sex comes down to it.

__________________
Avoid being a victim of a stroke, a stroke can happen to anyone at anytime. You will never know how devastating this could be until you had live through it. It affects everybody. So Support Stroke Awareness to find a cure and hope.

Jolie77

Certainly, It doesn't matter how or where they (the teens) learn it from. They will have sex, regardless. If we are the ones that tells them not to have sex or to forbid them to do it, It will only fuel the fire for their curiosity. The more it is made, the more curious they will come to it and do it anyway.

Some argue that giving the teens birth control may give a 'green' light for them to have sex but on the other hand, some argue that it is for the best of their welfare.

As for me, I don't think it is entirely based on the permission to give them the 'green' light for having sex. Here's what I think - By giving them birth control only means that we are giving them the choice by either having sex or not and also to ensure that they are aware of the risks that comes with it. We just cannot be idle and let them on the loose just because we are not the one to talk about the sexual health issues with them. Of course, it is not a comfortable issue for a teen to talk to a parent about it but in the long run, they will see it when they get a bit older.

__________________
Isaiah 33:6 - "He will be the sure foundation for your times, a rich store of salvation and wisdom and knowledge; the fear of the Lord is the key to this treasure."

Babyblue

It is not easy to talk about sex with my children. But it has to be done. I'm very fortunate that my daughter is open and honest with me.
She askes a lot of questions and I'm surprised by what she already knows.
And she is only in 6th grade.

lsfoster

Currently my best plan for making sure my kids don't accidentally get pregnant is to hope they're gay (like their dear old moms).

Of course I'll also be sure to teach them all about safe sex with whoever they're with. Sex was never really a "taboo" subject at all for me growing up, and I feel like it promotes much healthier attitudes and understanding of it.

__________________
"Voici mon secret. Il est très simple: on ne voit bien qu'avec le cœur. L'essentiel est invisible pour les yeux."

SFShawn13

I am in full support of sexual education being taught in health classes.

I'll also raise my children to know that they can talk to my about sex - I think a constant conversation about it is good. Not just "one talk" and that's it.

I will definately keep condoms in the house, lmao.

A daughter getting pregnant or my son getting someone pregnant would not be the end of the world. I will always support my child.

Liebling:-)))

I agree with everyone here...

I do not need to add my post here...

All what I want to share about my soon to be 16 years old son. I know from my feeling that he had sex relation because I can tell thru his different movement...

We once caught him tried condom out of curiousity at several years ago... Should I mad with him? No, but let him experiement out of curiousity... Of course we told him that condom is not 100% safe but it's good thing is protect from diease ... I also told him that the pill is also not 100% safe, too. Best is use condom to make sure...

__________________

Liebling:-)))

True, several people I know said this.. we debated over those issues at other Forums before.

One of my good friends' sister is a very religion person. She brought her 3 children up strict... 3 children can't talk open with their parents... until happened... *Anna*, 15 years old daughter met and fall in love with 21 years old guy (now her husband) in 1999... He is her first love... She went to her mother for advice... Guess what, she said that she won't permit her to have birth control pill until she is 18 years old... So they use condom to have sex... she fall in pregnant...

My friend's sister & husband and *Anna*'s boyfriend (now husband)'s parents together support them finanically (boyfriend was a student, that's time)... They lived at attic of sister's and husband's big house... renovation into beautiful home - own kitchen, living room, etc for them to prepare for a child together... They support *Anna* for continue her study as social worker... It's her dream wish... They got married at 2 years ago and have another child... and got job... it fulfill their dream wish... It's wonderful... I told my friend that I can image what they become without their parent's support? I would do the same as *Anne* and guy's family if any happened to my sons... then they have my support... because I want to see my both son's go to good path, not bad path because he made a mistake.

__________________

PowerON

It show that you have good responsible and care on your life.

It's not only human begin being flawless nor education and parents. It always been happen to anyone for long time in present and past. It goes the same in future.

__________________
• [Illustrator.Blog-alloon.com] •
Don't shoot me! I'm only blogger!

Byrdie714

Hope that they will be able to differentiate between the two as some girls just end up with love & lust in their eyes without knowing how bad they are being treated.

Byrdie714

I'll never forget my first conversation about sex with my parents.

It was *shuddering* horrifying.

Jolie77

Indeed, It has to be done. My boys are not at the age yet to talk about it but when the time comes, I know I will have to talk to them about that issue. I'm just not looking forward to it, haha but yeah, gotta do it one way or another.

That is good to know your daughter is being open and honest with you. It shows that she is trusting you and she knows she can rely on you for any thing even if the subject is sensitive.

I also would promote the awareness which is obviously important. Not only that, It will also ensure their maturity too.

__________________
Isaiah 33:6 - "He will be the sure foundation for your times, a rich store of salvation and wisdom and knowledge; the fear of the Lord is the key to this treasure."

Hwy99

I agree with you, Babyblue, teaching the teenagers is not a permission, just to teach them to be protective.

Babyblue

Not much of a debate.

Glad to see more and more people understanding about this issue.