women cannot ask men out

LauraHam · 07-23-2008, 10:49 PM

From another thread, I just wanted to open it up for everyone. I'd like to know out there how many of us women have asked men out..whether you have been successful or not, just as long as you HAVE done it. Casual dates as well as serious dates.

I have asked men out since high school. Sometimes I've been successful and other times it did not turn out so well. Comments?

CrzyMeg · 07-23-2008, 10:50 PM

I rather have men ask me out than other way around.

sequoias · 07-23-2008, 10:52 PM

Yes, some women do ask men out. I have seen that with my own eyes. It happens on a rare case, though. Even some women do ask men to marry....pretty odd eh?

CrzyMeg · 07-23-2008, 10:54 PM

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Originally Posted by sequoias

Yes, some women do ask men out. I have seen that with my own eyes. It happens on a rare case, though. Even some women do ask men to marry....pretty odd eh?

yes odd.

shel90 · 07-23-2008, 10:54 PM

Oh gosh.. I have a colorful history with that...

I always have been insecure when it comes to men so after my separation, I became like a tiger on the hunt for this one guy I totally became infuated with and actually asked him out. I even asked him to join me for a week trip to Myrtle Beach. It worked but no, we didnt end up in a relationship cuz I think the attraction was solely based on pure lust on both of our parts.

I have asked men out but to be honest, I hated it cuz I didnt handle rejection too well because of my low self-esteem in the past.

However, I am married and I can ask my hubby on a date anytime. I treated him to a nice date 2 weeks ago with seafood dinner and dancing all paid for by me.

I think some men go thru the same fears of rejection so in my opinion, I dont think it is fair to lay all the responsibility on them. This is the 21st century after all. Just my 2 cents.

LauraHam · 07-23-2008, 10:55 PM

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Originally Posted by sequoias

Yes, some women do ask men out. I have seen that with my own eyes. It happens on a rare case, though. Even some women do ask men to marry....pretty odd eh?

i dont find it odd at all.

CrzyMeg · 07-23-2008, 10:57 PM

I follow traditions. which is men ask women out. Me traditions.

shel90 · 07-23-2008, 10:57 PM

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Originally Posted by sequoias

Yes, some women do ask men out. I have seen that with my own eyes. It happens on a rare case, though. Even some women do ask men to marry....pretty odd eh?

In my heart, I do find it odd but in my logical mind, I do not find it odd. Weird, heh? Maybe I am the odd one!

sequoias · 07-23-2008, 10:58 PM

I guess not.

But, hey it's the 21st century.....things change, ya know?

CrzyMeg · 07-23-2008, 10:58 PM

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Originally Posted by shel90

In my heart, I do find it odd but in my logical mind, I do not find it odd. Weird, heh? Maybe I am the odd one!

maybe you are.

shel90 · 07-23-2008, 11:00 PM

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Originally Posted by CrzyMeg

maybe you are.

I know that in some ways, I am.

So, u are not comfortable asking men out or u believe in the old fashioned traditions of men being the ones who ask women out?

This is not to be insulting but just to be curious.

VERY interesting thread!

CrzyMeg · 07-23-2008, 11:05 PM

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Originally Posted by shel90

I know that in some ways, I am.

So, u are not comfortable asking men out or u believe in the old fashioned traditions of men being the ones who ask women out?

This is not to be insulting but just to be curious.

VERY interesting thread!

I am old fashion. I prefer men being ones who ask women out.

inochi · 07-23-2008, 11:11 PM

I like both ways. I'm very assertive in asking men out, if they are not interested..okay, either move on or continue trying to see if possible to harness their interest and at least go out on a date. Same thing for the guys. I don't like to follow old-age traditions.

The Highlander · 07-23-2008, 11:19 PM

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Originally Posted by sequoias

I guess not.

But, hey it's the 21st century.....things change, ya know?

Yes, Welcome to 21st Century and someone asked me out and end up we married.

CrzyMeg · 07-23-2008, 11:20 PM

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Originally Posted by the Highlander

yes, Welcome To 21st Century And Someone Asked Me Out And End Up We Married.

Lol

Gemma · 07-23-2008, 11:33 PM

Im too shy to ask a man out! I know I have had so many missed opportunities because I am sure that many men were shy like me and didnt ask me out either - my friends always roll their eyes up and tell me that Im being too stubborn and should just ask a guy out! Nope I refuse to

I am very assertive in many other ways but not in this department......

Gemma · 07-23-2008, 11:35 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by LauraHam

From another thread, I just wanted to open it up for everyone. I'd like to know out there how many of us women have asked men out..whether you have been successful or not, just as long as you HAVE done it. Casual dates as well as serious dates.

I have asked men out since high school. Sometimes I've been successful and other times it did not turn out so well. Comments?

Laura, perhaps you can teach me how to ask a man out?

I think you are a brave girl for doing it

Gemma · 07-23-2008, 11:36 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by inochi

I like both ways. I'm very assertive in asking men out, if they are not interested..okay, either move on or continue trying to see if possible to harness their interest and at least go out on a date. Same thing for the guys. I don't like to follow old-age traditions.

Correct me if I am wrong, but I think you are married - who did the asking? You or your significant other?

shezzbeav · 07-23-2008, 11:41 PM

Women can ask men out...

However

I'm old-fashioned about this... I'd rather for men to ask women out. Don't ask me why lol.

Gemma · 07-23-2008, 11:45 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by shezzbeav

Women can ask men out...

However

I'm old-fashioned about this... I'd rather for men to ask women out. Don't ask me why lol.

Say you caught a glimpse of that ONE and you fell in love madly at first sight....would you just pass up the opportunity or try to find dutch courage to ask him out? What if he is very shy and would never thought that you would actually want to go out on date with him?

***VamPyroX*** · 07-23-2008, 11:48 PM

I see nothing wrong with women asking men out. I think it's nice since women are doing their part to get things going.

I've been asked out a few times by women for dates.

shel90 · 07-23-2008, 11:50 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by VamPyroX

I see nothing wrong with women asking men out. I think it's nice since women are doing their part to get things going.

I've been asked out a few times by women for dates.

So, as a man...pls share what does the male population think of women asking men out.? Do they want to be asked out sometime or just a certain few, like yourself? We, women, are afraid of looking like aggressive sluts when we ask men out (not all women but myself and many of my girlfriends have discussed this).

shel90 · 07-23-2008, 11:52 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Gemma

Say you caught a glimpse of that ONE and you fell in love madly at first sight....would you just pass up the opportunity or try to find dutch courage to ask him out? What if he is very shy and would never thought that you would actually want to go out on date with him?

That's the thing...sometimes old fashioned views have to "go"! Life is too short..and rejection is not the end of the world, isnt it. Sure, it hurts as hell but it fades over time but at least we can live with the peace of knowing that we tried instead of wondering? Hope that makes sense.

shezzbeav · 07-23-2008, 11:56 PM

That makes sense.

I've asked a couple of guys out, but only ended up being rejected by most.

If I find a guy that I really like, I'll probably take all risks and ask him out.

You never know what will happen...

~♥~Pinky~♥~ · 07-24-2008, 12:04 AM

LauraHam, Why you are doubt about me?? You need to stop copycat from me! You made your own thread when I talked to DPP. I just offer him that all. You were jump on me! You called me WRONG! Why you're being a harsh at me? You're so judge on my opinion. We are different individual with couples. I was not comfort to ask men for go out. I had bad experience with my ex boyfriends. They rejected me because they didn't like me to ask them for go out. I think you're misread my post!

I never ask my husband for marry. He asked me for marry first! He got me an engaged in first place. I think you're against my opinion! You have to RESPECT my VIEW!

***VamPyroX*** · 07-24-2008, 12:05 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by shel90

So, as a man...pls share what does the male population think of women asking men out.? Do they want to be asked out sometime or just a certain few, like yourself? We, women, are afraid of looking like aggressive sluts when we ask men out (not all women but myself and many of my girlfriends have discussed this).

Everyone is different.

The world is changing. People change their habits, traditions, preferences, etc.

Some men are old-fashioned and prefer men-ask-women-only.

Some men are modern and don't care.

I've even met some women who are turned off when men ask them out cuz it seems that men think women are helpless and shouldn't do the asking out. Sadly, a lot of these women are still single.

07-23-2008, 10:49 PM	#1 (permalink)
LauraHam Registered User Join Date: Apr 2008 Posts: 34	women cannot ask men out From another thread, I just wanted to open it up for everyone. I'd like to know out there how many of us women have asked men out..whether you have been successful or not, just as long as you HAVE done it. Casual dates as well as serious dates. I have asked men out since high school. Sometimes I've been successful and other times it did not turn out so well. Comments?

07-23-2008, 10:50 PM	#2 (permalink)
CrzyMeg I love Toby Join Date: May 2008 Location: Florida Posts: 5,499 Blog Entries: 1	I rather have men ask me out than other way around. __________________ "Despite everything, I believe that people are really good at heart." Anne Frank GO PIRATES! Pensacola Junior College

07-23-2008, 10:52 PM	#3 (permalink)
sequoias Subaru rules! Join Date: Jun 2004 Location: The Evergreen State Posts: 12,859	Yes, some women do ask men out. I have seen that with my own eyes. It happens on a rare case, though. Even some women do ask men to marry....pretty odd eh? __________________

07-23-2008, 10:54 PM	#5 (permalink)
shel90 Sun Whorshipper Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: A Desert Rat that has found herself in Maryland Posts: 16,155 Blog Entries: 1	Oh gosh.. I have a colorful history with that... I always have been insecure when it comes to men so after my separation, I became like a tiger on the hunt for this one guy I totally became infuated with and actually asked him out. I even asked him to join me for a week trip to Myrtle Beach. It worked but no, we didnt end up in a relationship cuz I think the attraction was solely based on pure lust on both of our parts. I have asked men out but to be honest, I hated it cuz I didnt handle rejection too well because of my low self-esteem in the past. However, I am married and I can ask my hubby on a date anytime. I treated him to a nice date 2 weeks ago with seafood dinner and dancing all paid for by me. I think some men go thru the same fears of rejection so in my opinion, I dont think it is fair to lay all the responsibility on them. This is the 21st century after all. Just my 2 cents. __________________ ~Shel~ "A child educated only at school is an uneducated child." -George Santayana

07-23-2008, 10:57 PM	#7 (permalink)
CrzyMeg I love Toby Join Date: May 2008 Location: Florida Posts: 5,499 Blog Entries: 1	I follow traditions. which is men ask women out. Me traditions. __________________ "Despite everything, I believe that people are really good at heart." Anne Frank GO PIRATES! Pensacola Junior College

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07-23-2008, 10:58 PM	#9 (permalink)
sequoias Subaru rules! Join Date: Jun 2004 Location: The Evergreen State Posts: 12,859	I guess not. But, hey it's the 21st century.....things change, ya know? __________________

07-23-2008, 11:11 PM	#13 (permalink)
inochi Eternal Life Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 515	I like both ways. I'm very assertive in asking men out, if they are not interested..okay, either move on or continue trying to see if possible to harness their interest and at least go out on a date. Same thing for the guys. I don't like to follow old-age traditions.

07-23-2008, 11:33 PM	#16 (permalink)
Gemma Registered User Join Date: Jan 2007 Posts: 961	Im too shy to ask a man out! I know I have had so many missed opportunities because I am sure that many men were shy like me and didnt ask me out either - my friends always roll their eyes up and tell me that Im being too stubborn and should just ask a guy out! Nope I refuse to I am very assertive in many other ways but not in this department......

07-23-2008, 11:41 PM	#19 (permalink)
shezzbeav ...just a bloody beaver Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Brisbane, Australia Posts: 1,199	Women can ask men out... However I'm old-fashioned about this... I'd rather for men to ask women out. Don't ask me why lol.

07-23-2008, 11:48 PM	#21 (permalink)
*VamPyroX* bloody phreak from hell Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: Hell Posts: 27,867	I see nothing wrong with women asking men out. I think it's nice since women are doing their part to get things going. I've been asked out a few times by women for dates. __________________ Check out my city... CLICK HERE! (If you already visited yesterday, visit again today!)

07-23-2008, 11:56 PM	#24 (permalink)
shezzbeav ...just a bloody beaver Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Brisbane, Australia Posts: 1,199	That makes sense. I've asked a couple of guys out, but only ended up being rejected by most. If I find a guy that I really like, I'll probably take all risks and ask him out. You never know what will happen...

07-24-2008, 12:04 AM	#25 (permalink)
~♥~Pinky~♥~ Registered User Join Date: Apr 2008 Posts: 4,681	LauraHam, Why you are doubt about me?? You need to stop copycat from me! You made your own thread when I talked to DPP. I just offer him that all. You were jump on me! You called me WRONG! Why you're being a harsh at me? You're so judge on my opinion. We are different individual with couples. I was not comfort to ask men for go out. I had bad experience with my ex boyfriends. They rejected me because they didn't like me to ask them for go out. I think you're misread my post! I never ask my husband for marry. He asked me for marry first! He got me an engaged in first place. I think you're against my opinion! You have to RESPECT my VIEW! __________________