women cannot ask men out - Page 3

Gemma · 07-24-2008, 10:35 AM

However I know that many girls are pursuing men. Many boys complain that girls are being too aggressive. I think there is a fine line there. Boys complain that girls call them way too much. My friend's 13 year old son is goodlooking and gets calls from 2 to 4 different girls every single day. He is not even interested in girls!

I am starting to change my opinion about women asking men out - but I think it should be handled carefully not to leave wrong impressions like Shel mentioned. Unfortunately we women still deal with rude labels and double standards and that can frighten some of us like me for example.

moonflower · 07-24-2008, 10:46 AM

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Originally Posted by ~♥~Pinky~♥~

Really? How did you know?

well men did all the "works" like forever and women wanted to be equal so that why this century it is their turn to be equal

moonflower · 07-24-2008, 10:49 AM

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Originally Posted by dead money

good. go bring home the bacon while i get a manicure and watch DOOL all day.

lol good one

DeafPenPal · 07-24-2008, 10:56 AM

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Originally Posted by Gemma

However I know that many girls are pursuing men. Many boys complain that girls are being too aggressive. I think there is a fine line there. Boys complain that girls call them way too much. My friend's 13 year old son is goodlooking and gets calls from 2 to 4 different girls every single day. He is not even interested in girls!

I am starting to change my opinion about women asking men out - but I think it should be handled carefully not to leave wrong impressions like Shel mentioned. Unfortunately we women still deal with rude labels and double standards and that can frighten some of us like me for example.

Let look the fact is that teenager under 18 is still too young to make the decision on their own. They are not mature as an adult yet. Too many girls ask one boy out is therefore the teen dating game.

The boy would think it's not cool to have girls ask him out. But when he grew up as an adult he will come to a reality that life has changed that it's the 21st century and it's woman's turn to ask men out.

CrzyMeg · 07-24-2008, 11:22 AM

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Originally Posted by Matilda

^^

Ok, girls ... what lines would you like to hear from men?

Do you want them to be straightforward and get to the point, instead of cheesy/corny lines?

I would like hear cheesy lines sometimes but i want them to be straightforward.

Brian · 07-24-2008, 12:17 PM

So if one asked me out and we get serious, then I should expect her to be the breadwinner of the household... Maybe I'll learn to love to watch Soap Operas and gossip with my girlfriends and gay friends on the fone...

I have been asked by several girls before. But the practice still is highly frowned upon.

bruisedhalo · 07-24-2008, 02:58 PM

i'd rather hang out with a guy before an actual date date. i find that if i just go on a date things get awkward and they never really work out. so it really doesn't matter who does the asking part.

CrzyMeg · 07-24-2008, 03:52 PM

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Originally Posted by bruisedhalo

i'd rather hang out with a guy before an actual date date. i find that if i just go on a date things get awkward and they never really work out. so it really doesn't matter who does the asking part.

Same here.

ClearSky · 07-24-2008, 05:04 PM

I think asking men out is like women wearing the pants. I think that we have different roles. I think men should be confident to ask serious women out. Women should try to return the interest by flirting a little to show men interest that it's okay to talk to them if you're interested.

I think it's different today because today it's all about dating whomever fancy them and as much as you can before settling down seriously. In the past, men knew it was them to ask serious women out for a wife.

I think people have it confused that dating is the only way to get to know people, but it's not. You can just talk to them normal before deciding whether or not they are right for you to ask the person out formally.

I think it's weird for women to ask men out. I think it's men's role to ask women out.

shel90 · 07-24-2008, 05:35 PM

For those who think it is the men's role to ask women out, is it also the men's role to be the breadwinner and the women stay home to take care of the house and kids?

CrzyMeg · 07-24-2008, 06:49 PM

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Originally Posted by shel90

For those who think it is the men's role to ask women out, is it also the men's role to be the breadwinner and the women stay home to take care of the house and kids?

No, mostly old fashion. I want to be high school teacher.

Byrdie714 · 07-24-2008, 07:05 PM

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Originally Posted by shel90

For those who think it is the men's role to ask women out, is it also the men's role to be the breadwinner and the women stay home to take care of the house and kids?

Fat chance in today's society!

inochi · 07-24-2008, 07:46 PM

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Originally Posted by Gemma

Bingo! So it CAN work if a woman ask a man out

that's right!

jillio · 07-24-2008, 07:56 PM

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Originally Posted by shel90

In my heart, I do find it odd but in my logical mind, I do not find it odd. Weird, heh? Maybe I am the odd one!

No, not odd at all. Your heart tells you what you were told to believe, and your mind tells you what makes sense. They aren't always the same thing.

jillio · 07-24-2008, 07:59 PM

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Originally Posted by shel90

So, as a man...pls share what does the male population think of women asking men out.? Do they want to be asked out sometime or just a certain few, like yourself? We, women, are afraid of looking like aggressive sluts when we ask men out (not all women but myself and many of my girlfriends have discussed this).

There have been studies done on this, believe it or not. The results indicate that men like it when women take the initiative and ask them out. They get tired of the pressure always being on the man, and him always having to be the one to risk rejection.

So, come on ladies, let's give those men a break, and be assertive!

jillio · 07-24-2008, 08:00 PM

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Originally Posted by LauraHam

how about we just make it an even playing ground for both sexes and stop relying on each other to take the lead?

Wonderful solution. Gender equality at it's finest.

CrzyMeg · 07-24-2008, 08:42 PM

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Originally Posted by jillio

Wonderful solution. Gender equality at it's finest.

I agreed.

shel90 · 07-24-2008, 08:59 PM

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Originally Posted by jillio

There have been studies done on this, believe it or not. The results indicate that men like it when women take the initiative and ask them out. They get tired of the pressure always being on the man, and him always having to be the one to risk rejection.

So, come on ladies, let's give those men a break, and be assertive!

Yea? Strange that many men complain about women being too agressive by asking them out. Pride, perhaps?

jillio · 07-24-2008, 09:18 PM

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Originally Posted by shel90

Yea? Strange that many men complain about women being too agressive by asking them out. Pride, perhaps?

Yeppers! Gotta keep up that macho image, and part of that is saying what they think people expect a "real" man to say!

sequoias · 07-24-2008, 09:21 PM

Hmmm...I ain't no macho.

If you want me to be aggressive, so be it....but I kinda suck at that. LOL

CrzyMeg · 07-24-2008, 09:30 PM

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Originally Posted by jillio

Yeppers! Gotta keep up that macho image, and part of that is saying what they think people expect a "real" man to say!

~♥~Pinky~♥~ · 07-24-2008, 11:55 PM

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Originally Posted by ClearSky

I think asking men out is like women wearing the pants. I think that we have different roles. I think men should be confident to ask serious women out. Women should try to return the interest by flirting a little to show men interest that it's okay to talk to them if you're interested.

I think it's different today because today it's all about dating whomever fancy them and as much as you can before settling down seriously. In the past, men knew it was them to ask serious women out for a wife.

I think people have it confused that dating is the only way to get to know people, but it's not. You can just talk to them normal before deciding whether or not they are right for you to ask the person out formally.

I think it's weird for women to ask men out. I think it's men's role to ask women out.

ClearSky · 07-25-2008, 10:48 PM

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Originally Posted by shel90

For those who think it is the men's role to ask women out, is it also the men's role to be the breadwinner and the women stay home to take care of the house and kids?

Isn't being a mom a full time job already? Why can't men be the breadwinner? He doesn't bear the children. It's women's choice to opt to work, and I know some women need the extra income. It also depends on the lifestyle you want.

We do need equality, but I still think there are different roles in men and women.

shel90 · 07-25-2008, 10:52 PM

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Originally Posted by ClearSky

Isn't being a mom a full time job already? Why can't men be the breadwinner? He doesn't bear the children. It's women's choice to opt to work, and I know some women need the extra income. It also depends on the lifestyle you want.

We do need equality, but I still think there are different roles in men and women.

Being a housewife is not for me..yuck! I would rather work instead of working for my husband.

Men can be househubbies if they want if their wives have jobs that pay more money. Nothing wrong with that.

My hubby helps with the childraising ..he gives our son a bath and tucks him in bed so motherhood is not any more a full time job than it is for him.

GarnetTigerMom · 07-25-2008, 11:21 PM

I am always an old fashion italian gal that is used to having guys asking me out. But then again, I don't see anything wrong for a woman to ask a guy out on a date such as a simple cup of java or hang out to a movie. I think it great that a woman would as a guy out for date if he not insecure for a woman to as him out for a date. :-)

Pepsi · 07-25-2008, 11:49 PM

I am old fashion,I had never ask men out they have always ask me

07-24-2008, 12:17 PM	#66 (permalink)
Brian Registered User Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: United States Posts: 3,055	So if one asked me out and we get serious, then I should expect her to be the breadwinner of the household... Maybe I'll learn to love to watch Soap Operas and gossip with my girlfriends and gay friends on the fone... I have been asked by several girls before. But the practice still is highly frowned upon. __________________ -Brian

07-24-2008, 02:58 PM	#67 (permalink)
bruisedhalo Registered User Join Date: Mar 2007 Posts: 169	i'd rather hang out with a guy before an actual date date. i find that if i just go on a date things get awkward and they never really work out. so it really doesn't matter who does the asking part. __________________ "You keep going until you find happiness in helping people realize their dreams"- Gene Kelly

07-24-2008, 05:35 PM	#70 (permalink)
shel90 Sun Whorshipper Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: A Desert Rat that has found herself in Maryland Posts: 16,155 Blog Entries: 1	For those who think it is the men's role to ask women out, is it also the men's role to be the breadwinner and the women stay home to take care of the house and kids? __________________ ~Shel~ "A child educated only at school is an uneducated child." -George Santayana

07-24-2008, 09:21 PM	#80 (permalink)
sequoias Subaru rules! Join Date: Jun 2004 Location: The Evergreen State Posts: 12,859	Hmmm...I ain't no macho. If you want me to be aggressive, so be it....but I kinda suck at that. LOL __________________

07-25-2008, 11:21 PM	#85 (permalink)
GarnetTigerMom Registered User Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Virginia Posts: 4,900	I am always an old fashion italian gal that is used to having guys asking me out. But then again, I don't see anything wrong for a woman to ask a guy out on a date such as a simple cup of java or hang out to a movie. I think it great that a woman would as a guy out for date if he not insecure for a woman to as him out for a date. :-) __________________ GarnetTigerMom "The rain may be falling hard outside, But your smile makes it all alright. I'm so glad that you're my friend. I know our friendship will never end." -- Robert Alan

07-24-2008, 10:35 AM	#61 (permalink)
Gemma Registered User Join Date: Jan 2007 Posts: 961	However I know that many girls are pursuing men. Many boys complain that girls are being too aggressive. I think there is a fine line there. Boys complain that girls call them way too much. My friend's 13 year old son is goodlooking and gets calls from 2 to 4 different girls every single day. He is not even interested in girls! I am starting to change my opinion about women asking men out - but I think it should be handled carefully not to leave wrong impressions like Shel mentioned. Unfortunately we women still deal with rude labels and double standards and that can frighten some of us like me for example.

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07-24-2008, 05:04 PM	#69 (permalink)
ClearSky Registered User Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 1,085	I think asking men out is like women wearing the pants. I think that we have different roles. I think men should be confident to ask serious women out. Women should try to return the interest by flirting a little to show men interest that it's okay to talk to them if you're interested. I think it's different today because today it's all about dating whomever fancy them and as much as you can before settling down seriously. In the past, men knew it was them to ask serious women out for a wife. I think people have it confused that dating is the only way to get to know people, but it's not. You can just talk to them normal before deciding whether or not they are right for you to ask the person out formally. I think it's weird for women to ask men out. I think it's men's role to ask women out.

07-25-2008, 11:49 PM	#86 (permalink)
Pepsi The One and Only Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: USA Posts: 3,445	I am old fashion,I had never ask men out they have always ask me