Restraining order against legal age boyfriend for minor daughter

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  1. Liebling:-)))

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  3. Angel

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    I don't agree with what the mother is doing by trying to get restraining order against legal age boyfriend just to keep him away from her daughter, I feel that it should be only if her boyfriend is verbally abusive or physical abuse her then yes I would agree on the restraining order but using it against something else that is less harmful, even we know that it's against the law for kids dating someone above their ages and a restraining order is not going to help her daugther stay away from her boyfriend and sure isn't going to solved the situation either, her daughter could run away from him anyways with or without the restraining order....

    I personally think the mother should find other ways to deal with the problem rather than trying to get a restraining order, she has to be in control of the situation and try as much punishment as she can in order for her daughter to listen, sometimes when a parent lets their emotional effect the situation then it can cause a child to run away from home, and that the last thing a parent would want to see that happen, so got to start thinking what would be the best solution to the problem that this mother is facing...I would find many ways as I can to deal with this situation but getting a restraining order might just make things alot worse to the point where the daughter would do almost anything to go against her own mother....

    Tough love is one way to handle this situation and being in control by remaining calm when approaching or talking to a teenager child who not yet experiences what it like to be a parent herself, but we have to find ways to teach our children what right and what wrong, and maybe they will listen and understand the differences and know where her mother is coming from on this....
     
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    I would yeah..... Note it says he's supercontrolling.....that's a warning sign of a not so good relationship.
     
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    I agree with deafdyke. If he is a controlling freak, there is no life for that girl!!! She is better off to get out of that kind of relationship where he is taking control.
     
  6. Mookie

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    I dont see any problem with mother who have requested a restraining order against the young man. All she have to do is to protect her daughter's valuable life...
     
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    Why not!

    Even in same family apply RO too - eg a sister apply to against her own brother!
     
  8. Angel

    Angel ♥"Concrete Angel"♥ Premium Member

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    Against her own brother? :ugh:


    Wow, seem some people taking this RO a bit too far...
     
  9. FreeWoman77

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    yea, mother or father shouldnt teach their children be involved with either of parent not see/not love their father or mother, its between mother and father/gf/bf unless risk/dangerous something with abuse/DV :aw:
     
  10. Liebling:-)))

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    I´m agree with Angel totally. I´m the same opinion as Angel.

    Get Restraining order against legal age boyfriend of minor daughter do not solve anything but worst. Daughter would lost her respect her mother more and more for that.
     
  11. Mookie

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    So that means 16 years old daughter is gonna to be preg. Then she lost her bright future for higher education and career. Guess what? 18 years old mtker is gonna to escape and move out of state or country....

    Think twice. I am sure that both of you and Angle do neither have your own biological daughter but I do. Yep, I would arrange RO as soon as I investiage his background...
     
  12. Liebling:-)))

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    This link explains better.

    http://www.alldeaf.com/showthread.php?t=25565


    It will likely reduce teen. preggies if the parents talk sexual openly with their children. That´s why the teenagers go wrong crowd and experiment their curiously in wrong way because their parents did not positive something to them.

    That´s why I allow my children to watch sex and sex responsible etc... (I doesn´t mean sex porn. but sexual responsblies). See this link...
     
  13. Angel

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    Thank you, someone finally sees where I'm coming from on this, it's nice to know I'm not alone ...:lol:

    :hug: Liebling
     
  14. Angel

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    I don't need to have a daugther to understand this, it can happen to some boys too not just only girls...


    If you think that RO will actually solved all your problems? I would think again if I were you....
     
  15. Mookie

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    Oh really?

    What if mother of Tracy wants to protect her daughter's life from Buck Thurman.

    I strongly recommand you to watch new TNT movie. That's how he lost his daughter that he still never trusted that lad.

    I wait for your reply....
     
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    Angel ♥"Concrete Angel"♥ Premium Member

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    First of all Tracy has a son CJ not a daughter...


    Second, she filed a RO against her husband cause her husband physically abuse her and threaten to kill her , he hasn't harm the child at all, I would kindly suggest you to read that story of Tracy, or watch the movie then you will understand why she had a RO against her husband....
     
  17. Mookie

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    Read again my post again. I did not mention Tracy's son.

    I was speaking of Tracy's mother.....

    I am not discussing about her actual events.

    This is about what if....
     
  18. Angel

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    I will not answer that question above cause her mother died long before she met Buck, and second, Tracy knew exactly what she was doing cause her mother taught her never get herself in a relationship where a man will more likely abuse her, she follow her mother's advice


    I honestly do not know where you're heading at, but from the looks at it, it seem you did not read my post carefully, I said for thoses who want to seek for a RO, is when there's an verbally abusive, physical abuse, or threaten to kill then yes but for a parents to get a RO just to keep her daughter away from her boyfriend will just make things worse and it will not help the situation at all whatsoever
     
  19. Mookie

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    That means you are not too sure about young lady's life. If you were a judge in the courtroom, would you grant mother's request for RO against a young adult? Would you accept the fate if she is in your hands?
     
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    I'm sorry but I won't discuss this issue with you any farther, I have my own view on how I see this as well as you do too, we don't have to agree, but can we at least respect each others views and leave it to that?..
     

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