Random Vents.....

Awwww :hug: maybe you can go friend house Ash?
 
Sunshine said:
Awwww :hug: maybe you can go friend house Ash?
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maybe... see maybe sister has room? or i might just invade PFH's new place if sister doesn't have time, or isn't gonna be home... I think she should go... I just don't know what to say...
 
ash345 said:
maybe... see maybe sister has room? or i might just invade PFH's new place if sister doesn't have time, or isn't gonna be home... I think she should go... I just don't know what to say...
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If you did that.... You will have a near world record commute time.
 
I hate the threads here that bash others and then do nothing about it.

(this is not to anything in THIS thread.)
 
ash345 said:
I know! my 1.5 hour commute turned into what? what did you say it was yesterday?
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Not even a minute walk.

Driving would actually be longer. You would have to go around the block because there's a barrier in the street if you look out that way. :P Its to reduce traffic.
 
DeafCaroline said:
CSign, you're the one who brought up "I don't understand how they can post on Facebook instead of taking their baby to the hospital" and now you're saying you don't know what she's talking about?

Huh?
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I thought she was referring to a different post or thread. I must have misunderstood if she was referring to this thread.
 
CSign...

I am going to be nice to you this time. The only reason for that is that I suspect that you're genuine and really do not know what you've gotten yourself into. I have reached to the conclusion of suspicion due to me being informed of you PMing several members about me and trying to get them to see "how mean I am" and such. That's okay.

What we have here is two worlds colliding. And sadly - you don't even see it at all.

Allow me to demonstrate...

You came here and created this original post.
CSign said:
Why do people Facebook about their child having a 105.7 degree temp instead of bringing them to the doctor? WTF?
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Naturally, we replied with your posting history in mind. Your present stance does not matter. People have mentioned that you've been trying to change and stuff lately. But they also have mentioned that you've bit a bit too much to chew when you started out posting here.

Now, allow me to introduce you to AllDeaf.com. This is a forum mainly for the Deaf people. (You guys who feel that you're deaf, shut the hell up. There's none of you that are deaf.)

The reason I brought the "Deaf people forum" up is because you made that post with a hearing perspective. The hearing perspective that I see is the "I'm going to make this ambiguous post and have people ask me for more information." Hearing people work like that naturally. There is nothing wrong about that. But again, this is a Deaf forum. Give us all the information, already. Quite frankly, I'm tired of the hearing perspective here. Remember this, Point A.

After quite a few posters squabbling back and forth about your post. Please take note, it garnered world-wide attention. You had posters from all over the United States of America and International posters chiming in on your post, congratulations. You brought this post in:
CSign said:
So, you really think I would post that if they were actually at the doctor? :hmm:
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Another unclear post designed towards the hearing audience. Totally evading everything. Only if you said something like "Geez, what's wrong with people on Facebook saying that their kid has a 105.7 degree fever and they elect not to go to the doctor!" If you had said that in point "A" I showed you earlier... None of the squabbles would have had happened. However, we have reached point B. This was also your chance to swoop in and tell us all "My bad, I did not include more information. The family did not go to the doctors, blah blah." That would have shifted the whole thing into your favor, but you chose not to do that.

After a bit more discussion you come in with this post:
CSign said:
I don't know what posts or thread you are talking about.
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CSign said:
I thought she was referring to a different post or thread. I must have misunderstood if she was referring to this thread.
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"I have totallly noooo idea about anything!!!" "Woe is me..." Come on. Seriously, come on. This game has been played out so much... The cards are already fading and falling apart in it's own fiber structures...

And you wonder why I don't like you much at all.

Once you cater to the Deaf perspective around here which is getting to the point then things would be solved with NO issues.

Allow me to give you an example of reframing your vents so you can improve your experience here at AllDeaf.com.


Scenario 1:
CSign said:
Why do people Facebook about their child having a 105.7 degree temp instead of bringing them to the doctor? WTF?
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AD Squabble - then you come back with:

CSign said:
Sorry about that guys. They decided not to go to the doctors because of _________. I felt agitated about that and did not leave that in the previous post then I vented about it quickly. I really hope that clears things up here.
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---OR--
CSign said:
Sorry about that guys. I might have jumped to conclusions on this whole matter. Ash345 could be right, this is just a simple case of family being informed of the situation that I am not fully aware of.
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instead of:
CSign said:
So, you really think I would post that if they were actually at the doctor? :hmm:
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People will start feeling less quizzical towards you. They will offer up less animosity. When you resort to sarcasm - people don't exactly appreciate it after a "hearing perspective post". After all to this point - we STILL do not even know if the kid has been to the doctors. Trust me on this: when you back up a little and fill us in, we will not judge you. We respect people who have a set and let us know that they were in the wrong. (Hint: life gets a LOT easier here after that break-in happens.)

Scenario 2:
CSign said:
I am going "WTF" at people who choose to be on Facebook when their child has a 105.7 degree fever over taking them to the doctors. Right now I am asking more questions and I will let you guys know what is going on with these people... Geez, some people!
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I know.. I know... It was a vent. And the above scenario would probably have not been likely to happen. But that is the exact example of what a good post for the forum here would look like. You then would have never received the "Announcing an upcoming rib roast." post from me, some resistance from other posters because you left out vital information. In this scenario you would have gotten people to ask you questions and probably more than likely offers to help. Then you would have never had to resort to the 2nd, 3rd, and 4th post you made in this matter.
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Now... Do you know if the kid has seen a doctor? Do you know if the mother has called the doctor? Do you know if the kid is currently in good hands?

The reason I am not too worried - my kid did have a 105 degree fever while she was a baby - and her doctor said that it was okay and told us what to do at home. So I didn't have to go in. Too bad Facebook did not exist at the time. Different strokes for different folks. No need to go all "WTF" over things like that. You grew up in an era where you were exposed to lead paint, unrestricted gun rights, asbestos, etc and lived to tell about it.
 
The second I finished brushing my teeth I felt really hungry so now i have to eat something and then brush again...annoying
 
"The hearing perspective that I see is the "I'm going to make this ambiguous post and have people ask me for more information." Hearing people work like that naturally."

Interesting perspective PFH. When you have a minute could you expand on this. Do you feel hearing people are naturally ambiguous when they speak or post online? If so, why do you think that is? :hmm:
 
Journey said:
"The hearing perspective that I see is the "I'm going to make this ambiguous post and have people ask me for more information." Hearing people work like that naturally."

Interesting perspective PFH. When you have a minute could you expand on this. Do you feel hearing people are naturally ambiguous when they speak or post online? If so, why do you think that is? :hmm:
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Its how they make conversation. Is all. It's also widely discussed.

Person A: "Boy... you will never guess what happened to me today..!"

Person B is then forced to say "I have totally no idea, what happened to you?

Deaf way: They tell you the story from the get go.
 
Recently I've been reading up a great deal on narcissistic famiiles and one of the terms that I learned is gaslighting. The term comes from a movie called Gaslight. It features a man who abused his wife by denying her reality.. What Csign is doing is denying that this is happening and that she's denying our reality
 
ash345 said:
yes it is... between an hour and an hour and a half each way every day...
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My commute is not much better. For the last 11 years I did at least 1 hour in the morning and 2 hours going home. As of 2 month ago it's usually 50 minutes both ways.
 
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