My 3 And Half Yr Old Is Now Arguing About What Sign Is Right!

srlevesque

Member
I need some advice guys, I am raising my 3.5 yr old grand daughter and I've had her about 2 yrs. I use ASL (I'm late deaf) and I also speak. I haven't been very consistent on signing with her 24/7, altho I do sign daily just voice as well, and now she is arguing with me about sign. She will make up signs for words and argue that hers is right and mine is wrong!! I don't know what to do, I don't want to make the use of ASL a negative thing for her and not let her have her signs but I've tried to explain over and over that she is not signing properly. Please help!!
 

iMaisie

Resident Glaswegian
Do you happen to have any friends that also sign? Perhaps you could take her to see them and then ask them to sign whatever words she's not signing properly then she'll see that it's not just you that signs it the proper way, but many others do to. That'll encourage her to sign it right as she'll want to fit in and communicate effectively.
 

LoveBlue

Well-Known Member
Perhaps find some signing videos (Signing Time??) that would have those words in use and she can see others using the right signs.

Plus, she's at that "first teenage years", so she may just being rebellious. ;)
 

DeafNerdMommy

Well-Known Member
My 3 year old also changes signs, although she does them wrong because her hand can't do the same thing, like cat, she doesn't always close her index finger. But I just keep signing the right sign and fixing her fingers. I have shown her signing videos but she has not tried to copy them.
 

rockin'robin

Well-Known Member
I need some advice guys, I am raising my 3.5 yr old grand daughter and I've had her about 2 yrs. I use ASL (I'm late deaf) and I also speak. I haven't been very consistent on signing with her 24/7, altho I do sign daily just voice as well, and now she is arguing with me about sign. She will make up signs for words and argue that hers is right and mine is wrong!! I don't know what to do, I don't want to make the use of ASL a negative thing for her and not let her have her signs but I've tried to explain over and over that she is not signing properly. Please help!!
good grief!...she's 3 and 1/2....
 

Bottesini

Old Deaf Ranter
Premium Member
You are mixing up two languages. Do pure sign when signing and she will have to work to understand the sign.
 

srlevesque

Member
good grief!...she's 3 and 1/2....
I know and I really don't expect perfection, I'm not that anal! lol! Just wondered if anyone else had this problem..I was worried on what to do about it? If this was a normal thing or just my stubborn and imaginative child!:D
 

srlevesque

Member
Perhaps find some signing videos (Signing Time??) that would have those words in use and she can see others using the right signs.

Plus, she's at that "first teenage years", so she may just being rebellious. ;)
Yeah, just loving those "first teenage years"! lol! But that does make sense..Thanks!
 

Anij

Well-Known Member
It sounds just like what hearing kids do with spoken language. It's a linguistic developmental stage in which they start playing with and manipulating language in order to better understand it's rules.

It's not a bad thing - it's just normal. Don't make a big deal out of it (it's like if a toddler decides randomly that a "cup" is now called a "wiggit" for a week or a month lol)

Continue signing it properly , and heck when you're playing around, maybe toss in the made up sign for giggles.
 

appleeater

Member
Yeah, it's pretty normal. I wouldn't worry about it - if she's able to argue about it with you, she's already recognising your sing.
 
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