sunflowergal
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I grew up in a quiet country. I grew up without friends in my quiet country. I never go to skating, swimming, deaf club, deaf chuch or other places and I never go out of town to visited my friends when I was growing up. I was raised by my both parents. My Mother is not friendly, strict and control of my life. I was 10 years old when my oldest brother and older sister moved away. They both hearing. I grew up without brother and sister.
I rode the school bus to school for 20 miles. I had good deaf friends at school when I was teenage. I never spent the night with one of my friends house from school because my Mother won't let me. My Mother had to telling me that one of my friend's parents are bad people and their house was filth and nasty. :roll: My thought "How do they know but they never see their house"! I never enter one of my friend's house.
I never invited my friends over my house for my birthday party when I was in my childhood through teenage. Because I was born on December 24th. My Mother said that was reason, the kids supposed to spent time with their family on Christmas Eve and Christmas Day.I got my first driver license when I was 17 years old. I wanted to visited with my friends in out of town but my Mother won't let me. She was afraid if I got in trouble or getting raped or kidnapped or killed. She said that all people are very bad in the world. I didn't say anything.
I became adult. I was 21 years old when my father died. My Mother and I got in arguement for many years.
I've tried reason with her about something, I wanted and I had to do something with my life. I had to fight for my freedom. She won't let me go out of town on my own. She don't want me to date anyone and she don't want me to get married. She kept control of my life. I was her keeper for 27 years of my life.I received the letter from my best friend. She invited me over to her church for the party. I begged my Mother to let me go to church for party. She called my sister to picked me up and took me to church. My Mother told my sister to watch me. I did met a hoh man at church. After the party was over, my sister took me home. I was thinking about a hoh man that I met. I wrote a letter to my best friend. I suggested her to find his home address and she got it from church. She gave me his home address. I wrote a letter to hoh man first time. He called me on tty first time. I was shocked that he called me. I asked him "How did he got my phone number"! He called my best friend on tty and she gave him my phone number. He and I talked alot on tty and we wrote the letters almost every day.
We kept secert to date each other in few months without my Mother's known. He asked me to marry him then I said "Yes". I ran off to getting eloped to him without family knowing about it. We got married in Court on 1993.
We returned to my Mom's house. My Mom got called from the police. She found out about it. She was very upset and shocked. She knew there was nothing she do about it. Finally, She let me go. I took my stuffs with me and I moved to live with my husband. We live far away from her. Finally, I got my freedom without my crazy Mother.
Now, I felt very hurt, sad and lost because I don't have many friends in my area. I live in a small town. I wish have friends to go shopping with me. I have few friends live out of town. I fear to losing my husband or my daughter. If something has happen to one of them. I don't want to be all alone in the world. I'm scared to death.
for you, Arkiegal. Unfortunately, your mother tried to protect you, but she prevented you from learning how to form close friendships on your own. That is something that teenagers learn as the begin to separate, bit by bit, from their families. Now you are trying to learn how to do what your mother did not let you learn back then.
