Hearing deaf sexuality

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  1. Isabella18

    Isabella18 New Member

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    Hi im 18 im learnig sing language my boyfriend is deaf and im hearing i want to ask about sex and comunication(like setting boundaries, making sure we understand each other needs and wants eyc) because im not that fluent in SL so i cant discuss it with him in a proper way i dont have the vocabulary to do it (i dont know how to convey the mesage through signing)
    What i want to know if theres is someone who has experienced being in a relationship hearing-deaf who can tell me their stories what worked best for them what didnt etc.
    Sorry for my bad english is not my first language (spanish is)
     
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    Anij Well-Known Member

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    I'd suggest getting Signs of Sexual Behaviour and going through it together.
    If there are different signs, have him show you and then make sure you are certain you understand what they mean.

    If you are going to enter into a sexual relationship together, you need to be able to know how to communicate important aspects of both the intimacy side of it, and more importantly how to indicate things like birth control, safe sex practices, hygiene issues etc. This all needs to be done well in advance, with a level head and not in the heat of the moment.

    You might want to see if you both can go to Planned Parenthood with an interpreter and use that as a chance to ask questions, get information and also acquire some additional vocabulary.

    Again, I'd strongly suggest doing all of this first - before moving onto a sexual relationship together (and I know that's not "fun", but unless you're both actively ready for parenthood, it's a very important step, especially in a situation where communication isn't fluent)
     
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    Anij gives important advice. In addition there is the matter of how a woman communicates the simple signals that a hearing male would get, like heavy breathing, moans- the stuff that lets a guy know "do that again"! Thumbs up and thumbs down would work sometimes, or invent a simple code between you, like tapping his shoulder once for "not good", twice for "yay".

    Young guys are severely governed by hormones so it is important to his and your future sexual happiness for him to learn YOUR rhythms early. Otherwise the female's satisfaction becomes a by-product of the male's. It might serve you both to read up on such things.
     
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    authentic Well-Known Member

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    hearing and deaf sexuality will not be succeed.

    deaf and deaf work best, IMHO.
     
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    Why?
     
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    Mieke Belgian ASL noob Premium Member

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    Deleted, I'll let authentic comment himself :p
     
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    Facial expressions work good in my relationship. Or tapping also helps. I use my nails on my husband's back of i like it and tap his hips if I don't. A good relationship is based off of trust and understanding. Set boundaries before hand.
     
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    Cappy Well-Known Member

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    Huh? Porno flicks don't even need CC. Nor should this. Yet, simple gestures/communication between partners is paramount.
     
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    Cappy Well-Known Member

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    I don't even know why I'm here, what is the topic again?....:)
     
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    DeafNerdMommy Well-Known Member

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    I would love to see how they mess up cc in a porno haha
     
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    That is impossible! No one would be watching the CC! :)
     
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