javapride said:
silence gold i d like to point out its not just abt trust its abt respecting other poeple they might be offended by the comment or the question if it was blurted out without provaction would u take offense on this insult as for example on a level of maturity... * I dont think u would be a good moderator if u had known how to read a jackass's note and see he was bashing u and u chose to ingore it without following the AD's guideline where there is NO bashing or flaming allowed shows u can be a pussy too.* whilist one with respect would say, I dont want to offend u or ur postion, but i dont t hink u have been putting the issue as a moderator to a effective use, and i would ask that u think about these serious offenses that are taking place as we speak.* those are just examples of what i would see by respecting my peers without offending them the trust is right there in all aspect by being honest but respecting them in advance warning them they will be blunt but not wanting to put the person down without having to deal with an ineffective communication. I for one always and make sure i try to communicate clearly cuz sometimes im not always clear enuff and it can be offensive in all aspect. and once i relize my mistake i would apologise but ofc, its all abt respect and consideration for the feelings of the poeple as oppose to saying " this fucking thread is worthless and sucks ass and this forum should have never been created in the first fucking place* whilist a polite comment would be, I disagree with the comments being made and i dont want to offend anyone but i think this forum shouldn't have been created considering how it can create welcome people to be a basher or a flamer." thinking of others before they think of themselves is a good judgement of respect and trust at the same time.
I don't know about you in your life's great details....but my view on this about something being blurted out without feeling provoked......My parents taught me about if I was to ask some personal questions. I would have to be asking to be able to ask, toward those strangers, politely if I could ask personal questions.
For example, if I am sitting in a grill resturant and I see a lady who walks in then sits on a table next to me. I suspect that she could be pregnant. If I was to ask how long she has been pregnant, should I ask, "may I ask you a personal question" first without making her feeling offended?
Of course, in this situtation, she might not be pregnant but simply overweight. That is what I was raised to learn how to be much more polite. Many of other people were not raised like that.
When Lisa and I were married...and ended up going to a deaf club....we did get asked several personal questions without even being asked if they could ask those types of personal questions. I didn't feel offended but I have sometimes wondered what if I was more sensitive than I was. Would I have felt offended?
Across this board...I do see many mentions of questions or blunt comments which might be offensive to sensitive people.
How can a moderator like me know that if those people were sensitive or can handle what is being said. Would I have been able to know that this offensive people went over the line?
There might be a time where I see a person mention something that I would "guess" that is offensive and end up deleting their post or PM this person a warning...and end up finding out later that whoever, that this statement was aimed at, said something that hinted that this person wasn't offended.
Homosexuality is one of the hottest topics which there are some sensitive comments being made and it's hard to tell if those comments can be tolerated for those people. That's why I've been trying to gather more information in this situtation and trying to share some of my views to see if I can be helped to shape in a better decision making goals in the future.
I know that you might feel upset that many of your posts might be misinterpretered by many of other people. You would also have to understand that another people own posts would have been misinterpertered by you. There's even some people who were grew up to learn how to be more polite (like me for example) to be quick to apologize. There are also other people who weren't raised to be polite....but frankly, what could you really do about those adults who can't be polite? That's where your tolerant level would be tested. I think that a great responsible adult would have a very high tolerant level and staying all calm while being under this type of stress regardless of who this person is and what this person believes in. I am not saying that you should sit around and accept all the abusings on you...but I'm saying that there are even things that you could do when you are abused. Ignorance does have a great power.
i think this forum shouldn't have been created considering how it can create welcome people to be a basher or a flamer.
What if I was to tell you that everytime someone "complains" about something...that is where you develop your own thoughts that it is "bashing" or "flaming."
If I was in a resturant and I ordered a steak. It shows up on my table as a small piece of steak. I complain saying that there's too much bone and less meat on it. Is that bashing or flaming the waiter/waitress?
I know that you are getting fed up with all the bashings/flamings but that is how you may look at it. You gotta to look at why exactly they are saying that. Like you said, "It's a waste of thread" examples....maybe their point was just to mention that they were upset that they clicked on this link hoping to see something worthwhile to read? They were upset just like you got upset at hearing them complaining.
I'll be grateful to hear more from you....as long as you're honest.
to begin with as it is a CHOICE for those who wants to post in the Rainbow or other forums on the board 
