I learned two things through out the years. 1. you either already know your soul mate and have put him/her in the friend zone or 2. you need to stop looking for love and let love find you. My husband was in the friend zone for A LOT of years. It took me a while to realize that we were actually more than friends. Every single problem, disaster, scandal, or what have you in my life he was always there and I was always there in his. It took us a while but we finally got married. My daughter was the opposite. She was dating every wrong guy she could find and they were all just alike. Finally, she broke up with the last wrong guy and just stopped looking. I mean completely stopped looking and just focused her life on her job and etc. Well her husband was one of her co-workers who had also stopped looking and gave up on finding the right one.... Fast forward and they are now married.