Does a 20 year old have the right to

Mimsy

New Member
#1
get a belly-button piercing when her parents forbid it? just curious.
 

caz12

New Member
#2
i would say yes...
i no understand with america you want and have 19 /20 year olds go to court and prison as adults yet against law to buy drink or go into casino
 

LoveBlue

Well-Known Member
#4
You're an adult, so yes. BUT be ready for the consequences. If you're "dependent" on you're parents (home, food, tuition, etc), they have the right to take any/all away from you if they want to...because you are an adult & they are no longer responsible for your care.
 

rockin'robin

Well-Known Member
#5
One of my sons is 18 and still lives at home...he likes tattooes...and has 2...but feel he shouldn't get anymore until he moves out on his own....needs to save his $$...We have argued over it a lot...But I stand my ground.

If you were my daughter and lived at home at age 20, feel you would be expected to follow the rules and wishes....And until you moved out on your own, then no matter how your parents feel, it's up to you.
 

Reba

Retired Terp
Premium Member
#6
If you mean do you have the legal right, that depends on the law of your state. Is there an age minimum for body piercings? If not, and you aren't under a court dependency declaration, then you are legally able to get one.

If you mean a moral right, that's something else. That depends on the relationship you have with your parents.

Like others have mentioned, even if you have a legal right to do it, expect consequences. Your parents may feel that if you want to spend your money on such things as body piercings, then they aren't obligated to continue with paying for your tuition or other expenses.

Of course, if you don't show off your belly button your parents they might not even know about it but I suppose that would defeat the purpose of having one.
 
#8
You're an adult, so yes. BUT be ready for the consequences. If you're "dependent" on you're parents (home, food, tuition, etc), they have the right to take any/all away from you if they want to...because you are an adult & they are no longer responsible for your care.
Never live under the yoke of someone else. If you live at home, pay rent. Always buy your own stuff and never borrow money unless it is absolutely needed. This way: Nobody can have power over you if you don't owe them anything.
 

Frisky Feline

Well-Known Member
#9
Funny you mentioned, I told my kids, that i rather them not to get tattoos when they live with us. :giggle: I know when they turn 18 yrs old and still live with us then we all will re discuss all over again.
 

green427

Active Member
#10
My opinion reflects many of the others.

Legally...you can do whatever you want.

If you want to keep your relationship with your parents at a good level, I would suggest you wait until you move out before you do things that would offend them. They have spent the last 20 years making sure you turned out okay.

Even though I think girls look sexy with button rings, seeing one on my own daughter is a different matter....I don't want the guys drooling and chasing her around town....hypocritical, yes, but that is how fathers think.

When you become a parent, you will do everything to protect your children, no matter how old they are....you will understand one day why we think the way we do.
 

naisho

Forum Disorders M.D.,Ph.D
#11
get a belly-button piercing when her parents forbid it? just curious.
It depends on which position you take. Each side has their own reasons. On AD you'll probably get more support as a parent.

Are you looking from the parent's perspective or are you the child in this question?
 
#13
One of my sons is 18 and still lives at home...he likes tattooes...and has 2...but feel he shouldn't get anymore until he moves out on his own....needs to save his $$...We have argued over it a lot...But I stand my ground.

If you were my daughter and lived at home at age 20, feel you would be expected to follow the rules and wishes....And until you moved out on your own, then no matter how your parents feel, it's up to you.
i agree should respect the parents views,i sure her parents will run her down to ER if it gets infected thats what parents do,thats proberly one of their concers
 
#14
I was emancipated minor the day I turned 18. So none of my parents could speak for or force me to do what I did not want to do. They basically relinquish their rights.

I remember the day I came home and my mother saw a small part of my tattoo on my leg. She near beat me to death. LMAO But I had my own money, my own car. I was independent and taking care of myself. They got no say. After some time, she stop being mad at me.

I remember in HS, I didn't have to take a paper home that needed a parent's signature, because I was over the age of 18. Everyone else in my class had too.

So as long as they are over 18, they are legally able to make their own decisions. Whether the parent agrees or not. Makes no difference.

I understand some family cultures are different than others, and I respect that.
 

jonnyghost

Well-Known Member
#17
I was emancipated minor the day I turned 18. So none of my parents could speak for or force me to do what I did not want to do. They basically relinquish their rights.

I remember the day I came home and my mother saw a small part of my tattoo on my leg. She near beat me to death. LMAO But I had my own money, my own car. I was independent and taking care of myself. They got no say. After some time, she stop being mad at me.

I remember in HS, I didn't have to take a paper home that needed a parent's signature, because I was over the age of 18. Everyone else in my class had too.

So as long as they are over 18, they are legally able to make their own decisions. Whether the parent agrees or not. Makes no difference.

I understand some family cultures are different than others, and I respect that.
Was it your place or your mothers?
 

Lau2046

Well-Known Member
#18
If they're of legal age and the shop is regulated by the state, yes. Whether they're mature enough to bathe the area three times a day, medicate it twice a day, stay away from beaches, public pools, not sun bathe, etc., for the entire year it takes to heal...that's another matter.

Laura
 

Lau2046

Well-Known Member
#19
Of course, if you don't show off your belly button your parents they might not even know about it but I suppose that would defeat the purpose of having one.
I have one but I never show it. For me, I liked the look, I was mature enough to follow instructions on the care, and it healed without issues...but again, it was for me and no one else. I think it's better than putting a piercing where a potental employer can see (eyes/nose), or ruin your dental work and gums with a tongue ring.... Of course I waited until I was 30 too, and aside from traditional ear piercings, I have nothing else, tattoos or otherwise. I think the problem with teens is that they don't think things through...like how much after care is involved and how they'll look in twenty years with facial pierces or tattoos that are on the neck and face...scary how little people actually research something before they go ahead and do it....
 
#20
Was it your place or your mothers?
I was living in my mother's house at the time. But it really does not matter. I was over 18. I moved out when I was 20.

Just because it's her house don't mean jack. I love my mother to death, don't get me wrong. If it went to court, the court would side with me, not my mother. Makes no difference who's house it is, I was over 18 and an adult.

It was my body. I am not a property, I am not a slave. I am my own being. Nobody owned me, it was my choice, my decision. I had a full time job, I was paying my own bills and going to HS. I was in HS until I turned 20. After HS, I moved out. Nobody was supporting me. Not even my mother. I paid her a couple hundred a month to help pay some bills around the house. That was out of respect.

There were other things I respect my mother on when it comes to things that went on in her house. For those, I do honor them. But whether I want a tattoo, or piercing or anything else done to me. It's my body. She has no say.

It was funny when she became mad. Because my uncle, her brother, has a Navy Tattoo on his arm. And he's the eldest of all her siblings.

Now this happened some 18 so years ago, when Tattoos were starting to become popular. Now in 2013, it seems to be the normal and more parents are more acceptance about it. Not all, but majority. But then again, it all depends on their family culture and lifestyle. I choose to be rebellious in my teens and early 20s.
 

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