Do you find it more challenging finding human interaction?

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  1. HoH_Profound

    HoH_Profound New Member

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    Hi,

    I've been single for a while and experienced bad and good short relationships, have a small network of friends and family to rely on as a support network when need be.

    Do you find being HoH or deaf harder to connect and maintain human interaction with people?

    I often feel like despite having a few friends and acquaintances a lot of other people have no time for me with how I come across being HoH or profoundly deaf.

    How I describe it as people just slowly or quickly brush you aside, ignore you or walk away. Inside it can feel infuriating people cannot look past the communication barrier and acknowledge a human being.

    I think you grow a thick skin from all this and isn't all bad, you learn to focus more on the time you're alone on your own interests and hobbies. Though sometimes it feels like you're alone too much and that can get you down.

    Does anyone else experience this?
     
  2. runner6771

    runner6771 New Member

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    Absolutely. I relate to everything you posted. Interacting is difficult and I find myself avoiding people. I instead find myself focusing on being an artist. I do worry about how much I'm isolating. The interactions that I have with people I worry more that I don't understand them and I say things that are out of context. There isn't a conversation where I don't end up feeling embarrassed. I usually pretend like I understand what they are saying. I think I am good at passing like I understand but in the end, it does nothing but hurt me. I find most conversations I have very stressful and not relaxing or beneficial. The friends I have I cherish but I feel that they have to go through so much just to talk to me. I'm sick of saying I don't understand.
     
  3. DeafDucky

    DeafDucky Well-Known Member

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    My relationship with online friends are better than any relationships I have in real life. I put that down to both my deafness and my being introvert (yes... introvert even though I don't seem like it online lol).

    That's one thing that freaks me out about going to the bootcamp in Utah (I was accepted- supposed to start in February if I can come up with the money...)...interacting with the instructors and classmates.....:eek:
     
  4. Everlucent

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    Like Ducky I too have found solace as an introvert, I have a decent career as a Web Developer and IT Consultant here in DFW, and I use all the tools one would expect to interact with clients (VRI, Interps) and even at meetings in our firm. But years ago I accepted the fact that though I live in the Hearing world I will always exist slightly outside of it at the same time.
    The Hearing are always polite and kind, but you know, a person will never write or type everything they might have said, you'll never be the one they come to in ecstasy to share and excited emotion or story. The invites for drinks always pass-by undelivered.
    There is always that separation but you have to decide how to let it affect you, wallow in pity, or strive on ahead. Every moment you decide yourself how something will affect you. Or if it will, the thick skin eh HoH_Profound? No need to hide behind your diagnosis here, if you're HoH, cool, Deaf, cool, FoD, cool doesn't need a title.
     
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    DeafDucky Well-Known Member

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    That's probably why I was drawn to a career in computers/IT lol.. less people interaction... but that changed in the last few years- they want more meetings! euugh.. leave me alone and let me do my testing lol.
    I started out in the social services field but burned out after about 6-7 years... went to a business school that had a program for COBOL-- QA Tester working with Mainframe for 10 years (give or take- a few gaps in there). That's what brought me to the bootcamp... "modernize" my skills even though I love working on Mainframe. There are still a lot of mainframe jobs out there but the recruiters/HR/hiring people have a bit of a bias with someone with a bigger than 1 year employment gap. My introvertness/shyness in interviews (in person or phone) or networking events (if I go) probably has a small hand in that too.

    BTW, I replied to your PM Everlucent :)
     

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