Definition of Stalking...

Discussion in 'General Chat' started by coloravalanche, Apr 16, 2006.

  1. What does "Stalking" means to you?

    "Stalking" means to me is when a person threats me by show up at my place, or person who follows me around where I go...threats me by emailing me...or calling me on phone...

    I dont believe stalking is when I email someone and try my best to work it out with this person...send a card to say Im sorry...say positive things...that is not stalking at all...

    The guy emailed me and thinks that Im his stalker....Ive not bothered him at his home or work...I only emailed him once in awhile to say hello and positive things...I asked him if we could work things out...but I never threat or harm him at all...I dont understand why he thinks that way...

    Last night, I received an email from him...this is what he said to me, "Fuck yourself and die"....Can you believe that? I was hurt to hear that...

    He was my former lawyer...we had sex after discharged were over...we were good friends until things got screwed up...

    Do you think I need to file report to the BAR Association against him?

    I am planning to inform the FBI about what the guy said to me....because the FBI is working on my case and suspect that the guy is involved....

    Anyway,,,,tell me what do you think the definition of stalking?
     
  2. Gemtun

    Gemtun Guest

    For me, stalking means excessive and unwanted attention from this person.

    I have been stalked a few times. Once I broke up with an ex bf, I moved away to another state. He moved to where I was. I found a job. He found a job a mile away from me. He followed me every morning and night on freeway during commutes to work. He would drive up to my car and wave at me. I would speed up yet he speed up to catch with me. Sometimes I had to go 100 miles per hour. I call that stalking!!!! I was terrified for a year before he finally gave up and moved out of my state.
     
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  6. Heath

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    Well, He agreed to have sex with you and he abused that privelege of having sex with you with no strings attached.

    Chances are he is abusing this position of power with another women.

    I am sorry to hear that he lost out on a very good woman who obivously loved him and he did not even know it and he took advantage of you when you clearly were not taking advantage of him.

    Talk to the FBI and Internal Affairs Bureau ( I.A.B. ) but make clear that you were taken advantage of when that was a private agreement between you and that he abused this position of power. I understand men and women both want sex.

    That is a natural desire, It does not matter what job he is employed in or what job you are employed in.

    In today's politically correct world. Nobody notices this natural desire and so many people are hit with sexual harrassment that actually are not sexual harrassment and there is alots of sexual blackmailing going on with photos and videos to destroy somebody's reputation etc.

    You clearly were not doing any of those things and That was a private agreement between the boss and you and he lost out on that privelege.

    Without saying names. I have had women who were my boss and they wanted sex with me and they never abused this position of power and I did enjoy the sex and she enjoyed the sex too with no strings attached. Nothing bad of the sort happened and I worked very hard for her then we parted on good and positive terms.

    That is how it should be, but some guys do not understand this at all.
     
  7. Cousin Vinny

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    According to ABA Model Rules of Professional Conduct, Rule 1.8(j), it states:
    [Rule 1.8]

    You may have a claim with your State Bar authorities against this attorney. Keep in mind that this is the 'Model Rules'. Actual state rules governing attorney conflict of interest situations vary.
     
  8. Angel

    Angel ♥"Concrete Angel"♥ Premium Member

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    To me, stalking means, following someone around, harassment, becomes obsessed with their target and keep bullying them...


    I have problems with someone who been cyberstalking me for years, but now I put this person on block, so hopefully this person will leave me alone for good...


    I hope everything works out for you..
     
  9. Liza

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    It appears that he is getting unwanted attention from you, and that can qualify as stalking. Is that his photo and a slideshow of his pix in your signature?? Yikes. Not a good sign, girl.

    You agreed to sex with him without strings attached. Both of you were adults. You knew what he wanted.. you only complicated the matter with your desires that are not shared by him, and I imagine it got uncomforable for him. He freaked. I'm sorry. I hope you find a good guy who will return your love and treat you better than he did.. You sound like a good person. Don't waste your life on this suave cockroach. You may want to resolve things with him.. but he doesn't want to resolve things with you. You can't do anything about it. He has to want to resolve it.. but no amount of force will get him to have true feelings for you. That sucks, but from a journey-woman to another.. wake up!

    Sex is not a good way to rope in someone if he doesn't want to be in a relationship with you at all. You probably could sic the Bar on him to teach him professional manners in dealing with his clients, but don't do it for revenge. I don't know if he did a good job on your case.. that should be a consideration. Or you can proceed with a good lesson learned in making better choices in future situations like this. Good luck!
     
  10. Cheri

    Cheri Prayers for my dad. Premium Member

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    Most people defined "Stalker" I don't need to add more to it. :giggle:
     
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    Stalking is where someone keeps on bugging you, and you get fed up, like keeping on calling, emailing, IMing, follow you around all of times, wouldn't leave you alone...

    As for me, I work on camnpaigns or in political arena, I tend to keep my relationships with those people professional, nothing personal... I admit there are some good looking men but I rather to keep my distance and be professional. It also would be abouse of power for candidates or politicans unless I am dating one of them, it would be different story. When I was Student Senator, I would keep my relationship professional with my consituents expect that I dated one of my consituent who graduated with me from same HS who was my friend before.
     
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    Quoted for truth. :stupid:
     
  13. CODAchild

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    I agree with <Angel>, as those are the exact words I would have used. I feel so bad for you Coloravalanche. You are so nice to people, and to be treated this way is so wrong. Report him to the authorities, and yes, talk to someone at your State Bar Association. What this man did and I agree with others, he used his postion to be the powerful one.

    I pray you can get this straigtened out and soon, so you can have peace in your life again!!! Until then, God bless. :hug:
     
  14. I respect your opinion...but I agree about someone keeps on bugging you such as calling and emailing, etc...BUT...that is not stalking....that is harrassing...it depends on the situation..
     
  15. Thank you for your support and prayers...Yeah, I dont remember if I mention it earlier in this post but he recently emailed me last Friday and said to me, "Fuck yourself and die"...he send me his email from his WORK!
     
  16. MaxUFC

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    You may not stalking person. :dunno:

    And you may be obessive compulsive person since you put the pic of this lawyer guy and your words - "I love him so much...but he hates me now" right here. That might what he saw yours here that piss him off?.

    Or I don't know much about between you and that guy. You might have to let him go and forgot about him for good...then go out with your own friends to be support around you. You learned your mistake and not let happen again with next guy. Stay willpower against "fell in love" or "let do sex for pleasure" until many dates as you feel more convince that is this guy what you trust in your feeling. Good luck.
     
  17. deaf enginer

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    I do know that when you have a stalker knocking on your door dont tell the police he is knocking on your door. Tell the police he is breaking into your house so that they come IMMEDIATELY. Once the stalker sees the police he will back off. If you dont say the stalker is breaking in the police wont take you seriously and wont come for like half an hour maybe. And maybe even by then the stalker will be breaking in. Thats my advice when it comes to stalkers.

    As for the definition of one i think of it as assult. Assult is like threatening without any physical means of contact. Such as a threat on the phone. But when the stalker goes out of his bounds and touches you i think it goes as far as battery which means physical contact. Thats how i think of it i guess?

    Erik
     
  18. racheleggert

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    Well, I hate to say this- but I do agree with Max UFC.... Best is to remove that picture of lawyer, and forget about him. Go and find someone else who would treat u better than that loser lawyer......

     
  19. Nah, Im not stalking or obsessive compulsive person...He is hearing and he nevers access our board...
     
  20. Alright...I will remove his picture...thanks for encouraging me.. :thumb:
     

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