Burn out?

Discussion in 'Marriage, Dating & Single Life' started by Freya0821, Sep 1, 2017.

  1. DeafDucky

    DeafDucky Well-Known Member

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    I don't know what happens if one of the partners were deaf with no usable hearing or is unable to use hearing aids etc. But I can say that one friend who has severe hearing loss (since birth), is able to get around in the hearing world (Better than me it seems lol) but works within the deaf world- deaf schools for most of her career. She married a hearing man (who I also knew). I THINK in the beginning he did try to learn some sign... before they married. After they married he barely signed all that much. From what I can remember, they did sign to each other but rarely (there is one incident that I remember vividly from nearly 20 years ago...not a nice incident either). I think the poor communication- both sign and verbal was one of the factors in their eventual divorce 16 years into the marriage. He never made the effort to go with her to deaf events(or work events really)- refused to 99% of the time.
     
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    rockin'robin Well-Known Member

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    Late-deafened...and I had several deaf friends, so we conversed in ASL. My husband was hearing, we conversed verbally. He "tried" to learn the alphabet...gave up on it...always asking me what my deaf friends were saying...and me always asking what his hearing friends were saying....It took it's toll on the relationship. And of course his saying.."I wish you could hear!"....The last straw was when we went to a Party (all hearing) and he did not tell anyone I was deaf, just expected me to lip-read everybody, even in groups....Sooo...when a partner refuses to learn ASL...there will be problems down the line, resentfulness too. It's my belief that many hearing people are somewhat "ashamed" of using ASL in front of their hearing friends....or it was the case with my partner.
     
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    That's really very cool. Does he use it outside of conversing with you?
     
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    Reba Retired Terp Premium Member

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    He'll sign with anybody who will sign with him. :lol:
     
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    A Nihilist AD Comedian Premium Member

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    Yes having you meet his family is a big deal. Do you think he's introducing you to his family so he can show off his future ex-girlfriend? "Hey Mom, check out this loser, I'm gonna dump her in a few weeks, she won't see it coming"
     
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    Lysander Active Member Premium Member

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    Haha. Aww. You made me snarf my soda.
     
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  7. ricas27

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    wow lol
     
  8. Freya0821

    Freya0821 New Member

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    LMAO! OK... fair point. It went great! His family is wonderful :)
     
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    Great to hear!
     

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