If you consider to young go into pub drink a round then marriage and babies don't look good.Marriage is legal as soon as you hit 18 in the US, even though the drinking age is 21. And isn't the drinking age in the UK 18? Why does it matter what the drinking age is in the country? it's different everywhere...
Plus, Gerald asked about a relationship age gap, not necessarily marriage.
Some states I think you can get married at 16 with parents permission. One state you can get married at 13, which is crazy. Of course, there has to be one state where you can't get married til 21 with parents permission (Mississippi), but most states are 18.I was thinking this too. It's legal marry someone under 18 yo in USA ?
I dated men 10 years older than me , we had things in common .Some states I think you can get married at 16 with parents permission. One state you can get married at 13, which is crazy. Of course, there has to be one state where you can't get married til 21 with parents permission (Mississippi), but most states are 18.
I couldn't get married super young or see myself marrying someone more than 10 years older than me. What can dwe have in common? I don't judge because it doesn't effect me.
And people have dated others with less than a year in age and had nothing in common.I dated men 10 years older than me , we had things in common .
In reality, the new age older folks are like 12 year olds, playing on the phone constantly and gaming... I'm 49 and I'm amazed at some of those older than me who cant get their noses out of the phone or social media. I never liked games and I'm only one a few sites to pass time, but have a very active life outside of the social world where some cant even communicate without a damn text ....crazy.I don't think that an age gap is so much a problem. When it comes to 18-34 though, there is a major maturity/life experience gap there. I would say that if someone was 34 and the person they are interested in was 50, I don't think that there would be nearly as much of an issue. A person who is 34 will more likely be out of college, and have a steady job and more life experience to be mature with relationship issues. An 18 year old just doesn't have their life together yet. They're probably going to college, or they're starting in the workforce with a crappy job. There could end up being money issues because the older partner may feel like they are "taking care" of the younger partner. There may end up being a sugar daddy type of expectation. I don't necessarily think that it couldn't work, it's just not something that I would ever pursue. I imagine the challenges would significantly outweigh the benefits.
That's a little reductive. I'm 39. I play video games (a lot). I use social media. I'd rather text than talk. I also mountain bike, do yoga, hold dinner parties for my friends, I have a great job as a nuclear medicine technologist, and I'm in school studying to become an infectious disease nurse practitioner. Playing games and liking your phone makessomeone no less immature than not doing those things makes you mature. The ability to discuss emotional issues with confidence and self efficacy, the ability to respect someone else's autonomy while advocating for your own interests, and respecting your partner's right to self determination despite it being contrary to your wants are things I would suggest show maturity. Those are the issues of maturity vital to a mature relationship. Those are the things young people tend to lack that cause age disparate relationships to not function well. It's not about the things you like. It's about your experience and self confidence in dealing with relationships that are important.In reality, the new age older folks are like 12 year olds, playing on the phone constantly and gaming... I'm 49 and I'm amazed at some of those older than me who cant get their noses out of the phone or social media. I never liked games and I'm only one a few sites to pass time, but have a very active life outside of the social world where some cant even communicate without a damn text ....crazy.
age is only a number, Ive dated older as well as younger, it doesn't matter as long as its legal and compatable. Now mentality is another issue. The older generation didn't have the government interfering with how you brought up your children where today if you so much as tell your kids youre gonna bust their ass for doing wrong your own child will have you arrested for what they claim is abuse when back in the day we got our ass busted for doing wrong and to be truthful Ive never been on the wrong side of the law because my dad set me straight with a talk. I had some good friends and some who were on the wild side. My dad sat me down one day and said to me.... If you ever get arrested for something you didn't do, you can call home and Ill come get you BUT if you get arrested for something you did, Don't bother calling. So when I was out with friends and someone was getting out of hand or up to no good I left. I weeded out these wild friends and stayed clear of trouble. I myself Dated women and was married to one 8 years my senior, so it boils down to compatability in a relationship, but as far as the generations how long do marriages last in todays world compared to yesteryears? Sadly, not long at allI think society is way too hung up on age, and we too often think that an age gap means we shouldn't bother to seek out what we have in common with a person.
Younger people get labelled as irresponsible, incapable, not serious enough - while older people get labelled as unreceptive and out-of-touch. There's a lot of lookism involved, too, since conventional standards of attractiveness devalue people as they age.
That said, I think it's important to consider any possible power dynamics present. For example, older people might have more resources than younger people, and a younger person might feel they need to stay in that relationship in order to access those resources. This can happen in any relationship where one person has more privilege than the other, which is mostly impossible to avoid. But I think it's important for them to discuss these things openly.
I've dated a lot of people older than I am - when I was 19-21, I dated someone 15 years my senior and never regretted it. But I'll admit I'm often reluctant when someone younger asks me out, regardless of their gender... I'm afraid of being perceived by others as "creepy." I've noticed even at "all are welcome" events, if most of the crowd is younger, folks will think it's weird if someone over a certain age shows up.
As to getting married, I agree it might be unwise to commit the rest of one's life to another person while very young... but it's no more unwise to marry an older person than another very young adult.
HipDO op want advice because I think the older one is selfish...I would been heart broken if my son done that at 18 also be saddened if he been older one..If 21plus I live with it but at least let young one have had chance do done something other than leave school get married..
Watching tv about this sort of thing 16yr old married 58yr old..the other was 28yr old man married 90yr old woman..they said happy but how define it if known nothing else school and marriage