5 Signs You May Be Dating a Psychopath


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You know that delightfully dizzying feeling of falling for someone new? It can be a beautiful thing but when getting into a new relationship, or reevaluating a current one, it’s so important to not be blinded to the reality of who you are dating.

If you have ever had the feeling that the person you’re with may be a psychopath but are unsure of what signs to look out for, let the following list be a starting guide. It’s important to know these guys and girls’ psychopathic tendencies aren’t immediately apparent. In fact, many people who end up with these folks report feeling like they were with total charmers at the beginning of the romance.

Here are the tell-tale signs to keep an eye out for.

Love bombing

Flattery is a good thing. But CafeMom’s Kiri Blakeley says too much of it is can serve as a warning sign. “Psychopaths move extremely quickly” she writes “On the first date, he’ll probably tell you that you are stunningly beautiful, unbelievably intelligent, and uproariously witty. He will play into every fantasy and insecurity you have.”

This is where you get hooked to the person, but it’s also what he will likely use to control your emotions later by turning it on or off as needed.

Fast movers

Similarly it’s the people who want to get too serious too soon that could signal trouble. Daniel J. Sapen Ph. D., says if a guy or girl has issues with you maintaining boundaries or wanting to go at a slow pace, instead of going along with their desire to move fast, it may be a red flag.

Have to be right all the time

One key characteristic of psychopaths is flying off the handle at even the smallest suggestion that they’re wrong or that someone is better informed than them, says psychologist/psychotherapist Daniel J. Sapen Ph.D. Signs to consider include starting to feel weary of pointing out his errors for fear of him arguing with you, or if he always has to have the last word and can’t ever admit he’s wrong.

Inflated sense of entitlement

If she thinks the rules don’t apply to her or that the world owes her something, she may operate under the “pleasure principle” of doing whatever feels good at any given the time, without regard to any consequences says Ross Rosenber, M.Ed, LCPC, CADC, psychotherapist and author of the Human Magnet Syndrome. As long as they think they can get away with something they want to, they’ll do it without guilt or shame.

History of messy relationships

Being in a string of bad relationships isn’t necessarily a tip-off. However, it’s how they talk about those failed relationships that matters. If they speak badly about their previous partners, are proud of having left a trail of heartbreak behind them, or are unable to own up to their personal shortcomings in the relationships, there may be something more serious at play.