Girl, 13, gets detention for hugging two friends

Liebling:-))) · 11-07-2007, 04:49 AM

Girl, 13, gets detention for hugging two friends

Illinois middle school bans public displays of affection; parents urge change

Tim Vizer / ASSOCIATED PRESS

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Eighth-grader Megan Coulter gets a family hug from her mother Melissa Coulter, left, father Dean Coulter, right, and sister Baylee, bottom, on Monday.

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MASCOUTAH, Ill. - Two hugs equals two days of detention for 13-year-old Megan Coulter.

The eighth-grader was punished for violating a school policy banning public displays of affection when she hugged two friends Friday.

“I feel it is crazy,” said Megan, who was to serve her second detention Tuesday after classes at Mascoutah Middle School.

“I was just giving them a hug goodbye for the weekend,” she said.

Megan’s mother, Melissa Coulter, said the embraces weren’t even real hugs — just an arm around the shoulder and slight squeeze.

“It’s hilarious to the point of ridicule,” Coulter said. “I’m still dumbfounded that she’s having to do this.”

District Superintendent Sam McGowen said that he thinks the penalty is fair and that administrators in the school east of St. Louis were following policy in the student handbook.

It states: “Displays of affection should not occur on the school campus at any time. It is in poor taste, reflects poor judgment, and brings discredit to the school and to the persons involved.”

Parents urge change in policy

Coulter said she and her husband told their daughter to go ahead and serve her detentions

because the only other option was a day of suspension for each skipped detention.

“We don’t agree with it, but I certainly don’t want her to get in more trouble,” Coulter said.

The couple plan to attend the next school board meeting to ask board members to consider rewording the policy or be more specific in what is considered a display of affection.

“I’m just hoping the school board will open their eyes and just realize that maybe they shouldn’t be punishing us for hugs,” Megan said.

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Oh my dear *sigh*

sara1981 · 11-07-2007, 03:43 PM

im sure that girls need hugs from parents can ALLOWED! than school policy and dont get detention!

PuyoPiyo · 11-07-2007, 03:50 PM

Ohh dear.. This is another example how ridicilious rules school made up just because they are bored. I would have my kids have home school if my location schools are like that.

LakeTahoe · 11-07-2007, 03:53 PM

That's totally fucking stupid!!! School policy SUCKS! I hope her parent convince the school to change that!

Lil_country_gal · 11-07-2007, 04:04 PM

It's the same in our school we can only give A frame hugs which is like in an A the two people are the legs of the A and the middle bar is the arms. i think it's absoultly stupid.

J'explique · 11-07-2007, 04:20 PM

A note to school: You're downright pathetic. There are no such laws like no huggings are allowed.

LuciaDisturbed · 11-07-2007, 05:51 PM

What a dumb rule.

Oceanblue7 · 11-07-2007, 05:56 PM

I heard about this story, its ridiculous

shows postive and encourgement at any give day and time. What if a student is sad or heartbroken can't hug? I hope the school changes the policy. People hug for different reasons, win a football, celebrate graduation and etc..

DeafMonkey · 11-07-2007, 06:10 PM

hugs got for a detention? eh? that is sooo RIDICULOUS!!! It is just a hugs to said goodbye not detention that is so silly! and stupid rules ever I see it! smh

moonflower · 11-07-2007, 06:39 PM

that is really silly policy for ban hugs RME!!!! AND really stupid ban

VanG · 11-07-2007, 06:40 PM

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Originally Posted by moonflower

that is really silly policy for ban hugs RME!!!! AND really stupid ban

Agree with you. Not so

GalaxyAngel · 11-07-2007, 07:37 PM

School's policy is way overboard paranoid and stupid rules!

This is naturally Friendly hugs ... not harmful..

Wha..a..*coughing* joke?

***VamPyroX*** · 11-08-2007, 03:40 AM

I heard about this... stupid!

These schools are getting carried away with all of these strict rules. No hugging. No dodgeball. No tag. Etc...

Liebling:-))) · 11-08-2007, 04:40 AM

*nodding agreement*

My boys

students with different sex at school. It doesn't bother school because they know the difference...

Is harmless

a form of sex abuse or sex harrassment ?

J'explique · 11-08-2007, 07:58 AM

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Originally Posted by Liebling:-)))

*nodding agreement*

My boys

students with different sex at school. It doesn't bother school because they know the difference...

Is harmless

a form of sex abuse or sex harrassment ?

It is not even close to being any form of sex abuse & harassment this is, until someone aims to reach someone else's genitals or I like to call it the unforbidden area.

There's many kinds of huggings. I'm sure it was out of joy of happiness between friends. I mean, it's practically common among us. Heck I do hug my roommate and friend numerous times in a day. She is heck of a hugger!

farewell65 · 11-08-2007, 08:04 AM

strange rules, whats next?

Liebling:-))) · 11-08-2007, 08:41 AM

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Originally Posted by J'explique

It is not even close to being any form of sex abuse & harassment this is, until someone aims to reach someone else's genitals or I like to call it the unforbidden area.

There's many kinds of huggings. I'm sure it was out of joy of happiness between friends. I mean, it's practically common among us. Heck I do hug my roommate and friend numerous times in a day. She is heck of a hugger!

Yes I know but accord the article, I provided here. What would you say about this article? Is

for them is a form of sex abuse or sex harrassment?

J'explique · 11-08-2007, 08:51 AM

So you ask me to say about this article, I strongly disagreed. I already explained my reason above.

***Jolie77*** · 11-08-2007, 09:59 AM

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District Superintendent Sam McGowen said that he thinks the penalty is fair and that administrators in the school east of St. Louis were following policy in the student handbook.

It states: “Displays of affection should not occur on the school campus at any time. It is in poor taste, reflects poor judgment, and brings discredit to the school and to the persons involved.”

How can a hug be reflected in a poor judgment and discredits the school?

Come on, It's not like they would be groping each other or whatever it is. A hug is a simple affection. I can understand that there are times people will get carried away with a hug but it does not mean that they would do it in a public setting. People hug each other for different reasons. It sounds like the school administrators are getting a little bit paranoid with the hugs.

***VamPyroX*** · 11-08-2007, 11:29 PM

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Originally Posted by farewell65

strange rules, whats next?

*girl waves at other girl*

"You! You're suspended for waving!"

Liebling:-))) · 11-09-2007, 12:42 AM

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Originally Posted by VamPyroX

*girl waves at other girl*

"You! You're suspended for waving!"

racheleggert · 11-10-2007, 06:08 PM

Thats so dumb!! School rules are getting lame those days..

FairMerl · 11-13-2007, 07:11 PM

That is ridiculous. No wonder students are mess up cuz there is not enough love or care to go around in this world. People need to show tender caring hugs toward to friends..

Angel · 11-14-2007, 09:30 AM

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Originally Posted by J'explique

A note to school: You're downright pathetic. There are no such laws like no huggings are allowed.

I agree, wow....

@ Vampy's post, that could happen next who knows...

Cheri · 11-14-2007, 09:49 AM

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Originally Posted by VamPyroX

*girl waves at other girl*

"You! You're suspended for waving!"

You could possibility be correct.

This is just upright ridiculous. I hugged my friends in school all the time, and yet I haven't got suspended for it, nobody is gonna tell me who I can't hug. I think this is going a bit too far. Schools are being paranoid.

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sara1981 Batista's Fans Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: North Little Rock,Ar Posts: 2,667	im sure that girls need hugs from parents can ALLOWED! than school policy and dont get detention! __________________

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PuyoPiyo slotting Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Couve Wa Posts: 4,304	Ohh dear.. This is another example how ridicilious rules school made up *just because they are bored.* I would have my kids have home school if my location schools are like that. __________________ In memory of Ruby, see my picture album for more detail.

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LakeTahoe ~~SUMMER!!!~~ Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: Lost somewhere on the Earth! Posts: 11,615	That's totally fucking stupid!!! School policy SUCKS! I hope her parent convince the school to change that! __________________ My fairy name is Bramble Elfglitter LakeTahoe

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Lil_country_gal Cowgirl Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Saint Joseph, MN Posts: 2,280	It's the same in our school we can only give A frame hugs which is like in an A the two people are the legs of the A and the middle bar is the arms. i think it's absoultly stupid. __________________ Put some excitement between your legs.... Ride a Horse Laicy Always and Forever

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J'explique Registered User Join Date: Oct 2007 Posts: 288	A note to school: You're downright pathetic. There are no such laws like no huggings are allowed. __________________ *Relax...It's only a joke.

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LuciaDisturbed Amateur Psychiatrist Join Date: May 2006 Location: San Antonio, Texas Posts: 4,750	What a dumb rule. __________________ We will assimilate you. Resistance is futile. We will add your distinctiveness to our Collective. Implanted left ear 10/11/06, activated 10/16/06 - Nucleus Freedom DeviantArt

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Oceanblue7 My Lucky dog Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: back yard Posts: 3,555 Blog Entries: 4	I heard about this story, its ridiculous shows postive and encourgement at any give day and time. What if a student is sad or heartbroken can't hug? I hope the school changes the policy. People hug for different reasons, win a football, celebrate graduation and etc.. __________________ All year round Patriots Gal Ps.103:12 He washes our sins away into the ocean

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DeafMonkey SUN/MOON Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Ontario, Canada Posts: 9,548	hugs got for a detention? eh? that is sooo RIDICULOUS!!! It is just a hugs to said goodbye not detention that is so silly! and stupid rules ever I see it! smh

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moonflower a Stargate Fan Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: Washtenaw County Michigan Posts: 4,445	that is really silly policy for ban hugs RME!!!! AND really stupid ban __________________

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*VamPyroX* bloody phreak from hell Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: Hell Posts: 25,902	I heard about this... stupid! These schools are getting carried away with all of these strict rules. No hugging. No dodgeball. No tag. Etc... __________________ Check out my city... CLICK HERE! (If you already visited yesterday, visit again today!)

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FairMerl Registered User Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: In the Swamp, Lousiana Posts: 26	That is ridiculous. No wonder students are mess up cuz there is not enough love or care to go around in this world. People need to show tender caring hugs toward to friends..

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