Should Deaf communicate oral with hearing family and friends? - Page 3

Bottesini · 09-12-2009, 12:28 AM

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Originally Posted by SerendipityG3A

I think all hearing should have their auditory nerve cut at birth, then everybody will learn ASL and we will get first class media, all technology originally designed for deaf, and this issue would not exist!

My sister and mother fill me in on what going on sometimes, but a lot of times, they say to me, "I tell you later," but they almost never tell me later. I wish I lived in a deaf world, but I will never can afford to move, and not want to offend my family, even though they offend me, but they don't mean to offend me.

Lucky I guess you were not born with something like phocomelia, then life would be really inconvenient for everyone if they followed your scenario.

CJB · 09-12-2009, 12:35 AM

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Originally Posted by shel90

I don't support oralism and prefer Deaf schools over mainstreaming if a Deaf school is nearby.

Same.

CJB · 09-12-2009, 12:37 AM

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Originally Posted by deafannieboo

ohhh yeah. being told nevermind is the one thing that makes me blood boiling mad. that and whatever. ill tell someone i didnt understand them and they say whatever..... omg i will blow a gasket!

Couldn't agree more. "Nevermind" and "I'll tell you later" are infuriating.

CJB · 09-12-2009, 12:42 AM

I make an effort to follow conversation and expect family to make an effort to speak clearly. Luckily I have one other HOH family member (he is in denial but asks things to repeated all the time too). However it can be really isolating when I don't know what's going on visually and can't follow the conversation. If there isn't someone willing to keep me in the loop or even just repeat what they say, then I'm done. I go back to my computer and communicate online where it's easier.

SerendipityG3A · 09-12-2009, 12:47 AM

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Originally Posted by Bottesini

Lucky I guess you were not born with something like phocomelia, then life would be really inconvenient for everyone if they followed your scenario.

I was just saying it for fun, though that would be a great world for me .. but just to play along, maybe we would improve prosthetic limb technology so much that people with phocomelia would elect limb alteration and get high-tech prosthetic arms so advanced, they could sign with them same as average person with real arms and hands (and fluent ASL).

Bottesini · 09-12-2009, 12:56 AM

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Originally Posted by SerendipityG3A

I was just saying it for fun, though that would be a great world for me .. but just to play along, maybe we would improve prosthetic limb technology so much that people with phocomelia would elect limb alteration and get high-tech prosthetic arms so advanced, they could sign with them same as average person with real arms and hands (and fluent ASL).

SerendipityG3A · 09-12-2009, 12:57 AM

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Originally Posted by CJB

I make an effort to follow conversation and expect family to make an effort to speak clearly. Luckily I have one other HOH family member (he is in denial but asks things to repeated all the time too). However it can be really isolating when I don't know what's going on visually and can't follow the conversation. If there isn't someone willing to keep me in the loop or even just repeat what they say, then I'm done. I go back to my computer and communicate online where it's easier.

I have a family member like that too. He does have HA, but I don't think helping him. I cannot understand anything he ever says. I try to tell him learn sign, but he don't hear me. My speech skills are poor though.

CJB · 09-12-2009, 12:58 AM

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Originally Posted by SerendipityG3A

I have a family member like that too. He does have HA, but I don't think helping him. I cannot understand anything he ever says. I try to tell him learn sign, but he don't hear me. My speech skills are poor though.

My family member doesn't have HA's and is in total denial about his HOH status.

sallylou · 09-12-2009, 07:05 PM

I don't hang out with family much. I attend the obligatory holiday gatherings. It's not that I dislike my family. I don't have much in common with them. I'm also busy rearing my own family. They don't really talk to me and haven't really acknowledged my hearing loss. Kind of weird, actually. I usually read or just hang out.

I figure that my real friends will be patient with me. I tend to put out about the same amount of effort that someone puts out for me. If the person is not patient and helpful, then I don't make an effort to be their friend. Lots of people will only use you when it's convenient for them, and I'm not interested in that kind of relationship.

shel90 · 09-12-2009, 07:08 PM

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Originally Posted by sallylou

I don't hang out with family much. I attend the obligatory holiday gatherings. It's not that I dislike my family. I don't have much in common with them. I'm also busy rearing my own family. They don't really talk to me and haven't really acknowledged my hearing loss. Kind of weird, actually. I usually read or just hang out.

I figure that my real friends will be patient with me. I tend to put out about the same amount of effort that someone puts out for me. If the person is not patient and helpful, then I don't make an effort to be their friend. Lots of people will only use you when it's convenient for them, and I'm not interested in that kind of relationship.

You sound like someone I would love to hang out with!

sallylou · 09-12-2009, 07:19 PM

Dang it, you're far away from me. Want to be my virtual friend?

souggy · 09-12-2009, 07:20 PM

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Originally Posted by sallylou

Dang it, you're far away from me. Want to be my virtual friend?

Wait, there's a virtual friendship?

Where's the waiting list?

sallylou · 09-12-2009, 07:23 PM

I think that you just have to send a friend request to the person. I haven't quite figured out how to work that part of the forum. Send me a friend request and I'll be your virtual friend.

souggy · 09-12-2009, 07:28 PM

Go to a person's profile, and under their "friend list" there should be a text saying "befriend (username)"

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09-12-2009, 12:42 AM	#64 (permalink)
CJB deafblind writer Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: U.S. Posts: 1,409	I make an effort to follow conversation and expect family to make an effort to speak clearly. Luckily I have one other HOH family member (he is in denial but asks things to repeated all the time too). However it can be really isolating when I don't know what's going on visually and can't follow the conversation. If there isn't someone willing to keep me in the loop or even just repeat what they say, then I'm done. I go back to my computer and communicate online where it's easier.

09-12-2009, 07:05 PM	#69 (permalink)
sallylou Registered User Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: My own private Idaho Posts: 2,061	I don't hang out with family much. I attend the obligatory holiday gatherings. It's not that I dislike my family. I don't have much in common with them. I'm also busy rearing my own family. They don't really talk to me and haven't really acknowledged my hearing loss. Kind of weird, actually. I usually read or just hang out. I figure that my real friends will be patient with me. I tend to put out about the same amount of effort that someone puts out for me. If the person is not patient and helpful, then I don't make an effort to be their friend. Lots of people will only use you when it's convenient for them, and I'm not interested in that kind of relationship.

09-12-2009, 07:19 PM	#71 (permalink)
sallylou Registered User Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: My own private Idaho Posts: 2,061	Dang it, you're far away from me. Want to be my virtual friend?

09-12-2009, 07:23 PM	#73 (permalink)
sallylou Registered User Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: My own private Idaho Posts: 2,061	I think that you just have to send a friend request to the person. I haven't quite figured out how to work that part of the forum. Send me a friend request and I'll be your virtual friend.