How do the people treats you differently?

Bookwormet · 11-16-2003, 04:50 PM

When I was growing up, some people would treat me dumbly cause I m deaf. Some people would treat me like I m the last person to know about anything. I find it really humiliating but I wouldnt change about myself cause that is who I am and always will be. Nothing will ever change about myself.

gnarlydorkette · 11-16-2003, 09:46 PM

Hmph, i think that is common experience for everybody in ALLDEAF.COM when one is out in the narrow-minded hearing community where deaf exposure is lacked.

I am probably dealing with it daily here at a college where deaf population is at a record all low (15 and I only met one) and the students are just amazing that I DO look like THEM! ("What, you are deaf? You born deaf? uh how do you get in this class? Are you supposed to be in special school? How can you learn? How do you do your papers?" OH MY GAWD. I pity the education they recieved in their childhood because obviously they haven't learned shit about manners and respects!)

Most of them who treat us, as if we are slow-minded and appear about to be drool on them, miss out on a great culture experience-- so up their arses!

They will realize in some time that ("D'OH") deaf people are not any different from anybody else.

Although it always take them a LONG time to finally fathom that we are NOT slow-minded... we just use a different language, that is all. If you do notice, those very same people are also the ones who never hang out with other minorities such as Hispanics, African, etc or never travel around the world and expose to different cultures. In other words, Biligunal hearing people are great to make friends with because they *totally* understand on some level about our culture

Bookwormet · 11-17-2003, 12:11 AM

heh yeah. I had to bring that up cause I m sure that other deaf people have felt the way we re feeling about how people would treat us differently. I would expect the people to treat us as a equal like we are same as others except that our ears are broken. It s not that hard for them to understand. They would see us as handicap which frustrated me because we really dont deserve to be treated. In most areas, people wouldnt let us work like they do cause we cannot do it... We have to work harder to prove to them that we can do it cause we re humans!. We dont deserve to roll up our arms and work too hard even they wanted us to do those stuff for them to please them ... which they wont care if we re deaf or not...

Levonian · 11-17-2003, 11:59 AM

My best friend is deaf. Somebody recently asked me if she drove a car. I replied that yes, she does drive a car. When the other person was surprised at this, I responded that deaf people do all sorts of things: they drive, they have jobs, they even have sex! It's just amazing! God, I gotta stop talking to people like that.

Bookwormet · 11-17-2003, 05:27 PM

lol yes...I get annoyed at people when they asked me those questions. What does the "broken" ears have to do with anything we would do in this earth!?!?

gnarlydorkette · 11-17-2003, 05:50 PM

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Originally Posted by Levonian

My best friend is deaf. Somebody recently asked me if she drove a car. I replied that yes, she does drive a car. When the other person was surprised at this, I responded that deaf people do all sorts of things: they drive, they have jobs, they even have sex! It's just amazing! God, I gotta stop talking to people like that.

Same thing with me.. when I was attending my mainstreamed high school and one afternoon, i was getting ready to leave asap the second the bell rang because I had my car keys ready. and couple of other students in the class were like, "that is YOUR keys?" I was like, "umm, yeah, why would I have somebody else's car keys???" then they would mumur among themselves and then my interperter (sp) would overhear them and told me that they said, "Oh my gawd, they are letting deafs driving now?! BUt how couldthey hear the honks and all that?" and i was htinking, "Umm, if I drive well then i wont have to worry about HEARING ANY FRIGGING HONKS!"

Ziusudra · 11-19-2003, 07:24 AM

Lol. A lot of deaf people I know CAN drive and are excellent drivers because they use their eyes more. Not only that but they're used to signing whilst driving. I have had a lot of negative responses from hearing people regarding my ability to do anything but I've soon proven them wrong. It's good to educate hearing people because it's obvious the ignorant ones are the ones who haven't come across deaf people before.

Bookwormet · 11-20-2003, 02:46 PM

And we have proven that we re more stronger than the hearing people too

deafdyke · 11-20-2003, 05:54 PM

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If you do notice, those very same people are also the ones who never hang out with other minorities such as Hispanics, African, etc or never travel around the world and expose to different cultures

Yes, I have noticed that...most of my friends are very openminded, libral people. I've also noticed that most of the people who think stupid stuff about us, tend to be REALLY almost mental retarded learning disabled. (the type of people who are like "Who's President Bush?" Most people just see me as a typical smart class clown type and my being hoh is just one little part about me!

Ziusudra · 11-20-2003, 08:19 PM

I think it's because they probably have never seen other deaf people nor other people with disabilities. I dunno, it's up to us to prove them wrong so one day we won't have to. It'll be a lot easier in the future I think.

deafdyke · 11-25-2003, 10:56 AM

then again, a lot of people with disabilties have to go through fighting prejudiace and stereotypes about their disabilties.
I have some other disabilties (low muscle tone, seizures, learning disabilty and depression/bipolar affective disorder) and it really irritates me when someone says "Oh, I didn't know you were disabled...you're so smart!"

Like the two are mutaully exclusive or something? There are people with global disabilties who cannot and do not acheive, but there are plenty of people with disabilties who are living and suceeding!
Why is it that people think that if your eyes, ears, legs etc don't work, then you're not as capiable as nondisabled people to acheive?

Levonian · 11-25-2003, 11:10 AM

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Originally Posted by deafdyke

"Oh, I didn't know you were disabled...you're so smart!"

If a person is stupid just because they have a hearing loss and a disorder involving muscle tonus, then Stephen Hawking must be a real dumbshit.

Sophia26 · 11-30-2003, 08:01 PM

Hearing people look at me like I'm a alien and don't ackwoledge(sic) me at all. They just ingore me and go about their business.

CatoCooper13 · 12-01-2003, 03:40 AM

Hearing people who have struck up conversations with me were perfectly friendly with me until I asked for them to repeat and explain that I'm Deaf and then they go, 'Oh, I'm so sorry that you're Deaf.' then proceed in trying to yell in my face in hopes of getting what they're saying across to me.

Bookwormet · 12-02-2003, 10:36 AM

lol ......it happens to me... i find it really annoying but sometimes when people started talking to me, i would stop them and saying I m Deaf ... they would said ,"oh!" then never talked to me again ...

Sophia26 · 12-03-2003, 12:54 AM

Yeah, they do that too. They don't even talk to me again if I say something to them. But why is it that they get a little jealous or envy when they see us talk to other people? I mean, if they won't say s**t to me, why should I say s**t to them?

GoldenLeaf74 · 12-09-2003, 03:31 PM

Ido have alot of expereince myself since i was grow up with family, my family always left me out and never explain complete what they talking about. that's what I feel different from hearingw orld, I like to have some deaf friends who can communcation make me feel freedom and chat alot for sure.

Cheri · 12-12-2003, 11:07 AM

My family are all hearing expect my twin sister.. me and her just talk and sign to eachother.. we been part of missing out of family conversation when we are at a family gathers.. and plus sometimes when hearing people at malls would ask u a question and If i didn't understand what that person is saying then I tell them I am sorry im deaf can u please talk slow and that person would say oh.. sorry.. never mind.. and walk away.. Its like greesh.. nice heart u got there.. lol.. Believe me I dont like rude people who dont have no respect for deaf people we are no different than anyone we just Can't hear.. U know I dont like people who judge and think they dont know how to communcate with deaf people its very simple either learn to talk slow.. or write it down on paper or learn some abc sign lang.. basic sign lan.. no biggie... but some people just dont wanna learn.. too bad what it is happening to the world today we live in...

Peachy Lady · 12-12-2003, 11:17 AM

A few people in the past have asked me if my children were "mine" because they are hearing and I am deaf. I told them yes I "do it" just like you do too.

It always got them blushed every time. lol

Liza · 12-12-2003, 08:43 PM

thank you susan dupor for painting this.

TweetyBird · 12-13-2003, 12:21 AM

Yea I have plms with this all the time! everytime i go store or anywhere... I try tell them i cant hear with my hands to ear to ear , sign write need paper then hearing was huh, what are u talking? i said write paper! they say oh, get the paper then i write down.. sometime they rude to me... when i wanna order something food then i asked for write paper to order, casier let other line up come in my way, i was alike huh? i told casier with my sign say

be patient wait on me first! they GULPED! i am not afraid to tell hearings cuz of they need to learn be patient on deaf peeps to order foods then their will be next! am i right??? i am proud who am I!

deafdyke · 12-13-2003, 12:56 PM

I get treated differently even thou I'm pretty fluent with oral skills. I am always afraid that people who don't know me, won't be able to understand my speech.
I absolutly HATE those stupid hearing people who think that b/c I talk differently (with a VERY "deaf" accent/voice) I must be retarded.

Luckily in college I haven't run into too many kids who think I'm LD or MR b/c of my voice. As a matter of fact ALOT of people at my school, were WICKED surprised when they found out that I am deaf!

Bookwormet · 12-23-2003, 01:02 PM

It happens to me, when I was little, I was forced by learning how to speak... and I m 27 and my mom said that I still speak like the way Toddlers speaks and I was deeply embarrassed cause my speech teacher made me believe that I could speak.... I wouldn t speak ever ever again!

Sophia26 · 12-24-2003, 12:42 PM

I just love it when I come into a room and automatically everyone stops talking.

I just love it when I say "Hi" but the person or people that I'm saying to, doesn't say "Hi" back or even acknowledge me.

I just love it whenever I sit down near a group of people, they get up and walk away.

CatoCooper13 · 12-24-2003, 04:36 PM

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Originally Posted by Sophia26

I just love it when I come into a room and automatically everyone stops talking.

I just love it when I say "Hi" but the person or people that I'm saying to, doesn't say "Hi" back or even acknowledge me.

I just love it whenever I sit down near a group of people, they get up and walk away.

Being sarcastic, aren't you?

Levonian · 12-24-2003, 05:50 PM

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Being sarcastic, aren't you?

Uh, I was wondering the same thing myself. You are exaggerating, aren’t you? Especially the last sentence? I know that 90% of all hearing people are ignorant shitpricks, but people don’t react that negatively to you, do they?

Sophia26 · 12-28-2003, 01:41 PM

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Originally Posted by Levonian

Uh, I was wondering the same thing myself. You are exaggerating, aren’t you? Especially the last sentence? I know that 90% of all hearing people are ignorant shitpricks, but people don’t react that negatively to you, do they?

No, I'm not exaggerating.

Kalista · 12-29-2003, 01:04 PM

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Originally Posted by Levonian

My best friend is deaf. Somebody recently asked me if she drove a car. I replied that yes, she does drive a car. When the other person was surprised at this, I responded that deaf people do all sorts of things: they drive, they have jobs, they even have sex! It's just amazing! God, I gotta stop talking to people like that.

Would Deaf People use the flasher light to find the holes ? Idiot asking all these silly questions from the Hearing people.

Cheri · 01-02-2004, 07:18 PM

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Originally Posted by Sabrina

Would Deaf People use the flasher light to find the holes ? Idiot asking all these silly questions from the Hearing people.

11-16-2003, 04:50 PM	#1 (permalink)
Bookwormet Coca Cola Rules! Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: ~Gone in the Wind~ Posts: 53	How do the people treats you differently? When I was growing up, some people would treat me dumbly cause I m deaf. Some people would treat me like I m the last person to know about anything. I find it really humiliating but I wouldnt change about myself cause that is who I am and always will be. Nothing will ever change about myself.

12-01-2003, 03:40 AM	#14 (permalink)
CatoCooper13 Am attached and in LOVE! Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: Sonoma County, California Posts: 6,418	Hearing people who have struck up conversations with me were perfectly friendly with me until I asked for them to repeat and explain that I'm Deaf and then they go, 'Oh, I'm so sorry that you're Deaf.' then proceed in trying to yell in my face in hopes of getting what they're saying across to me. __________________ Til I hold my bub in my arms.

12-09-2003, 03:31 PM	#17 (permalink)
GoldenLeaf74 The Eagle fan Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: St. John's, NL Posts: 928	Ido have alot of expereince myself since i was grow up with family, my family always left me out and never explain complete what they talking about. that's what I feel different from hearingw orld, I like to have some deaf friends who can communcation make me feel freedom and chat alot for sure. __________________

12-12-2003, 11:07 AM	#18 (permalink)
Cheri Premium Member Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Ohio Posts: 21,075	My family are all hearing expect my twin sister.. me and her just talk and sign to eachother.. we been part of missing out of family conversation when we are at a family gathers.. and plus sometimes when hearing people at malls would ask u a question and If i didn't understand what that person is saying then I tell them I am sorry im deaf can u please talk slow and that person would say oh.. sorry.. never mind.. and walk away.. Its like greesh.. nice heart u got there.. lol.. Believe me I dont like rude people who dont have no respect for deaf people we are no different than anyone we just Can't hear.. U know I dont like people who judge and think they dont know how to communcate with deaf people its very simple either learn to talk slow.. or write it down on paper or learn some abc sign lang.. basic sign lan.. no biggie... but some people just dont wanna learn.. too bad what it is happening to the world today we live in... __________________

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11-16-2003, 09:46 PM	#2 (permalink)
gnarlydorkette is leaving for good. Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: Sunny Diego in Califunny Posts: 1,764	Hmph, i think that is common experience for everybody in ALLDEAF.COM when one is out in the narrow-minded hearing community where deaf exposure is lacked. I am probably dealing with it daily here at a college where deaf population is at a record all low (15 and I only met one) and the students are just amazing that I DO look like THEM! ("What, you are deaf? You born deaf? uh how do you get in this class? Are you supposed to be in special school? How can you learn? How do you do your papers?" OH MY GAWD. I pity the education they recieved in their childhood because obviously they haven't learned shit about manners and respects!) Most of them who treat us, as if we are slow-minded and appear about to be drool on them, miss out on a great culture experience-- so up their arses! They will realize in some time that ("D'OH") deaf people are not any different from anybody else. Although it always take them a LONG time to finally fathom that we are NOT slow-minded... we just use a different language, that is all. If you do notice, those very same people are also the ones who never hang out with other minorities such as Hispanics, African, etc or never travel around the world and expose to different cultures. In other words, Biligunal hearing people are great to make friends with because they totally understand on some level about our culture

11-17-2003, 12:11 AM	#3 (permalink)
Bookwormet Coca Cola Rules! Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: ~Gone in the Wind~ Posts: 53	heh yeah. I had to bring that up cause I m sure that other deaf people have felt the way we re feeling about how people would treat us differently. I would expect the people to treat us as a equal like we are same as others except that our ears are broken. It s not that hard for them to understand. They would see us as handicap which frustrated me because we really dont deserve to be treated. In most areas, people wouldnt let us work like they do cause we cannot do it... We have to work harder to prove to them that we can do it cause we re humans!. We dont deserve to roll up our arms and work too hard even they wanted us to do those stuff for them to please them ... which they wont care if we re deaf or not...

11-17-2003, 11:59 AM	#4 (permalink)
Levonian Rattus Norvegicus Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: Research facility. Posts: 3,829	My best friend is deaf. Somebody recently asked me if she drove a car. I replied that yes, she does drive a car. When the other person was surprised at this, I responded that deaf people do all sorts of things: they drive, they have jobs, they even have sex! It's just amazing! God, I gotta stop talking to people like that.

11-17-2003, 05:27 PM	#5 (permalink)
Bookwormet Coca Cola Rules! Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: ~Gone in the Wind~ Posts: 53	lol yes...I get annoyed at people when they asked me those questions. What does the "broken" ears have to do with anything we would do in this earth!?!?

11-19-2003, 07:24 AM	#7 (permalink)
Ziusudra The Cammy Fighter Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: Gold Coast, Australia Posts: 771	Lol. A lot of deaf people I know CAN drive and are excellent drivers because they use their eyes more. Not only that but they're used to signing whilst driving. I have had a lot of negative responses from hearing people regarding my ability to do anything but I've soon proven them wrong. It's good to educate hearing people because it's obvious the ignorant ones are the ones who haven't come across deaf people before.

11-20-2003, 02:46 PM	#8 (permalink)
Bookwormet Coca Cola Rules! Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: ~Gone in the Wind~ Posts: 53	And we have proven that we re more stronger than the hearing people too

11-20-2003, 08:19 PM	#10 (permalink)
Ziusudra The Cammy Fighter Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: Gold Coast, Australia Posts: 771	I think it's because they probably have never seen other deaf people nor other people with disabilities. I dunno, it's up to us to prove them wrong so one day we won't have to. It'll be a lot easier in the future I think.

11-25-2003, 10:56 AM	#11 (permalink)
deafdyke So NOT a Princess! Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Trebekistan Posts: 6,685	then again, a lot of people with disabilties have to go through fighting prejudiace and stereotypes about their disabilties. I have some other disabilties (low muscle tone, seizures, learning disabilty and depression/bipolar affective disorder) and it really irritates me when someone says "Oh, I didn't know you were disabled...you're so smart!" Like the two are mutaully exclusive or something? There are people with global disabilties who cannot and do not acheive, but there are plenty of people with disabilties who are living and suceeding! Why is it that people think that if your eyes, ears, legs etc don't work, then you're not as capiable as nondisabled people to acheive?

11-30-2003, 08:01 PM	#13 (permalink)
Sophia26 Learn it Live it Love it Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: Alexandria, VA Posts: 171	Hearing people look at me like I'm a alien and don't ackwoledge(sic) me at all. They just ingore me and go about their business.

12-02-2003, 10:36 AM	#15 (permalink)
Bookwormet Coca Cola Rules! Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: ~Gone in the Wind~ Posts: 53	lol ......it happens to me... i find it really annoying but sometimes when people started talking to me, i would stop them and saying I m Deaf ... they would said ,"oh!" then never talked to me again ...

12-03-2003, 12:54 AM	#16 (permalink)
Sophia26 Learn it Live it Love it Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: Alexandria, VA Posts: 171	Yeah, they do that too. They don't even talk to me again if I say something to them. But why is it that they get a little jealous or envy when they see us talk to other people? I mean, if they won't say st to me, why should I say st to them?

12-12-2003, 11:17 AM	#19 (permalink)
Peachy Lady Not from Georgia. Join Date: May 2003 Posts: 2,112	A few people in the past have asked me if my children were "mine" because they are hearing and I am deaf. I told them yes I "do it" just like you do too. It always got them blushed every time. lol

12-12-2003, 08:43 PM	#20 (permalink)
Liza Cranial protocologist Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: St Augustine, FL Posts: 4,189 Blog Entries: 2	thank you susan dupor for painting this.

12-13-2003, 12:21 AM	#21 (permalink)
TweetyBird ~ Fall ~ Join Date: Dec 2003 Posts: 21,406	Yea I have plms with this all the time! everytime i go store or anywhere... I try tell them i cant hear with my hands to ear to ear , sign write need paper then hearing was huh, what are u talking? i said write paper! they say oh, get the paper then i write down.. sometime they rude to me... when i wanna order something food then i asked for write paper to order, casier let other line up come in my way, i was alike huh? i told casier with my sign say be patient wait on me first! they GULPED! i am not afraid to tell hearings cuz of they need to learn be patient on deaf peeps to order foods then their will be next! am i right??? i am proud who am I!

12-13-2003, 12:56 PM	#22 (permalink)
deafdyke So NOT a Princess! Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Trebekistan Posts: 6,685	I get treated differently even thou I'm pretty fluent with oral skills. I am always afraid that people who don't know me, won't be able to understand my speech. I absolutly HATE those stupid hearing people who think that b/c I talk differently (with a VERY "deaf" accent/voice) I must be retarded. Luckily in college I haven't run into too many kids who think I'm LD or MR b/c of my voice. As a matter of fact ALOT of people at my school, were WICKED surprised when they found out that I am deaf!

12-23-2003, 01:02 PM	#23 (permalink)
Bookwormet Coca Cola Rules! Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: ~Gone in the Wind~ Posts: 53	It happens to me, when I was little, I was forced by learning how to speak... and I m 27 and my mom said that I still speak like the way Toddlers speaks and I was deeply embarrassed cause my speech teacher made me believe that I could speak.... I wouldn t speak ever ever again!

12-24-2003, 12:42 PM	#24 (permalink)
Sophia26 Learn it Live it Love it Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: Alexandria, VA Posts: 171	I just love it when I come into a room and automatically everyone stops talking. I just love it when I say "Hi" but the person or people that I'm saying to, doesn't say "Hi" back or even acknowledge me. I just love it whenever I sit down near a group of people, they get up and walk away.