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I grew up same thing to me , my mother talk to her family for company from out of town , I was curious and asked mother what did they say , she wont tell me and she shake her head no or nothing and ingoring me , I learn nothing from them but my family left me out and talk to my sister or brother not talk to me as much as like just say hi not much say anything , I guess they think I am deaf and dumb . but sometime my sister talk to me a little bit not much and about as my brother huh... my cousin know sign as like home sign not as much . she talk to me and her daughter too but not always, well I went to indiana for reunion family every year in july and , they said hi and hug not much as say oh boy... I guess that way they are .... well my mother know a little bit sign if I dont understand her , she sign as finger spell or write down , but my sister dont really use sign just talk and my brother a little know finger spell but not really sign just talk well I dont know some word means , well I was a little girl and, my family and I moved to califorina , I went to school just talk not sign , but I dont remember at all just a little bit about one year later my mother miss her mom and we moved back to indiana and went to indianapolis school for the deaf and they told my mother dont use sign , she listen to them and didnt stay ISD very long and her sister beg her to move to ohio and we did moved to ohio and went to school and they are not allow sign too oh boy and high school too but some of sign just for interpreter with hearing and deaf mix so now day ISD are allow sign for the deaf that wasnt fair to me , I can sign by thru my friend taught me some and , I didnt understand their sign and complaint , but she took me to church and learn the sign so now I can sign but not too fast sign while I read them , I know the deaf 's way sign too fast for me but I can understand some of if they dont sign too fast just normal . so I guess my mother was sorry cuz I need sign and understand so , I was in the hosptial for surgery ex husband want an interpreter , my mother say no and was mad but he told the hosptial need interpreter and did called them and come to see me for interpreter so my mother realized that I need an interpreter , she was made mistake... anyway sorry I talk too much , yes I remember ISD sign to me but not sign at home that was weird when they told my mother dont sign at home , I dont understand why but I know sign

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GalaxyAngel

Yes, sometimes, I feel fusterate with other peoples.. Oh I'm sorry, you're Deaf. Why you're Deaf? Give me a break! I replied, Just Born that way.. I'm FINE..
then I asked what do you saying again please.. Sometimes person say never mind.
Sheesh! How's so rude ?

FOOD ORDER.. Really annoys me.. every time I asked for pen and paper. Sounds like they are stunned and looking for pen and paper.. Mostly reilable Manager and to get pen and paper. Sound like wasting my time.. (I'm kind little patience)
Ordered foods.. Seems quick brings food order but espically drive thru.. I don't give them damn cars are waiting line up..
Never Forget that, When I ordered foods at McDonald on drive thru. The drive thru cashier replied, Can you wait for parking when bring your order foods.. I say okay.. I drove and parked wait for my order foods. Somehow other customer drove and RAGE ANGRILY AT ME.. "YOU FUCKING FRIGGL'N NOT SUPPOSED BELONG HERE DRIVE THRU", I said.. Oh Really, I point my middle finger.. Customer really angrily mad and drove then parked.. I looked them.. ha ha.. I turned around ahh there's go... my order foods arrives. I explained the manager what going on situation.. Manger said.. Okay.. stood up the customer, you're not polite to Deaf woman. Customer angirly and agruing to Manager.. Guess what.. McDonald staff called the police.. Press the charge to customer rage and angrily to me and Manager.. McDonald manager says, You may go ahead go home and have fun your meal. I left.. I saw police arrived. I decide not leave and sit and park and also staring them what they are doing.. Pretty enjoy to watch them.. ((chuckles)) Who cares.. Enjoy my meal eating for dinner.
About 2 or 3 years ago.

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The*Empress

Yeah same way with me, My Aunt in law think I don't know the name of my first cousin's children. And my mom's friend thinks I don't remember her....
she thinks I am retarded, "Do you remember me yesterday?"
Everybody know that I got 2 college degrees, but still some people think I am
retarded, damn.

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The*Empress

I would rather have my own paper and pen.... before going to McDonalds or other place. Before I get in the line, I search for my pen and paper in my purse, and write what I want to order and give to the Cashiers....
And when I forgot my pen and paper, I would ask the cashier for pen and paper, and tell them to take orders from the person behind me while I write down my orders, so that way I won't pissed off anybody.

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backstage108

Gee, I was doing some research as I'm not deaf but you are alive!!! The hearing world is seriously out to lunch. I'm basically a writer, plays and films and maybe you can read some of my posts here and there. I'm also a Hare Krishna! Ha! Don't want to scare anyone.

Ariakkas

we have 2 deaf people who work with us, and it drives me up the wall when people ask me to go over and tell them something for them because i know sign and they are too afraid to talk to them. both of them read lips very well and are able to understand the non-signers without much trouble. if they try and still have trouble, i'd gladly go interpret for them, but to not even try drives me crazy.

The*Empress

Some people just don't understand.

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pintnight

I have never seen or notice people treat me any different than hearing people. Sometimes when somebody notice that I'm wearing hearing aids they would talk really really loud and sometimes slower but talking loud. That annoys me.

I guess people think I'm not hard of hearing and wearing hearing aids is that from my friends that when I talk I sound normal as if I'm not hard of hearing.

The*Empress

yeah I am kinda glad gay marriage are legalizing....
cause to piss off ignorant hearing people....

I know most hearing people are confused about this....
maybe life will be a little easier for all of us disability people,
thank you gay people, I know I contradicting myself...

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Uh? What?

The*Empress

yeah, I can tell my mom that dream can happen, and
let me go and try to be a filmmaker...

If gays can get marriage license, then I can
be anybody I want to in Hollywood, all
I have to do is fight for my right.

I can walk around with my head high, and
not have to be "normal".

No more staring and normal people won't be afraid of me and
don;t say, "I can't do that cause I have disabilty"

And I would tell them, "why worry about me, look at gays,
they can do whatever they want to, and I can do whatever I want to too."

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Mc Gusto

Lots of people think deaf people are stupid , this is very bad when trying to get a job as a lot of employers are close minded people ,in all other areas of life i just laugh it off as these kind of people are not worth knowing in the first place

Pvt. Parts

I'm oralized and a lot of strangers are surprised when I tell them I'm hearing impaired if I missed something and ask them to repeat something.

It is very annoying to me when people raise their voices too much. Jeeebus, I hate that. When people speak up TOO much, I say to them, "there's no need to speak louder, it's the clarity that counts, not the volume, my hearing aids already increase the volume." Most of them turn bright red and apologize.

I accept their apology graciously and tell them if they have any questions, to feel free to ask me no matter how dumb they might think the question is. You'd be pleasantly surprised at how many people of take you up on this if you "give them permission" to ask the questions they might be too afraid to ask!

If someone tries to whisper into my ears, I tell them that I'm pretty good at reading lips and to try standing in front of me. Bingo, problem solved.

I get much of the same "dumb" questions y'all get, but I've found that more often than not, it's ignorance, not stupidity. There's a huge difference between the two.

Remember that they don't teach people in school about hearing loss, so guess how they learn? They ask questions. Who better to ask than the deaf/hoh?

In my opinion attitude is everything when dealing with people's questions about your condition. Lots of people of normal hearing have very poor social skills and make rude comments/assumptions when in actuality they meant to ask a question, but they don't know how.

Soooo, every time someone has a question for me, I look at it as an opportunity to educate them about the deaf/hoh.

But if they are really and truly stupid assholes, I just make fun of them. It's really easy -- look for a physical imperfection of theirs and hammer away! Once you get enough people laughing at them, they usually just go away.

DeafKattMom

That dosent just happen to deaf people. People treat me this way because Im mexican/filipino, a young mother and fat. I do know what you mean, though. Children and parents think my son James is dumb because he is deaf. They show suprise because he enjoys watching tv, and can sign. I really dont get it, I get really confused because he looks like a normal child to me, but apparently he is green with three eyes and from outer space... since he "obviously cant enjoy life because he is deaf"
Also, I do understand the yelling. People yell in James's face, and talk to him like he will suddenly hear, or something, they do it to Ian, too(my baby). It irritates me. Alot of times Ill start talking to them like they talk to my kids, I think alot of them get the point, but some people blow me off like Im the rude one. :stupid: <-thats me next to those people.
Seriously, I wish I had a video camera to show them how stupid they look yelling at a deaf child.

Just push it to the side. I know its not easy... discrimination is wrong, and it effects everyone, but you have the choice to turn away from it, or take it.

Liebling:-)))

Oh boy

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AngelWolf

I have to agree on that one lol cuz this is what u all (deaf ppl) say this: DON'T NEED EARS CUZ EYES DO HAVE EVERYTHING THAT CAN BE SEEN!! So we are not that dumb to know what WE CAN SEE WHAT IS GOING ON! Oh boy that duh hearing ppl alright! I had alot of comment abt that...

But not only that I was born deaf but also blind in left eye but weak tho.... I CAN DRIVE SO FAR.... gosh! :lol Doesn't that funny?

:lol that was good topic tho to Bookworment!

HiBluE01

I have hard time to communicate with the hearing people but I can write communication with them forth and back. Sometimes, the hearing people talk to me but I tell them I am deaf and I can't heard what you say. Some hearing people say, "Sorry" that you can't heard and tell them that is okay. I am deaf proud myself!!!

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deaf24fan

Sometimes, in the past, I'd go out with a deafl girl to a resturant on a date or just outing. We'd go to a sit-down type of resturant where the waiter/waitress come to you to take orders. There are times whenever we are ready to order and I spoke (I can use my voice pretty good) what I'd like to eat. She/He would then ask me what would my date want to eat while still looking at me while my date is sitting across from me. I often point at my date while looking at the server and said, "You can ask her yourself."

The server would go "Oops, sorry." and then turn to ask her to find that she has the ability to speak for herself to place her order. The sever embarrassly apologize and proceeded to take her order.

Geez, just cuz people are deaf doesn't mean they'd be ignored especially at the table. Just talk with them.

Cheri

It happens to me many times, They think that speaking louder might make you hear.



Yep, same here, I get a question of "Do deaf people drive?" "Can deaf people take a shower even if they cannot hear?" What type of questions is that?

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Liza

I've been encountering teenaged boys at work who always are speechless and they don't know what to do. A few worked at the home improvement store where we buy our materials from for our house.. I talked with the fella to mix my paint, and he was taken aback at first.. but he found me more comforable and easygoing to talk with. He was a great guy! And more recently, at the gas station a couple days ago.. I met a guy who was so speechless.. he kept making googly eyes at me, even when ringing me up. LOL I merely smiled, and asked if I needed to do anything else. He just looked at me in shock and speechless. LOL.

The people who are comforable around me are usually associates and family of my husband. They're used to me.

FeistyChick

someone asked you how deaf ppl can shower??? OMFG!!! (BURSTING WITH LAUGHTER!!!) that is one of the most fookin' DUMBEST question i have EVER HEARD in my entire life!!! sheesh!!!

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Liebling:-)))

*sigh* I'm agree some of you that it sound dumb question but I'm patience person and answer every dumb questions... *sigh*

They did once ask me either I can suck the cock and also can deafies lick the pussies......

I laugh them off and told them why do they think deafies can't do that?

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Cheri

Yep, Actutally this person thought that taking a shower would harm our hearing. I'm like no, nothing bad happen to our ears. What do they think we never shower?

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Cheri

Did you show them with the popcycle? That would drop their jaws.

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Angel

LOL, I've heard prenty of dumb questions...

Here are a few.....

" how can deaf people enjoy sex, if they can't hear a person moan? "

" how can deaf people be parents, if they can't hear a baby cry? "

" OMG I didn't know deaf people can TALK "

Good Grief...

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