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It's a good point. I was talking to a friend today about some of the issues here and how my brother has told me if someone could wave a magic wand and give him perfect hearing, he wouldn't want it if he couldn't turn it off. My friend asked why. To demonstrate why, I lightly tapped his shoulder with my fingers. O said: "There. You now have a new sense. It's not hurting you. Would you like it to continue that way forever?" I continued tapping. "People are telling you this is meaningful and a gift." Tap tap tap. "It's a miricle and you're better with it than without it." Tap tap tap. "Those taps have meaning. Work for several years trying to figure out the meaning." Tap tap tap. "How's it working for you?" Tap tap tap. He said, "Yeah, I get the point. It makes sense." |
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If my child were born deaf, I'd strongly consider giving him a CI early as possible so that the brain adapted well for it, if the risk to his health would be minimal.
I'd also teach him sign, and talk at the same time, and foster all forms of communication. I'd also ask him, when he was old enough, if he wanted a second CI, or wanted to remove the CI's external parts, or if he just wanted to decide later--or never. But the world IS easier if you're hearing. It's a hearing world, no doubt. I'd want to give him the best possible chances to be as he wishes to be. It's no crime to admit that deafness is a disability. It hampers communication in many ways, with hearing people. Less so every day, thanks to technology. But if a bionic ear could help my child, and not hurt him, I'd likely do it. I see no reason not to--it's not like if, with my brother, it's not a good experience it can't be just not used. By the same token, I'd not work on my child's new hearing abilities in a way that would lessen his learning about life. If things can develop well because of a baby's adaptability, I think a CI is of value. If it cannot--it was worth a shot, I think. But I would never let a child of mine think it wasn't totally okay to feel the CI wasn't of value and not use it. |
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Thanks. By the way, my friend has some hearing loss thanks to http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/M%C3%A9ni%C3%A8re's_disease and if he loses enough, he might need a CI. :-)
For him it would be fantasic. I think for some deaf people--even born deaf--it can be a blessing. Just not for everyone. |
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Plus There is no test a person can take before surgery that will predict how well he or she will understand language after surgery. It is unknown whether it'll work for your son as it'll work for those who had it. What if it doesn't work for your son? Wouldn't it be a wasted? a disappointing? And you know how kids love to play with water, and water can damage the external parts, It'll gonna be expensive to repair it, and then again he'll be without hearing. How can you be able to watch your child 24/7 to make sure he is takes care of his CI? You can't. ![]() I'm not trying to be harsh, if I was I apology.
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Is it a risk? Sure. Might it very well be a risk worth taking? Sure. It's risky every time we drive somewhere, but we cart our kids around, don't we? Life involves risks and as a parent one weighs risks and benefits for their children. If I had a deaf child, I'd do what I could--within reason--to give him the broadest possible options and opportunities. I'd also teach him that deafness isn't a curse, that it's okay to say "this technology is great but it isn't for me," to feel confident that he can do anything but hear (naturally), to laugh at himself, to consider himself a HUMAN (who happens to be deaf) and not a deaf human, and to realize that we ALL have hardships to overcome, some easier than others, and what's most important is living a happy, moral life. As a quick aside, about the "not a curse, laugh at yourself" thing, my brother likes to say "I'm not hearing impaired--I don't have any hearing to impair. I'm deaf as a stone." He's neither proud of it nor ashamed of it. It just IS. He's comfortable in his own skin. It's the way people should be. Quote:
Would I be disappointed if it didn't work? Sure--a bit. I wouldn't cry over it. It's a tool some can use. If it works, bonus, if not, worth a try. Would he be disappointed? Well, we're talking about a person who doesn't exist--I don't know. Hell, I'm not even seeing anyone, let alone married. Probably the implant would be given so young that if it didn't work he might never know until older. I'd just make sure, like I say, that using it or not was explained as being totally okay either way. Quote:
As for "again being without hearing" well that would be his natural state. That would happen a lot--in the shower, if swimming--sleeping at night. Perhaps to his liking--I know sometimes I wish I could turn off my hearing. Again, the benefits of the thing might far outweigh the hassles. And, who is to say that seeing if this is the right thing--and perhaps learning it's not--isn't a positive? Like I said in this or another thread, I asked my brother recently if getting a CI and learning he didn't LIKE to hear perhaps made him more confident that he was fine the way he was and didn't need to "be fixed." He said that was a good posibility. When lots of hearies learn your deaf and then say "oh, sorry" there is perhaps a freeing quality to being able to say "don't be--I tried it your way and don't like it. " ![]() Quote:
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By the way... I asked my brother that if he someday has a deaf child, would HE consider giving it a CI at a young age? He said, "yeah, probably." Same reasons as I've stated. Just because it wasn't right for him--probably because he was too old for it even at age 9--doesn't mean it's not right for anyone who is profoundly deaf.
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You are very lucky in the educational environment that you have been able to obtain for your son. I would suggest that his situation would be the one occurring in pockets, and the situation shel describes as being more widespread. I, too, have encountered the same situation as shel, and it has occurred over a span of several states.
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If you research the history of ASL as I did, you will see it was evolved by hearing people but derived from signs that originated from deaf populations. Read this history on ASL. It is consistant with several other sources. Deaf History - History of Sign Language Quote:
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No they are not but our children are our responsibility and any good parent would want to do what they feel is in the best interest of their child. To not get a CI is also a choice that you make for your children. If the choice is made without investigating all of the issues then its not a good choice IMO.
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Read my response to his post
http://www.alldeaf.com/765565-post255.html |
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