Originally Posted by Sweetmind

You are right. I was so angry and frustrated all the time when I was a kid. Because there is no true communication around me. Oral rules robbed my life and my whole family because they told them I must speak or else I will lose it if I use my hands to communicate with. Thats how it leaded me into a depression. I had been struggling with my own depression for years and years. Now I am getting better and have a chance to open up my true inner soul. I felt about many hearing people's pressure and forcing us to do this in their own ways.. Especially my own listening or writings, I couldnt able to express or write because it s not my opinions. It has to be their hearings way. Everything is always wrong wrong for whatever I did.

I was getting fed up because I cannot be me , myself, and the whole of me as being deaf. I have nothing to be ashamed of myself now.

Also, people out there who have no respect for me as being a Deaf mother of two hearing daughters. I was discouraged by their disrespect toward their d/Deaf parents because my daughters were getting the heavy burden shoulders by audist attitude people. They couldnt handle or talk with me in person. They violated a lot of ADA laws all the time. So how can I keep this up and fight for my rights? It is more of burning out and tireless for me with all emotional and mentality abuse all the time. Yeah right, it s easy way out for anyone who will tell me to go to get a lawyer all the time. Sighs!

It s a real nightmare experience I went through with judges, lawyers, doctors, principal of public school and many places. They dont know nothing about ADA laws. JEEZ! Thats why I feel so useless for me to have orally speaking only all the time. It s really lack of communications that I did not cause it. Attitude need to tune up very badly. They simply dont listen us very well. I know I speak good that has a nice Deaf voice. It should not be a problem for them to understand. Thats when I m so confused what the heck going on.

Thank you!

Sweetmind

Originally Posted by deafdyke

That's why I am a hardcore activist, and why I am VERY against organizations like AG Bell and Auditory Verbal International. It's why I encourage parents of hoh kids to expose them to Sign and Deaf culture!
It's why I wrote the piece that's going to appear in "On the Fence, the Hidden World of the Hard of Hearing".......and I have a feeling that once the book comes out, a lot of parents will be like "OMG, that sounds exactly like my oral/hoh kid who seems to be doing "fine" in the hearing world. I think it will revolutionize Deaf Theory! That is why I speak out......it just pisses me off totally when an "expert" does not see the damage they do to kids like us.I hate hate hate how oral-only (not oral as an option) and mainstreaming is presented as a glorious Utopia with no downsides.