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Unread 12-04-2009, 04:51 AM   #1
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How to approach a deaf person by deaf person

If someone tell you that this person is deaf. You have never met deaf person before. How do you approach a deaf person?

What was your first question to ask this person?

I want to give some examples, but i rather wait till some of you to answer, if no one answers then i will try to give examples.

simple discuss away.

I no care if this thread is going to be an epic fail if my question is unclear.

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Unread 12-04-2009, 05:00 AM   #2
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this is what I do.

YOU ??
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this is what I do.

YOU ??
I just go
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Unread 12-04-2009, 05:05 AM   #4
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LOL Yup that's what I usually ask the same and first question. what is the second question? lol
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Unread 12-04-2009, 05:06 AM   #5
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Either ask for their name... or where they're from.
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Unread 12-04-2009, 05:10 AM   #6
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I usually ask, the second question either name or where they are from in order to recognize their style of signing skills to know where they actually comes from. know what i am saying?
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I usually ask, the second question either name or where they are from in order to recognize their style of signing skills to know where they actually comes from. know what i am saying?
LOL... Yeah.

Although the second question wouldn't be good for me because my signing is that of a Winnipegger-- even though I have only been there for maybe a few months at the most!
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Unread 12-04-2009, 05:17 AM   #8
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haha there is nothing wrong if their signing skills are rusty or not. It helps me to understand where they comes from and i would have to adjust with my signing skills to match their style of communication methods to preventing from misunderstanding more.
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Rusty?!

I just means the signs I use are the ones I learned from the folks that went to the MSD (Manitoba School for the Deaf) even while I was living in Alberta.
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Oh, i see what you are saying. Sorry!! In general, speaking of people who raise in the oralism environment more than sign language enviroment.
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I guess I can't answer from perspective of never having met d/Deaf person before....honestly don't remember how it was. Now what I do - ? <if not sure deaf> - Sign you? I hoh new ....name what?
Then I tend to explain am re-learning ASL, who my teacher/friend is, etc.
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punch them in the face.
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punch them in the face.
Oi... Is that's why you have no head?
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this is what I do.

YOU ??
This what I do too, next question I would ask:

What is your name?, or what school did you go to? etc
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Oi... Is that's why you have no head?
pretty much, yeah.
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pretty much, yeah.
Whose the one that sucker-punched your head off?
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Whose the one that sucker-punched your head off?
that's a secret.
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that's a secret.
Oh dear.

You're trying to protect your parents?
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Oh dear.

You're trying to protect your parents?
they aren't deaf.
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they aren't deaf.
Did they tell you that that before or after you became headless?
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this is what I do.

YOU ??
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I meet all the Deaf people I meet in the same cafe, same place. My friend points them out to me. After she points them out to me I go over sign and say:

Are you Deaf? DEAF YOU?

Then if they say yes, I go:

SIGN YOU?

And then if they don't sign I speak or offer to use my laptop (which I carry with me everywhere since it doubles as my DB communicator) and I ask them if I am facing them correctly so that they can see my face clearly and well and adjust accordingly.

If they do sign, then I sign and explain I have to receive it tactually since I'm blind.

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Unread 12-04-2009, 10:31 AM   #24
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? Me too. Signs bad though. Sorry. PSE ok?
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? Me too. Signs bad though. Sorry. PSE ok?
Me too. I do not sign pure ASL, just mixed with asl and pse.
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Unread 12-04-2009, 11:19 AM   #26
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Me too. I do not sign pure ASL, just mixed with asl and pse.
same here..
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yesterday, one of my co worker came to see me and asked me that the client wanted to see me that didn't relate with my "office matter" and this person has questions for me. I was like, "umm, ok what does this person want to ask about what?" My co worker had no idea and said, "this person is mute and.. " I had to stop my co worker from using the wrong medical term, " you mean this person is deaf?" then my co worker said, " yes." Immediately, I had to correct my co worker to use the proper medical term in DEAF instead of MUTE. So, I decided to meet this person to get over with it since my co worker didn't give me enough information about this person. I came to see this person, and I felt weird asking this person but hopefully that I wouldn't offend this person by saying " are you deaf?" This person started to sign and I asked more questions then I am relieved that this person does sign, just like me.

P.s. Sorry, I do not declare my work positon here.
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Unread 12-04-2009, 11:29 AM   #28
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same here..
i swear that you sure look like alien in your new avatar. nice one! hehe

I think nothings wrong with signing in a mixed with asl and pse.
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Did they tell you that that before or after you became headless?
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*hug, comfort*

it's not as bad as parents telling one that he/she is adopted
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