hard of hearing and social skills

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Hi guys,

Im wodering if there's a link between being HOH and underdeveloped social skills. What do you think?
 
It depends... Yes, if you're totally immersed into the hearing world...You put so much energy into hearing and talking that you don't have a lot of energy for social skill interaction. However if you learn ASL and get involved in the Deaf community that social skill issue VANISHES!
 
Ditto what DeafDyke said.

Though I still suffered a little with social skills and being ridiculously shy when I went to college and finally learned ASL. Doing better these days though judging from the friends I have from all over the world, mostly from online interactions over the years. I miss the deaf community though- I keep moving lol.
 
My social skills suck when around hearing people but I'm also quite quiet (even sign) when with D/deaf people. I struggle to make a convo even with D/deaf people and using sign unless its 1-2-1.
 
deafdyke said:
It depends... Yes, if you're totally immersed into the hearing world...You put so much energy into hearing and talking that you don't have a lot of energy for social skill interaction. However if you learn ASL and get involved in the Deaf community that social skill issue VANISHES!
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I don't think that's 100% true about social skill issues vanishing! I still struggle with my social skills with D/deaf people even in sign but I do agree it helps lots! I find it a lot easier to socialise with D/deaf people then hearing people even tho I still struggle.

I don't struggle because I don't know sign. I know sign well but it's the actual act of carrying on a convo.
 
NaidaUP said:
My social skills suck when around hearing people but I'm also quite quiet (even sign) when with D/deaf people. I struggle to make a convo even with D/deaf people and using sign unless its 1-2-1.
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I am so glad someone has the same problem as me! I grew up oral and with more hearing than I have now, so everything feels difficult- signing and speaking. My sign because I picked it up and am in the process of learning it so late.


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MonaLisa1992 said:
so everything feels difficult- signing and speaking. My sign because I picked it up and am in the process of learning it so late.


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Well for the lurkers THAT is why dhh kids should get the chance to grow up bilingal....The language window applies to BOTH languages...It's easier to learn a language when you're young!
 
I think it depends on the person...I was actually less social before I started losing my hearing (before 3rd grade) and now I'm extremely social (but I'm only in the hearing world)...it always made my best friend and I laugh because I'm the one who loves my alone time and have a hard time getting close to people whereas she loves being around people and wants to form connections with people but she's really shy and awkward and I'm the one who's really great in social situations and have a lot of friends
 
deafdyke said:
Well for the lurkers THAT is why dhh kids should get the chance to grow up bilingal....The language window applies to BOTH languages...It's easier to learn a language when you're young!
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I absolutely agree, but I also give my parents a break with this- my hearing loss didn't get too bad until my teen years. They didn't know anything was amiss besides the doctor trying to slap an ADD diagnosis on me at one point. But for children born dhh or with an earlier loss? Give them all the options you can! Why restrict a child?


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I'm far more outgoing in hearing circles, because I need to
A. Control the conversation, so I know what the topic is
B. Be the one who is talking most of the time so I can miss less of the total converstation
C. Be super friendly, so when I accident ignore someone or inappropriately respond when I misunderstand, they won't be mad or offended.

In Deaf circles, I can just relax and don't have to keep all ^ that stuff up, so I'm maybe "less social," but not in a bad way.

But yeah, bilingual from the start is definitely best.
 
deafdyke said:
It depends... Yes, if you're totally immersed into the hearing world...You put so much energy into hearing and talking that you don't have a lot of energy for social skill interaction. However if you learn ASL and get involved in the Deaf community that social skill issue VANISHES!
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I think it would be best to part of both world . It does not take me a lot of energy to be in the hearing world. I think it has more to do with a person personally . Even hearing people have poor social skills.
 
deafdyke said:
Well for the lurkers THAT is why dhh kids should get the chance to grow up bilingal....The language window applies to BOTH languages...It's easier to learn a language when you're young!
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I agree with this, I wish was caught ASL when it found out I was HOH .
I when to some school for the deaf and hoh to be tested to see how bad my hearing was and the woman that tested me did not tell my parents I should learn ASL . I was only fixed with a hearing aid and throw into the second grade in pubic school and I lived about 45 minutes from Boston by car and could had gone to one of best school around for deaf and hoh kids.
 
deafdyke said:
It depends... Yes, if you're totally immersed into the hearing world...You put so much energy into hearing and talking that you don't have a lot of energy for social skill interaction. However if you learn ASL and get involved in the Deaf community that social skill issue VANISHES!
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...You are starting to piss me off now. Just stop it with your pro-deaf/anti-hearing speeches.

Anyways Clau, you're HoH. Are you behind on social skills? Maybe, but it's expected and it's understandable.

The real question to ask yourself is does it matter? You will live to the same age as anyone else, surely you'll have the same social skills as anyone else as you get older?

Don't worry about silly things like that, what's the point? Just enjoy your life.
 
Tuscany said:
...You are starting to piss me off now. Just stop it with your pro-deaf/anti-hearing speeches.

Anyways Clau, you're HoH. Are you behind on social skills? Maybe, but it's expected and it's understandable.

The real question to ask yourself is does it matter? You will live to the same age as anyone else, surely you'll have the same social skills as anyone else as you get older?

Don't worry about silly things like that, what's the point? Just enjoy your life.
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I agree about the pro deaf /anti hearing speeches being a bit too much.
Deaf students would not even try to help me when I was a new student in college. I went to office for deaf and hoh as my college advisor said I would get some help there , wrong the deaf students that where to help deaf AND hoh students did nothing. That is so damn childish to act the way when in college . The deaf students act like I commit a crime for not knowing ASL.
 
NaidaUP said:
I don't think that's 100% true about social skill issues vanishing! I still struggle with my social skills with D/deaf people even in sign but I do agree it helps lots! I find it a lot easier to socialise with D/deaf people then hearing people even tho I still struggle.

I don't struggle because I don't know sign. I know sign well but it's the actual act of carrying on a convo.
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Absolutely. Social skills do not rely on language. Some people just don't relate well to others or are just totally socially awkward. Btw I'm talking about hearing people, since those are the bulk of people I've known.

Does knowing ASL remove social skill issues......Mark knows ASL mmm'kay. I think that says plenty ;)

Would knowing ASL give you an opportunity to do more socializing? Where you might feel more comfortable? Sure. Would that magically give you social skills? Probably not.
 
Tuscany said:
...You are starting to piss me off now. Just stop it with your pro-deaf/anti-hearing speeches.

Anyways Clau, you're HoH. Are you behind on social skills? Maybe, but it's expected and it's understandable.

The real question to ask yourself is does it matter? You will live to the same age as anyone else, surely you'll have the same social skills as anyone else as you get older?

Don't worry about silly things like that, what's the point? Just enjoy your life.
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why are you getting so pissy over dyke's posts. Simply you can ignore her post, why? Getting pissy is not your worth to focus on.
 
Part of my kiddo's lack of social skill is due to her natural shyness. It takes her awhile to warm up to people.

Part of it is spending most of her time either mainstreamed or in public school "hearing impaired" programs. As she got older and missed so much of the incidental conversations and social cues, it's made it harder to interact socially with hearing kids although she does fine in the classroom. She is finding much more comfort with kids her age in the deaf community.


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