Why do you want to have kids? Reasons or no reasons?

katz4life · 02-04-2010, 05:27 PM

Why would you want to have a child or children?

I mean, look at the world nowadays, it's pretty awful out there. Such as increasing of bad role models to look up at, sexual abuses, global overpopulation, bad economy, incests by family or family friends, jailbaits, increasing prices on food, pollution, wars, too many illnesses in children at early age, increasing of autism in children, cyberbullying, and bullying at schools, and increasing of poverty...24/7 protection over children is virtually impossible...

Just out of curiosity...feel free to post your feelings, opinions, reasons, etc..

xsuperchick · 02-04-2010, 05:39 PM

Well.. now you put it that way... no, I don't want to have kids!

I'd like to have 3 kids! but I have a nephew, I'll try my best to protect him from this world and if I got kids, I'll do the same...

**shel90** · 02-04-2010, 05:42 PM

I have two kids and I cant imagine life without them. I love having a family which is why I had them.

Lighthouse77 · 02-04-2010, 05:43 PM

I didn't. He just came and I love him since.

like shel, i love having a family.

LakeTahoe · 02-04-2010, 05:47 PM

Our first child wasn't planned...but once he came into the world..he was worth it! Now we have another baby...still worth it! I cannot image my life without them! They are my world!

**Bottesini** · 02-04-2010, 06:02 PM

Biological imperative. We would not be here anymore if fear of the state of the world stopped reproduction.

Aussie_Dog · 02-04-2010, 06:41 PM

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Originally Posted by Bottesini

Biological imperative. We would not be here anymore if fear of the state of the world stopped reproduction.

Yeah, but there's gotta be a limit. The state of Earth keeps getting worse and worse, and the world-wide population keeps increasing. Just 15 years ago, we were being taught in school that there are 6 billion people in the world, and since then, another billion has been added. I don't think anyone's saying reproduction should be shut down completely, but if you aren't much of a kid-person, or you think having kids will keep the marriage intact, or you want more and more kids because 3 isn't enough, or you just want kids because everyone else is doing it at your current stage of life, then you should stop and think about it. I personally am not going to have kids just because I have absolutely no sense of a biological time clock. I don't care for kids (my niece is fine, but only in small doses. I start to be driven insane after several hours. I love her, but my brain is wired the way it's wired). Besides, I'm an animal person, with a clear goal to be in animal rescue, and if I want to take care of something small and helpless, a dog or cat will already be here. I don't really know why people go nuts for kids, but whatever it is, I'm certain I don't have it. Therefore, I'm not going to punish a kid by having one and then raising it for 18 years and developing and manipulating the growing mind into a state of destruction (I'm too lackadaisical and lazy to give a child the proper mental upbringing for a healthy adult life, and I know it). At least puppies and kittens require that sort of stimulation and growing for only a year, then it's a sort of maintenance for the next several years.

Lots of people respond to this sort of thinking with, "Just wait a few years, and you'll see!" But this feeling doesn't come from immaturity (well, I don't think so anyway). Besides, I've got a brother and a sister (who does want kids) so I don't feel like putting stress and abuse (lol) on myself when I can just skip on over to see the nieces and nephews.

Oddly enough, I'm the favorite aunt.

**Bottesini** · 02-04-2010, 06:44 PM

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Originally Posted by Aussie_Dog

Yeah, but there's gotta be a limit. The state of Earth keeps getting worse and worse, and the world-wide population keeps increasing. Just 15 years ago, we were being taught in school that there are 6 billion people in the world, and since then, another billion has been added. I don't think anyone's saying reproduction should be shut down completely, but if you aren't much of a kid-person, or you think having kids will keep the marriage intact, or you want more and more kids because 3 isn't enough, or you just want kids because everyone else is doing it at your current stage of life, then you should stop and think about it. I personally am not going to have kids just because I have absolutely no sense of a biological time clock. I don't care for kids (my niece is fine, but only in small doses. I start to be driven insane after several hours. I love her, but my brain is wired the way it's wired). Besides, I'm an animal person, with a clear goal to be in animal rescue, and if I want to take care of something small and helpless, a dog or cat will already be here. I don't really know why people go nuts for kids, but whatever it is, I'm certain I don't have it. Therefore, I'm not going to punish a kid by having one and then raising it for 18 years and developing and manipulating the growing mind into a state of destruction (I'm too lackadaisical and lazy to give a child the proper mental upbringing for a healthy adult life, and I know it). At least puppies and kittens require that sort of stimulation and growing for only a year, then it's a sort of maintenance for the next several years.

Lots of people respond to this sort of thinking with, "Just wait a few years, and you'll see!" But this feeling doesn't come from immaturity (well, I don't think so anyway). Besides, I've got a brother and a sister (who does want kids) so I don't feel like putting stress and abuse (lol) on myself when I can just skip on over to see the nieces and nephews.

Oddly enough, I'm the favorite aunt.

Are you speaking to me personally? My children are grown, and I rescue deaf dogs. I am a grandmother.

**shel90** · 02-04-2010, 06:49 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Aussie_Dog

Yeah, but there's gotta be a limit. The state of Earth keeps getting worse and worse, and the world-wide population keeps increasing. Just 15 years ago, we were being taught in school that there are 6 billion people in the world, and since then, another billion has been added. I don't think anyone's saying reproduction should be shut down completely, but if you aren't much of a kid-person, or you think having kids will keep the marriage intact, or you want more and more kids because 3 isn't enough, or you just want kids because everyone else is doing it at your current stage of life, then you should stop and think about it. I personally am not going to have kids just because I have absolutely no sense of a biological time clock. I don't care for kids (my niece is fine, but only in small doses. I start to be driven insane after several hours. I love her, but my brain is wired the way it's wired). Besides, I'm an animal person, with a clear goal to be in animal rescue, and if I want to take care of something small and helpless, a dog or cat will already be here. I don't really know why people go nuts for kids, but whatever it is, I'm certain I don't have it. Therefore, I'm not going to punish a kid by having one and then raising it for 18 years and developing and manipulating the growing mind into a state of destruction (I'm too lackadaisical and lazy to give a child the proper mental upbringing for a healthy adult life, and I know it). At least puppies and kittens require that sort of stimulation and growing for only a year, then it's a sort of maintenance for the next several years.

Lots of people respond to this sort of thinking with, "Just wait a few years, and you'll see!" But this feeling doesn't come from immaturity (well, I don't think so anyway). Besides, I've got a brother and a sister (who does want kids) so I don't feel like putting stress and abuse (lol) on myself when I can just skip on over to see the nieces and nephews.

Oddly enough, I'm the favorite aunt.

Like I said in another thread about married couples without kids. I applaud them for being honest about not wanting kids instead of conforming to society.

There are too many people who have kids but neglect, abandon, or abuse them.

Aussie_Dog · 02-04-2010, 06:55 PM

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Originally Posted by Bottesini

Are you speaking to me personally? My children are grown, and I rescue deaf dogs. I am a grandmother.

Well, just the first part about the population of Earth and the dwindling quality of Earth, as I was responding specifically to the comment of fear of procreating stopping procreation completely. The rest is more to the general public.

Mrs Bucket · 02-04-2010, 06:56 PM

Hubby and I love children; we have discussed adoption and will pursue this in the near future.

Having our own biological children isn't feasible for us as medically, I would lose the remaining vision from pregnancy.

Loghead · 02-04-2010, 09:40 PM

I know I'm still young, and that my opinion may change, but right now I don't really think I will ever want kids. If I do want children, I would only want one biological child and the rest would be adopted. Why help overpopulate the earth when you can be a parent to children who are ready-made? I have to admit, I'm no Communist, but I'm a fan of the "1 child per couple" rule.

katz4life · 02-04-2010, 09:44 PM

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Originally Posted by shel90

Like I said in another thread about married couples without kids. I applaud them for being honest about not wanting kids instead of conforming to society.

There are too many people who have kids but neglect, abandon, or abuse them.

Exactly, there you said it. Soo true...

katz4life · 02-04-2010, 09:49 PM

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Originally Posted by Loghead

I know I'm still young, and that my opinion may change, but right now I don't really think I will ever want kids. If I do want children, I would only want one biological child and the rest would be adopted. Why help overpopulate the earth when you can be a parent to children who are ready-made? I have to admit, I'm no Communist, but I'm a fan of the "1 child per couple" rule.

Whoa..dammnit I was gonna post something about my agreement with the idea of China's one-child policy (or one-time pregnancy to full birth) and asking why not all other countries do the same? It would help reducing the problem of overpopulation and its economy crisis in the future.

katz4life · 02-04-2010, 09:55 PM

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Originally Posted by Mrs Bucket

Hubby and I love children; we have discussed adoption and will pursue this in the near future.

Having our own biological children isn't feasible for us as medically, I would lose the remaining vision from pregnancy.

Yea, my bf and I have had discussed about adoption...but it's wayy too early and we aren't even married yet. Lol. Being fiancially unstable...well it's not going to be a go for us if that still happen in 10-15 years from now.

**Jiro** · 02-04-2010, 09:58 PM

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Originally Posted by Douglas

Yea, my bf and I have had discussed about adoption...but it's wayy too early and we aren't even married yet. Lol. Being fiancially unstable...well it's not going to be a go for us if that still happen in 10-15 years from now.

adoption agency does not like placing kids in home with couple who is not married to each other. They prefer married people or a single person with $$$$ job and stability.

**Jiro** · 02-04-2010, 09:59 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by shel90

I have two kids and I cant imagine life without them. I love having a family which is why I had them.

Quote:

Originally Posted by Bottesini

Biological imperative. We would not be here anymore if fear of the state of the world stopped reproduction.

same. it's a completion of life cycle for me. simple as that.

katz4life · 02-04-2010, 10:02 PM

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Originally Posted by Jiro

adoption agency does not like placing kids in home with couple who is not married to each other. They prefer married people or a single person with $$$$ job and stability.

That's right, I know about that part. But hey what about those foster parents? Oh man what I have seen was pretty nasty!!!

**TXgolfer** · 02-04-2010, 11:23 PM

Why have kids????? Well the beer is not gonna just walk to the chair by itself. And I don't wanna interupt the little woman's housecleaning.

j/k

Kids rock and they open your eyes to alot of good things in the world. I learned more from my daughter than I ever learned in college.

Of course I partied alot in college

Babyblue · 02-04-2010, 11:36 PM

The world has always been cruel. We just hear more about it than before. The unspeakable crimes have always been around, in one way or another.

I have two wonderful children that I love more than anything!

Why did I have them?? It is because I wanted them.

**TXgolfer** · 02-04-2010, 11:45 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Babyblue

The world has always been cruel. We just hear more about it than before. The unspeakable crimes have always been around, in one way or another.

I have two wonderful children that I love more than anything!

Why did I have them?? It is because I wanted them.

I like that answer.....Most of my post was a joke but the middle part was true. My daughter is in college now. We talk alot still but I sure miss the conversations we had when I would drive her to school or pick her up. Those were priceless.

**Jiro** · 02-05-2010, 12:11 AM

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Originally Posted by Douglas

That's right, I know about that part. But hey what about those foster parents? Oh man what I have seen was pretty nasty!!!

yea oh well. orphanage houses too.

Jess · 02-05-2010, 12:25 AM

I'm open, but not really settled on the idea. I have a niece and nephew I borrow everytime I drop in for a visit.

**Jiro** · 02-05-2010, 12:34 AM

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Originally Posted by Jess

I'm open, but not really settled on the idea. I have a niece and nephew I borrow everytime I drop in for a visit.

you can borrow me anytime you want, you know?

Jess · 02-05-2010, 12:40 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Jiro

you can borrow me anytime you want, you know?

I knew you'd say that!

OK... ummmm... going rate, 500 dollah/twick!

Lighthouse77 · 02-05-2010, 09:10 AM

it is getting hard to adopt in child abuse case, they rather see children back with their parents with counseling and therapy. If the parents want them back. So they put them in foster care instead. Or other family.

The only adoption you can have is when the mother put her child up for adoption and it is very rare.

Frisky Feline · 02-05-2010, 09:47 AM

I love having my two kiddos in my life. They are something that i can't describe how precious their loves are with me. Like TxGolfer mentioned about learning from children, that's what i have been learning so much from my kids' point of views that i have never thought of. I am so GLAD to have them in my life.
Sure,I'd love to adopt a kid but they are way too expensive which disappoints me! any kids with no home need a good home, but with agencies and the other country agencies are BIG rip offs.

xsuperchick · 02-05-2010, 09:50 AM

yeah, FF, that's the problem about adoptions...

sara1981 · 02-05-2010, 02:45 PM

i would love have children on my own somedays to raise no matter how many children would be..My grandma shirley raise my mom,Aunt&uncle and my late grandma dusty raise my dad and my 2 uncle but im been think about 2-3 children or 4 would be enough but i dont wanted 19 children remind of duggars families!!

i think adoption is expensive money and talk with attorney if you tried to get pregnant and going to IVF office and if not got one they talk with attorney about that its called surrogate mom..

Catmandu · 02-05-2010, 03:10 PM

Growing up babies loves me and smiles at me. Toddlers thinks I'm their playdate and I'm awesome at it. Teenagers likes my nail polish and even play basketball with them. I realize I can be a great mother someday and I have become a mother for the 2nd time now. I am looking forward to many more years being with them, teach and learn together, depend on me for anything and when I get old I hope they will take care of me like I do to them.

02-04-2010, 05:27 PM	#1 (permalink)
katz4life Registered User Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Queen City Posts: 1,378	Why do you want to have kids? Reasons or no reasons? Why would you want to have a child or children? I mean, look at the world nowadays, it's pretty awful out there. Such as increasing of bad role models to look up at, sexual abuses, global overpopulation, bad economy, incests by family or family friends, jailbaits, increasing prices on food, pollution, wars, too many illnesses in children at early age, increasing of autism in children, cyberbullying, and bullying at schools, and increasing of poverty...24/7 protection over children is virtually impossible... Just out of curiosity...feel free to post your feelings, opinions, reasons, etc.. Last edited by katz4life; 02-04-2010 at 06:11 PM. Reason: fix the misspelling

02-04-2010, 05:39 PM	#2 (permalink)
xsuperchick Registered User Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Peru Posts: 867	Well.. now you put it that way... no, I don't want to have kids! I'd like to have 3 kids! but I have a nephew, I'll try my best to protect him from this world and if I got kids, I'll do the same... __________________ I don't have my cool signature picture anymore Next goal: Become an Au Pair! BB pin: 237861A4

02-04-2010, 05:42 PM	#3 (permalink)
shel90 Let It Snow!!!! Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: A place where crabs are popular Posts: 40,303 Blog Entries: 3	I have two kids and I cant imagine life without them. I love having a family which is why I had them. __________________ "Wine improves with age. The older I get, the better I like it." --- Anonymous

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Lighthouse77 Registered User Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 4,167	I didn't. He just came and I love him since. like shel, i love having a family. __________________ Good thing about standards is that there are so many of them to choose from.

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LakeTahoe Registered User Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: Lost somewhere in the outer space!! Help me to find my way back home to earth!! Posts: 14,205	Our first child wasn't planned...but once he came into the world..he was worth it! Now we have another baby...still worth it! I cannot image my life without them! They are my world! __________________

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02-04-2010, 06:02 PM	#6 (permalink)
Bottesini Joe's Friend Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: With Owl Sock Posts: 37,532 Blog Entries: 1	Biological imperative. We would not be here anymore if fear of the state of the world stopped reproduction.

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Mrs Bucket Registered User Join Date: Oct 2008 Posts: 3,941	Hubby and I love children; we have discussed adoption and will pursue this in the near future. Having our own biological children isn't feasible for us as medically, I would lose the remaining vision from pregnancy.

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Loghead Registered User Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Ontario, Canada Posts: 3,677	I know I'm still young, and that my opinion may change, but right now I don't really think I will ever want kids. If I do want children, I would only want one biological child and the rest would be adopted. Why help overpopulate the earth when you can be a parent to children who are ready-made? I have to admit, I'm no Communist, but I'm a fan of the "1 child per couple" rule.

02-04-2010, 11:23 PM	#19 (permalink)
TXgolfer Dream Weaver Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Everywhere Posts: 17,671	Why have kids????? Well the beer is not gonna just walk to the chair by itself. And I don't wanna interupt the little woman's housecleaning. j/k Kids rock and they open your eyes to alot of good things in the world. I learned more from my daughter than I ever learned in college. Of course I partied alot in college

02-04-2010, 11:36 PM	#20 (permalink)
Babyblue Registered User Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Florida Posts: 12,001	The world has always been cruel. We just hear more about it than before. The unspeakable crimes have always been around, in one way or another. I have two wonderful children that I love more than anything! Why did I have them?? It is because I wanted them.

02-05-2010, 12:25 AM	#23 (permalink)
Jess Registered User Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Tampa, Florida Posts: 686 Blog Entries: 1	I'm open, but not really settled on the idea. I have a niece and nephew I borrow everytime I drop in for a visit. __________________ Official AD Nutcracker

02-05-2010, 09:10 AM	#26 (permalink)
Lighthouse77 Registered User Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 4,167	it is getting hard to adopt in child abuse case, they rather see children back with their parents with counseling and therapy. If the parents want them back. So they put them in foster care instead. Or other family. The only adoption you can have is when the mother put her child up for adoption and it is very rare. __________________ Good thing about standards is that there are so many of them to choose from.

02-05-2010, 09:47 AM	#27 (permalink)
Frisky Feline Registered User Join Date: Jun 2003 Posts: 20,239	I love having my two kiddos in my life. They are something that i can't describe how precious their loves are with me. Like TxGolfer mentioned about learning from children, that's what i have been learning so much from my kids' point of views that i have never thought of. I am so GLAD to have them in my life. Sure,I'd love to adopt a kid but they are way too expensive which disappoints me! any kids with no home need a good home, but with agencies and the other country agencies are BIG rip offs.

02-05-2010, 09:50 AM	#28 (permalink)
xsuperchick Registered User Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Peru Posts: 867	yeah, FF, that's the problem about adoptions... __________________ I don't have my cool signature picture anymore Next goal: Become an Au Pair! BB pin: 237861A4

02-05-2010, 02:45 PM	#29 (permalink)
sara1981 Registered User Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: North Little Rock,Ar Posts: 7,049	i would love have children on my own somedays to raise no matter how many children would be..My grandma shirley raise my mom,Aunt&uncle and my late grandma dusty raise my dad and my 2 uncle but im been think about 2-3 children or 4 would be enough but i dont wanted 19 children remind of duggars families!! i think adoption is expensive money and talk with attorney if you tried to get pregnant and going to IVF office and if not got one they talk with attorney about that its called surrogate mom.. __________________

02-05-2010, 03:10 PM	#30 (permalink)
Catmandu Registered User Join Date: Apr 2003 Posts: 4,711	Growing up babies loves me and smiles at me. Toddlers thinks I'm their playdate and I'm awesome at it. Teenagers likes my nail polish and even play basketball with them. I realize I can be a great mother someday and I have become a mother for the 2nd time now. I am looking forward to many more years being with them, teach and learn together, depend on me for anything and when I get old I hope they will take care of me like I do to them.

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