Children need be spank???

Pinky · 10-21-2009, 11:31 PM

I got the polls from facebook about children need be spank. I read the old thread at AD. I decide to make polls.

The people do believe in spank children for disciplines.

Some people don't believe spank on children.

Parents have different opinion with spank and non spank on children.

How to Include Spanking in Child Discipline - wikiHow

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Bottesini · 10-21-2009, 11:41 PM

I voted no. I think that behavior can be carried too far by parents and end up with severe emotional scars to children.

I think you can find a lot of ways to discipline your children without hitting them.

rockin'robin · 10-21-2009, 11:49 PM

I would vote no. But at sometimes, a simple smack on the rump is needed (with ur hand), and a verbal/sign "NO"! I ground my boys, and take away priviledges when they misbehave or break the rules.

Cheri · 10-21-2009, 11:51 PM

I voted "Yes" Spanking on the bum is acceptable, spanking is not a form of abuse. I've been spanked when I was young and spanking didn't do me any lasting damage. I turned out just fine.

I've spanked my boys when they were younger only when it is required, but nowadays spanking isn't needed.

Pinky · 10-22-2009, 07:41 PM

I voted yes. Use the hand spank instead belt whip. I don't believe in belt whip because it's abusive.

If the child is being bad in dangerous stuff like run across the street. The car would spank child go to the heaven. The child would run out of house without ask parent where is child go. The parent thought the child is miss. The child is play hide from parent to scare them. It's okay to be spank child to learn the lesson. The stranger would kidnap the child.

For me I rather put my child in timeout on naughty stool for ages minute. I don't want put my child in room for punishment. The room is for enjoy.

I hate my dad put me into room with door hook in to lock it. I did bang on the door real loud. I don't want be same with my kids.

The hand spank should be light instead hard, punch, kicking, and hit.

My dad never use the belt whip on me. He used the hand spank on my buttock. It was hurt but not really bruise cause scar at all.

shel90 · 10-22-2009, 07:50 PM

I voted yes. I only spank them for serious misbehavior to show them I mean business. It is rare.

Pinky · 10-22-2009, 08:28 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by shel90

I voted yes. I only spank them for serious misbehavior to show them I mean business. It is rare.

I second it.

Loghead · 10-22-2009, 09:14 PM

Whether someone decides to fairy-dust it or not, it's still hitting your kid. I don't ever intend to spank my future kids (if I decide to have any at all). There are many alternatives.

sallylou · 10-22-2009, 09:50 PM

I never spanked my kids. I'm trained as a teacher and I believe that discipline means teaching kids to make the best decisions about their behavior. It takes more time and energy to teach the kids how to behave but positive reinforcement works. My kids are well behaved. My teen got three "pleasure to have in class" remarks this report card. My younger child is very sweet, too.

~*Kaelei*~ · 10-24-2009, 08:01 AM

I vote yes... I only spank my son if he's in serious trouble, that he has misbehaved badly and didn't listen to me after few fair warnings. But most of the time I just give him warnings and put him in timeout. I've been spanked as a child and that didn't harm me, I just turned out fine.

CJB · 10-24-2009, 08:16 AM

I voted "no." I think there are other ways of disciplining children. Even though not all spanking is physical abuse, I think it's a slippery slope from spanking out of discipline to "spanking" out of anger, which is physical abuse. I'd rather stay away from that slippery slope and use other techniques such as time out or temporary loss of privileges as a way to get my point across.

Lissa · 10-24-2009, 11:42 AM

I was spanked as a child, quite often if my father didnt like what I was doing. But it didnt affect me, I think it should only be used in bad situations like Pinky said, if a child is playing dangerously near a road or is running across the road.
Timeouts, naughty chairs/ corners should be enough

Pinky · 10-24-2009, 12:16 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by CJB

I voted "no." I think there are other ways of disciplining children. Even though not all spanking is physical abuse, I think it's a slippery slope from spanking out of discipline to "spanking" out of anger, which is physical abuse. I'd rather stay away from that slippery slope and use other techniques such as time out or temporary loss of privileges as a way to get my point across.

Did you read both of website??

The first link about spank children with discipline. This article does not intend to either promote or discourage spanking, but rather is intended to give parents correct instruction on using non-abusive spanking in discipline.

You don't want be spank your children. It's your decide. You can use discipline without spank.

nope · 10-25-2009, 02:40 PM

I voted "not sure", but what I really mean is "sometimes." I think spanking can be very, very effective for some children, but it isn't necessary for all children. It really depends on the child's personality. I was spanked a couple times when I was very little - we were sent to our room for 15 to 30 minutes before we got spanked. It made certain no one ever hit us in anger. Plus, waiting for it was 1 million times worse!
My sister, on the other hand, was frequently spanked from about 3 to about 5. After that, she was better punished by having treats taken away. Before that, she wasn't old enough to think about consequences so that method wouldn't have worked. My parents found that a much more effective punishment for me was to tell me that they were disappointed or that I'd hurt someone's feelings. Knowing that I made someone sad always made me feel really, really bad and I'd apologize and try to make it better.

I think spanking is most effective not in hurting children, but in shocking them. That's why waiting to be spanked was so miserable - because the thought was more terrible than the brief sting. I have a friend whose father hit her with a belt buckle and left her with a scar. To me, that's child abuse and is never acceptable punishment!

Oceanbreeze · 10-25-2009, 03:04 PM

I voted not sure. I can see both sides of the issue. I was raised with corporal punishment and all it did was make me afraid of my Dad. I'm intimidated by him to this day. Therefore, I think that spankings by the wrong person can be abusive. I don't think it's the technique itself, but the person applying the technique that makes it abusive.

There is a time and place for it. I see nothing wrong with popping the butt of a wayward two year old once in awhile, but there is something very wrong with humiliating a 7 yrs old. It's all in the circumstance and how you appy it.

Mr. Averythest · 10-25-2009, 03:24 PM

I prefer using a 2 by 4

souggy · 10-25-2009, 03:34 PM

I can see both side of the issues:

My mom always made me sit down and talk things out whenever I get in trouble, but whenever people talk to me, i keep thinking I am in trouble or something like that to this day. :\ The only time people ever talked to me personally (outside of classes and such) verbally before I went to post-secondary... wass whenever I got into trouble. I actually feel threatened when people talk to me for some reason-- yet I don't get that with typing or texting.

My stepdad only hit me with a belt buckle once, and I don't even remember it.

violet · 10-25-2009, 05:53 PM

Hmm.. I was spanked ( with a belt) like every day...

I hated when i was a kid.. but now i guess i know why... I think it helped me be the person i am now.. although.. MAN IT HURT..
my father would also punch me in the face and make my nose bleed if i disrespected him.. but... eh.. i got over it.
I did come from a very strict family background... with Lebanese ancestors.. duh.. my father was used to harsh punishment.

Banjo · 10-25-2009, 06:16 PM

It's a form of discipline. Enough said.

Cheri · 10-25-2009, 06:32 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by violet

Hmm.. I was spanked ( with a belt) like every day...

I hated when i was a kid.. but now i guess i know why... I think it helped me be the person i am now.. although.. MAN IT HURT..
my father would also punch me in the face and make my nose bleed if i disrespected him.. but... eh.. i got over it.
I did come from a very strict family background... with Lebanese ancestors.. duh.. my father was used to harsh punishment.

You've been whipped with a belt and punched in the face? He should be charge with assault.

I had reported on a person that I used to know for years, she used a wooden spoon on her son and he developed bruises on his arms. I couldn't sit back and watch this go on, so I called child abuse hot line and of course her child is no longer with her. If I did nothing to protect that child, God would only know what would had happened. It does not only takes a village to raise a child, it also takes a village to keep a child safe.

violet · 10-25-2009, 06:35 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Cheri

You've been whipped with a belt and punched in the face? He should be charge with assault.

I had reported on a person that I used to know for years, she used a wooden spoon on her son and he developed bruises on his arms. I couldn't sit back and watch this go on, so I called child abuse hot line and of course her child is no longer with her. If I did nothing to protect that child, God would only know what would had happened. It does not only takes a village to raise a child, it also takes a village to keep a child safe.

I could see why it was wrong.. but im not totally screwed up..I still fear my father and mother both very much.. but i think that makes me respect them more...

soo i dont see it as a bad thing really.

CJB · 10-26-2009, 01:53 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Pinky

Did you read both of website??

The first link about spank children with discipline. This article does not intend to either promote or discourage spanking, but rather is intended to give parents correct instruction on using non-abusive spanking in discipline.

You don't want be spank your children. It's your decide. You can use discipline without spank.

Yes I know.

Even though there is a way to use spanking as discipline and there is a way where it is abusive. My father used to "spank" me to the point it was more than just spanking. I wouldn't ever want to go there with my kids.

Just my opinion.

***VamPyroX*** · 10-26-2009, 11:27 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by rockin'robin

I would vote no. But at sometimes, a simple smack on the rump is needed (with ur hand), and a verbal/sign "NO"! I ground my boys, and take away priviledges when they misbehave or break the rules.

I agree. It depends on how hard the spanking is. I've seen cases where the spanking is so hard that it leaves bruises. That's not something I approve of. If it's a mild spanking with a firm "NO" (along with some other punishment), then I'm fine with it. Simply saying "NO" isn't going to solve everything for these kids.

sallylou · 10-26-2009, 11:52 AM

I cannot imagine my children being afraid of me. I don't want the kind of respect that comes out of fear. That's not the kind of relationship I want with my kids.

I'm an attachment parenting person, though, so my philosophy is somewhat out of the mainstream. Breastfeed 'em and wear 'em is my deal.

faire_jour · 10-26-2009, 12:18 PM

The point of disipline is to teach a child to think and make good decisions. Hitting shows a child that if you are bigger you get your way and that violence is the way to get what you want. That is not what I want to teach my child.

KarissaMann05 · 10-26-2009, 12:32 PM

I agreed with you Sallylou and faire_jour

I was spanked before, and it did effect me terribly. It only made me a quiet, shy, and not talkive person. I felt so scared of my mom if I made any cheaper mistake. Spanking only brought me some low-esteem...

When I have kids someday, I absolutely do not want to spank them.

CJB · 10-26-2009, 01:07 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by sallylou

I cannot imagine my children being afraid of me. I don't want the kind of respect that comes out of fear. That's not the kind of relationship I want with my kids.

Same here.

Pinky · 10-26-2009, 06:26 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by KarissaMann05

I agreed with you Sallylou and faire_jour

I was spanked before, and it did effect me terribly. It only made me a quiet, shy, and not talkive person. I felt so scared of my mom if I made any cheaper mistake. Spanking only brought me some low-esteem...

When I have kids someday, I absolutely do not want to spank them.

I understand how do you feeling. My old teacher were abuse on me with paddle on my buttock so hard. She grabbed my cheeks. I cried so loud. It was hurt! She spanked on other kids in front of me! I really hate her! I tried to report to my mom that teacher done to me. She wouldn't believe me. The teacher died of stroke. I was so happy! But I forgave her anyway. I had a low-esteem too.

Later on I told my mom again. My mom shocked and didn't know that. I told her I wish she would believe me in first place. But it's too late now. She said it's new law for all teachers can't spank on children.

***Jolie77*** · 10-26-2009, 11:46 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by VamPyroX

I agree. It depends on how hard the spanking is. I've seen cases where the spanking is so hard that it leaves bruises. That's not something I approve of. If it's a mild spanking with a firm "NO" (along with some other punishment), then I'm fine with it. Simply saying "NO" isn't going to solve everything for these kids.

I agree, Certainly it is not going to solve everything.

I believe spanking should be used in moderation; not just to overdo it because when it becomes a habit, it isn't the finest at it's best.

inmate23 · 10-27-2009, 03:14 AM

my dads best parenting tip is

make sure your kids are always scared of you. and dont get other people to spank your kids do it yourself

i have blocked out most of my childhood. which annoys me no end

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10-21-2009, 11:31 PM	#1 (permalink)
Pinky I'm proud to have CI!!!! Join Date: Apr 2008 Posts: 5,438	Children need be spank??? I got the polls from facebook about children need be spank. I read the old thread at AD. I decide to make polls. The people do believe in spank children for disciplines. Some people don't believe spank on children. Parents have different opinion with spank and non spank on children. How to Include Spanking in Child Discipline - wikiHow How to Discipline a Child Effectively Without Spanking - wikiHow __________________ I'm expecting! It's a BOY!!!!! LEFT: Implanted: 6/12/09 Activated: 7/7/09 Freedom

10-21-2009, 11:41 PM	#2 (permalink)
Bottesini Bodhar agus leath dall Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Middle of dog pack Posts: 16,040	I voted no. I think that behavior can be carried too far by parents and end up with severe emotional scars to children. I think you can find a lot of ways to discipline your children without hitting them. __________________ It's a joke Nathan!

10-21-2009, 11:51 PM	#4 (permalink)
Cheri Prayers for my dad. Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Ohio Posts: 22,613	I voted "Yes" Spanking on the bum is acceptable, spanking is not a form of abuse. I've been spanked when I was young and spanking didn't do me any lasting damage. I turned out just fine. I've spanked my boys when they were younger only when it is required, but nowadays spanking isn't needed. __________________ God didn't promise days without pain, laughter without sorrow and sun without rain, But God did promise strength for the day, comfort for the tears and light for the way.

10-22-2009, 07:41 PM	#5 (permalink)
Pinky I'm proud to have CI!!!! Join Date: Apr 2008 Posts: 5,438	I voted yes. Use the hand spank instead belt whip. I don't believe in belt whip because it's abusive. If the child is being bad in dangerous stuff like run across the street. The car would spank child go to the heaven. The child would run out of house without ask parent where is child go. The parent thought the child is miss. The child is play hide from parent to scare them. It's okay to be spank child to learn the lesson. The stranger would kidnap the child. For me I rather put my child in timeout on naughty stool for ages minute. I don't want put my child in room for punishment. The room is for enjoy. I hate my dad put me into room with door hook in to lock it. I did bang on the door real loud. I don't want be same with my kids. The hand spank should be light instead hard, punch, kicking, and hit. My dad never use the belt whip on me. He used the hand spank on my buttock. It was hurt but not really bruise cause scar at all. __________________ I'm expecting! It's a BOY!!!!! LEFT: Implanted: 6/12/09 Activated: 7/7/09 Freedom

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10-21-2009, 11:49 PM	#3 (permalink)
rockin'robin Registered User Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: Jacksonville, Florida Posts: 2,771	I would vote no. But at sometimes, a simple smack on the rump is needed (with ur hand), and a verbal/sign "NO"! I ground my boys, and take away priviledges when they misbehave or break the rules.

10-22-2009, 07:50 PM	#6 (permalink)
shel90 In a pink and black world Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: In the land of the free Posts: 23,974 Blog Entries: 3	I voted yes. I only spank them for serious misbehavior to show them I mean business. It is rare. __________________ Shel~ "A child educated only at school is an uneducated child." -George Santayana

10-22-2009, 09:14 PM	#8 (permalink)
Loghead Registered User Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Ontario, Canada Posts: 2,163	Whether someone decides to fairy-dust it or not, it's still hitting your kid. I don't ever intend to spank my future kids (if I decide to have any at all). There are many alternatives.

10-22-2009, 09:50 PM	#9 (permalink)
sallylou Registered User Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: My own private Idaho Posts: 2,061	I never spanked my kids. I'm trained as a teacher and I believe that discipline means teaching kids to make the best decisions about their behavior. It takes more time and energy to teach the kids how to behave but positive reinforcement works. My kids are well behaved. My teen got three "pleasure to have in class" remarks this report card. My younger child is very sweet, too. __________________ Happy holidays!

10-24-2009, 08:01 AM	#10 (permalink)
~Kaelei~ Wishing Upon A Star Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Vancouver, Washington Posts: 1,350	I vote yes... I only spank my son if he's in serious trouble, that he has misbehaved badly and didn't listen to me after few fair warnings. But most of the time I just give him warnings and put him in timeout. I've been spanked as a child and that didn't harm me, I just turned out fine. __________________

10-24-2009, 08:16 AM	#11 (permalink)
CJB deafblind writer Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: U.S. Posts: 1,409	I voted "no." I think there are other ways of disciplining children. Even though not all spanking is physical abuse, I think it's a slippery slope from spanking out of discipline to "spanking" out of anger, which is physical abuse. I'd rather stay away from that slippery slope and use other techniques such as time out or temporary loss of privileges as a way to get my point across.

10-24-2009, 11:42 AM	#12 (permalink)
Lissa Just me....Lissa Join Date: Dec 2007 Posts: 3,092 Blog Entries: 3	I was spanked as a child, quite often if my father didnt like what I was doing. But it didnt affect me, I think it should only be used in bad situations like Pinky said, if a child is playing dangerously near a road or is running across the road. Timeouts, naughty chairs/ corners should be enough __________________ Left Ear Nucleus Freedom Implanted-October 25th 2000 Activation-November 28th 2000

10-25-2009, 02:40 PM	#14 (permalink)
nope Registered User Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 243	I voted "not sure", but what I really mean is "sometimes." I think spanking can be very, very effective for some children, but it isn't necessary for all children. It really depends on the child's personality. I was spanked a couple times when I was very little - we were sent to our room for 15 to 30 minutes before we got spanked. It made certain no one ever hit us in anger. Plus, waiting for it was 1 million times worse! My sister, on the other hand, was frequently spanked from about 3 to about 5. After that, she was better punished by having treats taken away. Before that, she wasn't old enough to think about consequences so that method wouldn't have worked. My parents found that a much more effective punishment for me was to tell me that they were disappointed or that I'd hurt someone's feelings. Knowing that I made someone sad always made me feel really, really bad and I'd apologize and try to make it better. I think spanking is most effective not in hurting children, but in shocking them. That's why waiting to be spanked was so miserable - because the thought was more terrible than the brief sting. I have a friend whose father hit her with a belt buckle and left her with a scar. To me, that's child abuse and is never acceptable punishment!

10-25-2009, 03:04 PM	#15 (permalink)
Oceanbreeze I disappear at will Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: S. FL Posts: 7,839	I voted not sure. I can see both sides of the issue. I was raised with corporal punishment and all it did was make me afraid of my Dad. I'm intimidated by him to this day. Therefore, I think that spankings by the wrong person can be abusive. I don't think it's the technique itself, but the person applying the technique that makes it abusive. There is a time and place for it. I see nothing wrong with popping the butt of a wayward two year old once in awhile, but there is something very wrong with humiliating a 7 yrs old. It's all in the circumstance and how you appy it. __________________ "You can blow out a candle, but you can't blow out a fire. Once the flame begins to catch, the wind will blow it higher." ~Peter Gabriel

10-25-2009, 03:24 PM	#16 (permalink)
Mr. Averythest apotheosis, paragon of Join Date: Nov 2004 Posts: 1,838	I prefer using a 2 by 4 __________________ Bewb patrol here. I'd love to see your bewbs, please send them to me in PM here. Sets of bewbs sent to my pm box: 6 w00t! You guys are awesome! Keep sendin' em in! Itchy groin ASL and Deaf happy hour at Avery Brewery info (January 5th 2010)

10-25-2009, 03:34 PM	#17 (permalink)
souggy Ace Attorney Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Victoria, BC Posts: 2,334	I can see both side of the issues: My mom always made me sit down and talk things out whenever I get in trouble, but whenever people talk to me, i keep thinking I am in trouble or something like that to this day. :\ The only time people ever talked to me personally (outside of classes and such) verbally before I went to post-secondary... wass whenever I got into trouble. I actually feel threatened when people talk to me for some reason-- yet I don't get that with typing or texting. My stepdad only hit me with a belt buckle once, and I don't even remember it. __________________ Souggy's Blog Warning! Contains skewed comments & inane ramblings. May cause spontaneous human combustion

10-25-2009, 05:53 PM	#18 (permalink)
violet Registered User Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Austin Tx Posts: 1,296	Hmm.. I was spanked ( with a belt) like every day... I hated when i was a kid.. but now i guess i know why... I think it helped me be the person i am now.. although.. MAN IT HURT.. my father would also punch me in the face and make my nose bleed if i disrespected him.. but... eh.. i got over it. I did come from a very strict family background... with Lebanese ancestors.. duh.. my father was used to harsh punishment.

10-25-2009, 06:16 PM	#19 (permalink)
Banjo Mr. Movie Guy Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Ontario, Canada Posts: 5,959 Blog Entries: 1	It's a form of discipline. Enough said.

10-26-2009, 11:52 AM	#24 (permalink)
sallylou Registered User Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: My own private Idaho Posts: 2,061	I cannot imagine my children being afraid of me. I don't want the kind of respect that comes out of fear. That's not the kind of relationship I want with my kids. I'm an attachment parenting person, though, so my philosophy is somewhat out of the mainstream. Breastfeed 'em and wear 'em is my deal. __________________ Happy holidays!

10-26-2009, 12:18 PM	#25 (permalink)
faire_jour Registered User Join Date: Apr 2008 Posts: 2,691	The point of disipline is to teach a child to think and make good decisions. Hitting shows a child that if you are bigger you get your way and that violence is the way to get what you want. That is not what I want to teach my child.

10-26-2009, 12:32 PM	#26 (permalink)
KarissaMann05 The Deaf Cougar Join Date: May 2007 Location: Salem, Oregon Posts: 4,452 Blog Entries: 13	I agreed with you Sallylou and faire_jour I was spanked before, and it did effect me terribly. It only made me a quiet, shy, and not talkive person. I felt so scared of my mom if I made any cheaper mistake. Spanking only brought me some low-esteem... When I have kids someday, I absolutely do not want to spank them.

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