How many kids...

WhisperHorse · 07-15-2008, 02:53 PM

I'm curious...

How many kids do you have?

How many kids do you want to have?

For me;
I want to have SEVEN kids on my own since I already have one daughter. I have a feeling that everybody think that I'm nuts for wanting to have seven kids on my own. Plus, some guys who I dated with did ask me how many kids I want to have on my own, I answered; "around seven kids" and they end up got scared and run away. I was like eh.. What's wrong with wanting to have seven kids on my own? =/ I could understand about the money issues, but to be honest I barely look at money issues for kids because I raised up with my own four sisters and brother during my parents had been diffcult with money and been suffer thru for whole of my life. My dad used to be work in the morning then took care of us during evening, he wored from 6 in the morning until 3 in the evening, I barely see my mother at that time. she worked from 3 in the evening until 6 in the morning, I only saw her for breakfast and the weekends that's it. They tried to get money to support us but, they support us alot with love, caring, warming, and everything as they could, that's why I want to have 7 kids on my own so I can give them same as my parents gave me. Until, I became around 12 years old, my mom finally work from 6 in the morning to 3 in the evening same as my dad works. And we have more money to afford pretty everything better than before. I consider my parents as successful with their working so hard to support us no matter what. I'm glad that I learned that from them and want to give that to my own kids so they can learn same thing as what I learned from my own parents.

So do you think I'm nuts for wanting to have seven kids on my own? Not mention, also I want to adopt FIVE deaf kids from other countries. =/ So in total 12 kids.

shel90 · 07-15-2008, 05:02 PM

No, I dont think you are nuts. It is obvious you have a passion for kids. Just have to ask yourself if u can handle the financial costs and having time to meet each child's need for attention from you.

I babysit 2 other kids sometimes...my son who is 2 and half, girl who is 3 and a boy who is 8 months old. After 5 hours with them, I am exhausted so I know that I cant handle having many kids. Just not me but others can.

I want 2 and I have 2. A girl and a boy..I am starting to think about adding one more but instead of getting pregnant, I want to adopt.

Reba · 07-15-2008, 05:10 PM

The most important factor is that the husband and wife agree how many children they will have, and how they will raise them. Both parents must be in agreement, or it will be awful.

shel90 · 07-15-2008, 05:19 PM

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Originally Posted by Reba

The most important factor is that the husband and wife agree how many children they will have, and how they will raise them. Both parents must be in agreement, or it will be awful.

The OP said she wanted all the kids on her own so I am assuming that she plans on raising them as a single parent.

WhisperHorse...correct me if I am wrong.

~♥~Pinky~♥~ · 07-15-2008, 06:15 PM

I want to have 3 or 4 kids. I am plan to make a baby this fall.

Matilda · 07-15-2008, 06:16 PM

3 children, now adults (with 1 grandson) ... 2 girls and 1 boy.

I originally wanted 6 kids but when my 1st child and I nearly died in childbirth, I vowed not to have any more children. But when I married for the 2nd time, I changed my mind and went on to have 2 more, smoothly this time round.

I wanted a 4th but hubby says no but that was fine with me.

Yes, it was a strain on our finances but we somehow managed to keep our heads above water.

Reba · 07-15-2008, 06:17 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by shel90

The OP said she wanted all the kids on her own so I am assuming that she plans on raising them as a single parent.

WhisperHorse...correct me if I am wrong.

I thought "on my own" meant giving birth to them. My mistake.

shel90 · 07-15-2008, 06:24 PM

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Originally Posted by Reba

I thought "on my own" meant giving birth to them. My mistake.

U could be right. I interpreted it as raising them on her own. Let's see what Whisperhorse says.

Reba · 07-15-2008, 06:26 PM

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Originally Posted by shel90

U could be right. I interpreted it as raising them on her own. Let's see what Whisperhorse says.

Maybe we're both right or both wrong?

DeafPenPal · 07-15-2008, 06:26 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by WhisperHorse

I'm curious...

How many kids do you have?

How many kids do you want to have?

For me;
I want to have SEVEN kids on my own since I already have one daughter. I have a feeling that everybody think that I'm nuts for wanting to have seven kids on my own. Plus, some guys who I dated with did ask me how many kids I want to have on my own, I answered; "around seven kids" and they end up got scared and run away. I was like eh.. What's wrong with wanting to have seven kids on my own? =/ I could understand about the money issues, but to be honest I barely look at money issues for kids because I raised up with my own four sisters and brother during my parents had been diffcult with money and been suffer thru for whole of my life. My dad used to be work in the morning then took care of us during evening, he wored from 6 in the morning until 3 in the evening, I barely see my mother at that time. she worked from 3 in the evening until 6 in the morning, I only saw her for breakfast and the weekends that's it. They tried to get money to support us but, they support us alot with love, caring, warming, and everything as they could, that's why I want to have 7 kids on my own so I can give them same as my parents gave me. Until, I became around 12 years old, my mom finally work from 6 in the morning to 3 in the evening same as my dad works. And we have more money to afford pretty everything better than before. I consider my parents as successful with their working so hard to support us no matter what. I'm glad that I learned that from them and want to give that to my own kids so they can learn same thing as what I learned from my own parents.

So do you think I'm nuts for wanting to have seven kids on my own? Not mention, also I want to adopt FIVE deaf kids from other countries. =/ So in total 12 kids.

Can you adopt me? Hihihi.

TweetyBird · 07-15-2008, 06:31 PM

well u not only one.. since i was young i wanna 6 kids til i got older, changed my mind i wanna 1 or 2 kids thats it

WhisperHorse · 07-15-2008, 06:50 PM

On my own which mean birthing them on my own with the love of my life(who knows).

Shel; I could meet their needs no problem because I raised up in big family and I'm fourth of my parents' children plus, I did have few pets on my own like 9 rats, Id id give them attention by equal very well with no problems. Also once, I did babysit my niece and her 13 friends at once which its not bad

LakeTahoe · 07-15-2008, 06:54 PM

When I was younger..I wanted 4 but now I wanted just 1-2 kids.

Phillips · 07-15-2008, 07:15 PM

Long time ago I was young and want 5 children but I have 2 and that s it!!!!!!

~♥~Pinky~♥~ · 07-15-2008, 08:30 PM

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Originally Posted by Phillips

Long time ago I was young and want 5 children but I have 2 and that s it!!!!!!

Why you changed your mind to have 2 kids?? Or you want to get more babies?

***VamPyroX*** · 07-15-2008, 08:34 PM

I would rather have 2 or 3 kids. If I have time and money, then I might go for 4.

Of course, it would also depend on my wife and what we both agree on.

deafbajagal · 07-15-2008, 08:45 PM

All my life, since I was as young as four or five years old, I've wanted five kids. I'm not sure why "five" is the magic number. The only thing I can think of is that my mother had five kids herself. So maybe that's where the number "five" got stuck in my head.

I'm very content and blessed with the two girls I have now. And I doubt I will ever have any more kids.

Oh, well.

horselover61 · 07-15-2008, 09:16 PM

When I was younger I wanted 4 kids but I only got 1 kid and wanted more but my life was so screwed up by my exh so I accept what I got and I enjoy my life more then ever.

***Jolie77*** · 07-15-2008, 09:22 PM

I've wanted 2 kids and now I have 2 kids. I would not mind going for a 3rd but in my case, having 2 kids are sufficient because I've already got my hands full. Having a 3rd one would just be overbearing for me and overwhelming.

I wanted 1 girl and 1 boy but I ended up having both boys. That's fine with me and I'm happy with the way it is.

WhisperHorse - To answer your question, You are not even categorized for being a nut for wanting your desires. You have your own desire to set up and to aim at the goal. Just be sure you know what will be involved because having 1 kid is not that bad as compared as having to 7 and plus children. If you think you can manage the responsibility that is involved, then I say, nothing can hold you back for it. Go for it.

DeafPenPal · 07-15-2008, 09:39 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by WhisperHorse

I'm curious...

How many kids do you have?

How many kids do you want to have?

For me;
I want to have SEVEN kids on my own since I already have one daughter. I have a feeling that everybody think that I'm nuts for wanting to have seven kids on my own. Plus, some guys who I dated with did ask me how many kids I want to have on my own, I answered; "around seven kids" and they end up got scared and run away. I was like eh.. What's wrong with wanting to have seven kids on my own? =/ I could understand about the money issues, but to be honest I barely look at money issues for kids because I raised up with my own four sisters and brother during my parents had been diffcult with money and been suffer thru for whole of my life. My dad used to be work in the morning then took care of us during evening, he wored from 6 in the morning until 3 in the evening, I barely see my mother at that time. she worked from 3 in the evening until 6 in the morning, I only saw her for breakfast and the weekends that's it. They tried to get money to support us but, they support us alot with love, caring, warming, and everything as they could, that's why I want to have 7 kids on my own so I can give them same as my parents gave me. Until, I became around 12 years old, my mom finally work from 6 in the morning to 3 in the evening same as my dad works. And we have more money to afford pretty everything better than before. I consider my parents as successful with their working so hard to support us no matter what. I'm glad that I learned that from them and want to give that to my own kids so they can learn same thing as what I learned from my own parents.

So do you think I'm nuts for wanting to have seven kids on my own? Not mention, also I want to adopt FIVE deaf kids from other countries. =/ So in total 12 kids.

As far as I know, I have none. If I have a wife, I would want three kids. Either boys or girls are all right with me. If by chance I win lottery or become millionaire, I would want more kids or adopt kids.

~♥~Pinky~♥~ · 07-15-2008, 09:58 PM

I never change my mind since I was young. I always want to have 3 or 4. I never give it up. My husband want 3 or 4. We are in common. I hope it's boy and girl both.

I am asking you for your opinion about my parents' side family and my husband's side family.

My mom has 2 sisters and 1 brother.
My dad has 2 brothers and 1 half brother and 2 half sisters

My mom have 2 kids of me and my half brother

My husband's mom has 2 sisters and 1 brother
his dad has 5 brothers and 1 sister

My husband have only one sister.

So what do you think about my our kids will be boys and girls mixed?? I am so exciting to have kids in future. Please tell me.

DeafPenPal · 07-15-2008, 10:12 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Pinky678

I never change my mind since I was young. I always want to have 3 or 4. I never give it up. My husband want 3 or 4. We are in common. I hope it's boy and girl both.

I am asking you for your opinion about my parents' side family and my husband's side family.

My mom has 2 sisters and 1 brother.
My dad has 2 brothers and 1 half brother and 2 half sisters

My mom have 2 kids of me and my half brother

My husband's mom has 2 sisters and 1 brother
his dad has 5 brothers and 1 sister

My husband have only one sister.

So what do you think about my our kids will be boys and girls mixed?? I am so exciting to have kids in future. Please tell me.

I don't know how to give you the right answer boy or girl but I found a website where you can have either boy or girl at your own will where the site claims “How to Successfully Choose the Sex of your Baby
with an Impressive and PROVEN 94.7% Success Rate!” Gender Selection Secrets Now I don't know about that website and if it will work or not.

Miss-Delectable · 07-15-2008, 11:59 PM

Not sure if I want kids, but I suppose it would be one or two is all.

My mother said she wanted 6 when she was young and look at her, she achieved that.

inochi · 07-16-2008, 12:02 AM

Before I wanted none, then I wanted kid, then I wanted none, then I wanted kids. That just means I am not ready for children of my own. At this moment, I would not mind if I had one kid or none at all. Finances are not of any worry for me. Just go with the flow and see what happens.

~*Kaelei*~ · 07-16-2008, 12:31 AM

When I was a kid, I wanted six kids....but then when I was in HS, I wanted four kids. After I got pregnant and had my son two years ago, Two is enough for me!!!

I don't want four kids...I know I wouldn't be able to handle that, as my son is already hard work enough for me, but I want one more, so does Preston. We both plan to have one more kid and that's it. (I'm hoping it'll be a girl next time)

lol It really depends on how the first kid goes...then you'll see from there. I remember telling my parents that I wanted six then four...and they always say the same, "Wait and see after your first child. You may not want that many after the first experience". I didn't understand what they meant and now I do...Oh boy were my parents right....lol

Peachy Lady · 07-16-2008, 12:35 AM

When I was little girl growing up, I have always wanted 8 children. I married young and had two babies, but then later on got divorced. I am now happily married to 2nd husband and he has three children from his prior marriage. So, together we have five children ages 25 to 8

We are happy with five children. I am blessed to be married to a wonderful deaf husband and have five wonderful children that we love very much.

Whisperhorse, I think there's nothing wrong with having as many children as you wish. You are still very young and can give birth to more. I wish you all the best and happiness for you and your family

07-15-2008, 02:53 PM	#1 (permalink)
WhisperHorse Lexi's Mommy Join Date: Dec 2004 Location: Michigan Posts: 7,303	How many kids... I'm curious... How many kids do you have? How many kids do you want to have? For me; I want to have SEVEN kids on my own since I already have one daughter. I have a feeling that everybody think that I'm nuts for wanting to have seven kids on my own. Plus, some guys who I dated with did ask me how many kids I want to have on my own, I answered; "around seven kids" and they end up got scared and run away. I was like eh.. What's wrong with wanting to have seven kids on my own? =/ I could understand about the money issues, but to be honest I barely look at money issues for kids because I raised up with my own four sisters and brother during my parents had been diffcult with money and been suffer thru for whole of my life. My dad used to be work in the morning then took care of us during evening, he wored from 6 in the morning until 3 in the evening, I barely see my mother at that time. she worked from 3 in the evening until 6 in the morning, I only saw her for breakfast and the weekends that's it. They tried to get money to support us but, they support us alot with love, caring, warming, and everything as they could, that's why I want to have 7 kids on my own so I can give them same as my parents gave me. Until, I became around 12 years old, my mom finally work from 6 in the morning to 3 in the evening same as my dad works. And we have more money to afford pretty everything better than before. I consider my parents as successful with their working so hard to support us no matter what. I'm glad that I learned that from them and want to give that to my own kids so they can learn same thing as what I learned from my own parents. So do you think I'm nuts for wanting to have seven kids on my own? Not mention, also I want to adopt FIVE deaf kids from other countries. =/ So in total 12 kids. __________________ Proud Mommy of my Alexanderia Gayle Born on May 21, 2008 8 lbs 1.4 oz and 21 1/2 inches She's the love of my life. "Gravitation cannot be held responsible for people falling in love."

07-15-2008, 05:02 PM	#2 (permalink)
shel90 Sun Whorshipper Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: A Desert Rat that has found herself in Maryland Posts: 16,153 Blog Entries: 1	No, I dont think you are nuts. It is obvious you have a passion for kids. Just have to ask yourself if u can handle the financial costs and having time to meet each child's need for attention from you. I babysit 2 other kids sometimes...my son who is 2 and half, girl who is 3 and a boy who is 8 months old. After 5 hours with them, I am exhausted so I know that I cant handle having many kids. Just not me but others can. I want 2 and I have 2. A girl and a boy..I am starting to think about adding one more but instead of getting pregnant, I want to adopt. __________________ ~Shel~ "A child educated only at school is an uneducated child." -George Santayana

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~♥~Pinky~♥~ Registered User Join Date: Apr 2008 Posts: 4,681	I want to have 3 or 4 kids. I am plan to make a baby this fall. __________________

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WhisperHorse Lexi's Mommy Join Date: Dec 2004 Location: Michigan Posts: 7,303	On my own which mean birthing them on my own with the love of my life(who knows). Shel; I could meet their needs no problem because I raised up in big family and I'm fourth of my parents' children plus, I did have few pets on my own like 9 rats, Id id give them attention by equal very well with no problems. Also once, I did babysit my niece and her 13 friends at once which its not bad __________________ Proud Mommy of my Alexanderia Gayle Born on May 21, 2008 8 lbs 1.4 oz and 21 1/2 inches She's the love of my life. "Gravitation cannot be held responsible for people falling in love."

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07-15-2008, 05:10 PM	#3 (permalink)
Reba Premium Member Join Date: Jun 2004 Posts: 17,287	The most important factor is that the husband and wife agree how many children they will have, and how they will raise them. Both parents must be in agreement, or it will be awful.

07-15-2008, 06:16 PM	#6 (permalink)
Matilda Boxing Kangaroo "Jack" Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Brisbane, Australia Posts: 2,176	3 children, now adults (with 1 grandson) ... 2 girls and 1 boy. I originally wanted 6 kids but when my 1st child and I nearly died in childbirth, I vowed not to have any more children. But when I married for the 2nd time, I changed my mind and went on to have 2 more, smoothly this time round. I wanted a 4th but hubby says no but that was fine with me. Yes, it was a strain on our finances but we somehow managed to keep our heads above water.

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TweetyBird ~ Fall ~ Join Date: Dec 2003 Posts: 21,406	well u not only one.. since i was young i wanna 6 kids til i got older, changed my mind i wanna 1 or 2 kids thats it

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Phillips Lets ride horses! Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Spaceship Posts: 7,195 Blog Entries: 3	Long time ago I was young and want 5 children but I have 2 and that s it!!!!!! __________________ *Enjoy life today, Yesterday has past and Tomorrow may never come.*

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*VamPyroX* bloody phreak from hell Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: Hell Posts: 27,867	I would rather have 2 or 3 kids. If I have time and money, then I might go for 4. Of course, it would also depend on my wife and what we both agree on. __________________ Check out my city... CLICK HERE! (If you already visited yesterday, visit again today!)

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deafbajagal Jasmine's Tiger "Lilly" Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: USA Posts: 2,117	All my life, since I was as young as four or five years old, I've wanted five kids. I'm not sure why "five" is the magic number. The only thing I can think of is that my mother had five kids herself. So maybe that's where the number "five" got stuck in my head. I'm very content and blessed with the two girls I have now. And I doubt I will ever have any more kids. Oh, well.

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horselover61 Neigh!!! Neigh!!! Join Date: Apr 2003 Posts: 5,254 Blog Entries: 2	When I was younger I wanted 4 kids but I only got 1 kid and wanted more but my life was so screwed up by my exh so I accept what I got and I enjoy my life more then ever. __________________ Check out my city!! http://furbyland.myminicity.com/

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*Jolie77* Love all, trust a few. Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Kentucky, USA (The Bluegrass State) Posts: 5,537	I've wanted 2 kids and now I have 2 kids. I would not mind going for a 3rd but in my case, having 2 kids are sufficient because I've already got my hands full. Having a 3rd one would just be overbearing for me and overwhelming. I wanted 1 girl and 1 boy but I ended up having both boys. That's fine with me and I'm happy with the way it is. WhisperHorse - To answer your question, You are not even categorized for being a nut for wanting your desires. You have your own desire to set up and to aim at the goal. Just be sure you know what will be involved because having 1 kid is not that bad as compared as having to 7 and plus children. If you think you can manage the responsibility that is involved, then I say, nothing can hold you back for it. Go for it. __________________

07-15-2008, 09:58 PM	#21 (permalink)
~♥~Pinky~♥~ Registered User Join Date: Apr 2008 Posts: 4,681	I never change my mind since I was young. I always want to have 3 or 4. I never give it up. My husband want 3 or 4. We are in common. I hope it's boy and girl both. I am asking you for your opinion about my parents' side family and my husband's side family. My mom has 2 sisters and 1 brother. My dad has 2 brothers and 1 half brother and 2 half sisters My mom have 2 kids of me and my half brother My husband's mom has 2 sisters and 1 brother his dad has 5 brothers and 1 sister My husband have only one sister. So what do you think about my our kids will be boys and girls mixed?? I am so exciting to have kids in future. Please tell me. __________________

07-15-2008, 11:59 PM	#23 (permalink)
Miss-Delectable Capt Tony Nelson, Jeannie Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: No.1 Shopping Capital in Australia Posts: 8,855 Blog Entries: 3	Not sure if I want kids, but I suppose it would be one or two is all. My mother said she wanted 6 when she was young and look at her, she achieved that. __________________

07-16-2008, 12:02 AM	#24 (permalink)
inochi Eternal Life Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 515	Before I wanted none, then I wanted kid, then I wanted none, then I wanted kids. That just means I am not ready for children of my own. At this moment, I would not mind if I had one kid or none at all. Finances are not of any worry for me. Just go with the flow and see what happens.

07-16-2008, 12:31 AM	#25 (permalink)
~Kaelei~ Slytherin Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Seattle, Washington Posts: 193	When I was a kid, I wanted six kids....but then when I was in HS, I wanted four kids. After I got pregnant and had my son two years ago, Two is enough for me!!! I don't want four kids...I know I wouldn't be able to handle that, as my son is already hard work enough for me, but I want one more, so does Preston. We both plan to have one more kid and that's it. (I'm hoping it'll be a girl next time) lol It really depends on how the first kid goes...then you'll see from there. I remember telling my parents that I wanted six then four...and they always say the same, "Wait and see after your first child. You may not want that many after the first experience". I didn't understand what they meant and now I do...Oh boy were my parents right....lol __________________