How do I deal with my warth family?

KarissaMann05 · 02-03-2008, 04:46 PM

I can't stand it anymore... I'm so sick of their warth over a little thing, currently!

For explain: You are accidently sipping a several drops of water liquids from a kind of cup when you trip a something, suddenly your mom shout and blurt at you, "BE CAREFUL!! YOU ARE SUPPOSE TO WATCH OUT!! CLEAN YOUR MESS UP!!"

Other explain: You make a little mess thing, like a several spilled foods on a table, and you got a long shouting comment over that little thing. I have to clean up faster.

Another explain: Even worse, I was junior student of high school and I lost SK2 once, my family made me to feel I was an idiot and I got screaming comments from them. Make it BIG deal!!

Funny... My family made a small mistake and I don't scream back at all, but WHY MY FAMILY?

Each warth comment made me uncomfy and refused to express out what happened events, sharing how I feel, and etc etc. I could not express out that I was a major depressing and sleepnig a lot, because they thought I was selfish and self-centered, or got an attention. I could not inform them whatever I need something, because they may think I am not take care of myself enough or not take a responality.. whatever it is, I can't stand to face them each I want to help, otherwise, I would get a warth comment from them. I always ask my friends for help instead. -SIGHS!-

I'm so SICK OF IT!!! I have enough with tolerant their ranting voices!!

I don't know how to face my family how I feel about their warth voices toward me all the times. It's very frustating.

What should I do? I need some supportive and cooperative comments from you, ADers, please?

SxyPorkie · 02-03-2008, 05:28 PM

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Originally Posted by Mann_K05

I can't stand it anymore... I'm so sick of their warth over a little thing, currently!

For explain: You are accidently sipping a several drops of water liquids from a kind of cup when you trip a something, suddenly your mom shout and blurt at you, "BE CAREFUL!! YOU ARE SUPPOSE TO WATCH OUT!! CLEAN YOUR MESS UP!!"

Other explain: You make a little mess thing, like a several spilled foods on a table, and you got a long shouting comment over that little thing. I have to clean up faster.

Another explain: Even worse, I was junior student of high school and I lost SK2 once, my family made me to feel I was an idiot and I got screaming comments from them. Make it BIG deal!!

Funny... My family made a small mistake and I don't scream back at all, but WHY MY FAMILY?

Each warth comment made me uncomfy and refused to express out what happened events, sharing how I feel, and etc etc. I could not express out that I was a major depressing and sleepnig a lot, because they thought I was selfish and self-centered, or got an attention. I could not inform them whatever I need something, because they may think I am not take care of myself enough or not take a responality.. whatever it is, I can't stand to face them each I want to help, otherwise, I would get a warth comment from them. I always ask my friends for help instead. -SIGHS!-

I'm so SICK OF IT!!! I have enough with tolerant their ranting voices!!

I don't know how to face my family how I feel about their warth voices toward me all the times. It's very frustating.

What should I do? I need some supportive and cooperative comments from you, ADers, please?

WOW... I understand how you feel.... I suggest you to see counselor to help with your depressions...Perhaps Family counselor.. Talk to someone from your school about getting help with counselors???

jillio · 02-03-2008, 05:40 PM

I agree with SxyPorkie. A counselor could help you deal with depression. But, please, keep in mind Mann05...just because your family talks to you this way does not mean that you deserve to be talked to this way. It doesn't really matter what they think of you. What matters most is what you think of yourself.

Your family obviously has some problems. But don't let their problems become your problems. Everyone makes mistakes. We are not our mistakes. Mistakes are something we do.....valuable human beings that deserve respect are what we are.

KarissaMann05 · 02-03-2008, 05:40 PM

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Originally Posted by SxyPorkie

WOW... I understand how you feel.... I suggest you to see counselor to help with your depressions...Perhaps Family counselor.. Talk to someone from your school about getting help with counselors???

for reply

[Font color="royalblue"]Oh, I'm not despressing. I only was.

I am just frustating that warth comments are on my nerves... Plus, I was graduated so I am not a hs student anymore.

But, a counselor? Sound may be help, I guess... I don't like to have more dramas, I won't surprise if my family got more angry at me for having a counselor as if they think I don't need that.

KarissaMann05 · 02-03-2008, 05:49 PM

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Originally Posted by jillio

I agree with SxyPorkie. A counselor could help you deal with depression. But, please, keep in mind Mann05...just because your family talks to you this way does not mean that you deserve to be talked to this way. It doesn't really matter what they think of you. What matters most is what you think of yourself.

No, I was depressing. Now, I am not. Look at my replied comment to her. And, what do you mean, "just because your family talks to you this way does not mean that you deserve to be talked to this way."?

I'm not sure what you mean, besides, I already shuted myself out because they did not want to listen my expression of feeling. I always held my expression all the time and it's now almost too impossible for me to tell an experience story, tell how/what I feel, and etc etc.

Your family obviously has some problems. But don't let their problems become your problems. Everyone makes mistakes. We are not our mistakes. Mistakes are something we do.....valuable human beings that deserve respect are what we are.

Yeah...

for rely.

SxyPorkie · 02-03-2008, 05:56 PM

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Originally Posted by Mann_K05

Yeah...

for rely.

Since you are not in school anymore.. Still you need to see counselor to get things out of your chest.. IT IS VERY IMPORTANT... I went through the similar situation like yours... when i was young I had no coundelor... many years later...I went into depressions... and tried to commit suicide three times... I got help.... Now I am ok....

jillio · 02-03-2008, 06:08 PM

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Originally Posted by Mann_K05

Yeah...

for rely.

I meant that it is their problem if they talk to you that way. You have not done anything to deserve it. Please don't think it is your fault.

KarissaMann05 · 02-03-2008, 06:13 PM

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Originally Posted by SxyPorkie

Since you are not in school anymore.. Still you need to see counselor to get things out of your chest.. IT IS VERY IMPORTANT... I went through the similar situation like yours... when i was young I had no coundelor... many years later...I went into depressions... and tried to commit suicide three times... I got help.... Now I am ok....

Mmm... I'm kinda of afraid to seek a counselor, I really don't know what's happen next when my family learns I have a counselor for help.

I really dont want to deal any drama with my family.. or to listen their screaming comments.

KarissaMann05 · 02-03-2008, 06:14 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by jillio

I meant that it is their problem if they talk to you that way. You have not done anything to deserve it. Please don't think it is your fault.

Oh, all right.

moonflower · 02-03-2008, 06:45 PM

mann
i went same thing what you have been through with parents controllings and i found counselor to help me with my depression and it did help and who cares what my parents does to me
i am better from depression

SxyPorkie · 02-03-2008, 07:08 PM

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Originally Posted by moonflower

mann
i went same thing what you have been through with parents controllings and i found counselor to help me with my depression and it did help and who cares what my parents does to me
i am better from depression

Wonderful...thats what i was trying to tell mann .. i went through same way...

JClarke · 02-03-2008, 07:27 PM

I think you should tell them what you felt and confront them what has affected you, if you don't wish to go to a whatever it is called (I think I am too lazy to type the specific word atm)

morbid-mongoose · 02-03-2008, 07:44 PM

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Originally Posted by Jclarke

I think you should tell them what you felt and confront them what has affected you, if you don't wish to go to a whatever it is called (I think I am too lazy to type the specific word atm)

A mental hospital or an asylum?

JClarke · 02-03-2008, 07:46 PM

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Originally Posted by morbid-mongoose

A mental hospital or an asylum?

No, "counselor" would be the word.

moonflower · 02-03-2008, 08:10 PM

mann
trusted me counselor can help

KarissaMann05 · 02-03-2008, 08:15 PM

No, ADers. I'm sorry for confusion, but what I try to say:

I'm NOT depressing, honestly, I am not. They don't control me, they are all do is yelling all the time that I don't want to listen.

I am frustating about little things made a minor accident WHICH is made a such BIG deal. I dont know why you assume me that I have my "depression" or being controlled. It's DIFFERENT. I meant, how do I deal with their warth emotion? That's point. They are just yelling at me when I made a small accident. Understand? I hope I make it clear. ^_^

A counselor may be help, yet I'm still not sure about about it...

omegaman · 02-04-2008, 02:34 AM

It does make you wonder what goes through the mind of those parents who like to scream and create commotion over something small.

Perhaps next time they yell, tell them that you do not need to listen to their yelling. If you wear HA, you could remove them when they yelling. Let them waste their energy while you stay at peace within yourself..

Eventually they will get a sore throat and stop yelling..

JClarke · 02-04-2008, 02:38 AM

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Originally Posted by omegaman

It does make you wonder what goes through the mind of those parents who like to scream and create commotion over something small.

Perhaps next time they yell, tell them that you do not need to listen to their yelling. If you wear HA, you could remove them when they yelling. Let them waste their energy while you stay at peace within yourself..

Eventually they will get a sore throat and stop yelling..

Well, she got eyes and she can see the reactions from their families -- how can she avoid that, if the HA doesn't work???

omegaman · 02-04-2008, 03:07 AM

I figure if a person is not getting through to somebody they will either yell more or shut up once they figure they'd be better of yelling at a brick wall..

It seems her parents won't listen to her regardless. Perhaps they should see a counselor instead.

JClarke · 02-04-2008, 03:11 AM

Why does somebody yell over something small if it was accidental?

GalaxyAngel · 02-04-2008, 11:50 AM

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Originally Posted by Mann_K05

No, ADers. I'm sorry for confusion, but what I try to say:

I'm NOT depressing, honestly, I am not. They don't control me, they are all do is yelling all the time that I don't want to listen.

I am frustating about little things made a minor accident WHICH is made a such BIG deal. I dont know why you assume me that I have my "depression" or being controlled. It's DIFFERENT. I meant, how do I deal with their warth emotion? That's point. They are just yelling at me when I made a small accident. Understand? I hope I make it clear. ^_^

A counselor may be help, yet I'm still not sure about about it...

My adpot parents were frantic freak control and yelling me everything. I decide to take counselor and asked why they are kept constantly frantic control or else.. includes yelling me.. I'm glad Counselor helped me through.. and tell my parent have to STOP and respect learn communication each together.. That's importance. Afterall, I have not see them ever since I Left from them because of abuse there!

You need that.. don't hide yourself and will come worst.

I advise that please.. go counselor help..

GarnetTigerMom · 02-04-2008, 11:57 AM

Been there where u are, because my family are the same with me. They yell at me, cuss at me, calls me names and look for a fight. Because Hearing parents with a deaf child or adults always have "misunderstood commuications". We would fights lot. I get tired of that lot too. Some of it I get the beating for it when I talk back to them or cuss them out. So now they know they can't hit me anymore since they know I can call the cops. But they still cuss at me and verbal abused me. So, the only thing I can do is walk away from them and moved out!

Now that I have a daughter of my own, they are trying to be a little bit nicer to me. But still my mother try to control over me and my child which I do not appricate. Since I have warned my family no more of this behavior and more fighting or I stop my visit and not let them see their grandchild. So they got a choice to back off to show a little bit respect. However, my brother living with me as my roommate and I plan to kick him out of my house since I gave him a fair warning no more cussing in front of my child and calling me rotten names. I get fed up with him being so lazy around the house. Pretty soon, I am kicking his ass very soon. So hopefully he will wake up.

SxyPorkie · 02-04-2008, 12:43 PM

Screaming is the verbal abuse.. so you are being abused by their screamings... go and get help... sooner or later you will be depressed... i did not realize i was in depression until three attempts of suicides...

Silentwolfdog · 02-04-2008, 09:24 PM

Warth? Do you mean wroth or wrath?

Yeah, I do agree, get some help. They might

02-03-2008, 04:46 PM	#1 (permalink)
KarissaMann05 Jessie's Character Join Date: May 2007 Location: Oregon Posts: 2,245 Blog Entries: 6	How do I deal with my warth family? I can't stand it anymore... I'm so sick of their warth over a little thing, currently! For explain: You are accidently sipping a several drops of water liquids from a kind of cup when you trip a something, suddenly your mom shout and blurt at you, "BE CAREFUL!! YOU ARE SUPPOSE TO WATCH OUT!! CLEAN YOUR MESS UP!!" Other explain: You make a little mess thing, like a several spilled foods on a table, and you got a long shouting comment over that little thing. I have to clean up faster. Another explain: Even worse, I was junior student of high school and I lost SK2 once, my family made me to feel I was an idiot and I got screaming comments from them. Make it BIG deal!! Funny... My family made a small mistake and I don't scream back at all, but WHY MY FAMILY? Each warth comment made me uncomfy and refused to express out what happened events, sharing how I feel, and etc etc. I could not express out that I was a major depressing and sleepnig a lot, because they thought I was selfish and self-centered, or got an attention. I could not inform them whatever I need something, because they may think I am not take care of myself enough or not take a responality.. whatever it is, I can't stand to face them each I want to help, otherwise, I would get a warth comment from them. I always ask my friends for help instead. -SIGHS!- I'm so SICK OF IT!!! I have enough with tolerant their ranting voices!! I don't know how to face my family how I feel about their warth voices toward me all the times. It's very frustating. What should I do? I need some supportive and cooperative comments from you, ADers, please? __________________ Credit by KarissaMann05 Sexual Orientation: Semi-Asexuality, Semi-Hetersexuality Status: Unavailable Single Guy: Great personality, Christianity belief, and has a plenty of patience Last edited by KarissaMann05; 02-03-2008 at 04:47 PM. Reason: forget to add "my"

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moonflower Registered User Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: Washtenaw County Michigan Posts: 4,580	mann i went same thing what you have been through with parents controllings and i found counselor to help me with my depression and it did help and who cares what my parents does to me i am better from depression __________________

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JClarke J-Boy Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Determined to go to America.. Posts: 10,810 Blog Entries: 3	I think you should tell them what you felt and confront them what has affected you, if you don't wish to go to a whatever it is called (I think I am too lazy to type the specific word atm) __________________

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moonflower Registered User Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: Washtenaw County Michigan Posts: 4,580	mann trusted me counselor can help __________________

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KarissaMann05 Jessie's Character Join Date: May 2007 Location: Oregon Posts: 2,245 Blog Entries: 6	No, ADers. I'm sorry for confusion, but what I try to say: I'm NOT depressing, honestly, I am not. They don't control me, they are all do is yelling all the time that I don't want to listen. I am frustating about little things made a minor accident WHICH is made a such BIG deal. I dont know why you assume me that I have my "depression" or being controlled. It's DIFFERENT. I meant, how do I deal with their warth emotion? That's point. They are just yelling at me when I made a small accident. Understand? I hope I make it clear. ^_^ A counselor may be help, yet I'm still not sure about about it... __________________ Credit by KarissaMann05 Sexual Orientation: Semi-Asexuality, Semi-Hetersexuality Status: Unavailable Single Guy: Great personality, Christianity belief, and has a plenty of patience

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02-03-2008, 05:40 PM	#3 (permalink)
jillio Registered User Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 17,135	I agree with SxyPorkie. A counselor could help you deal with depression. But, please, keep in mind Mann05...just because your family talks to you this way does not mean that you deserve to be talked to this way. It doesn't really matter what they think of you. What matters most is what you think of yourself. Your family obviously has some problems. But don't let their problems become your problems. Everyone makes mistakes. We are not our mistakes. Mistakes are something we do.....valuable human beings that deserve respect are what we are.

02-04-2008, 02:34 AM	#17 (permalink)
omegaman ambient Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Remember what the doorknob said... Posts: 790	It does make you wonder what goes through the mind of those parents who like to scream and create commotion over something small. Perhaps next time they yell, tell them that you do not need to listen to their yelling. If you wear HA, you could remove them when they yelling. Let them waste their energy while you stay at peace within yourself.. Eventually they will get a sore throat and stop yelling.. __________________

02-04-2008, 03:07 AM	#19 (permalink)
omegaman ambient Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Remember what the doorknob said... Posts: 790	I figure if a person is not getting through to somebody they will either yell more or shut up once they figure they'd be better of yelling at a brick wall.. It seems her parents won't listen to her regardless. Perhaps they should see a counselor instead. __________________

02-04-2008, 03:11 AM	#20 (permalink)
JClarke J-Boy Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Determined to go to America.. Posts: 10,810 Blog Entries: 3	Why does somebody yell over something small if it was accidental? __________________

02-04-2008, 11:57 AM	#22 (permalink)
GarnetTigerMom Registered User Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Virginia Posts: 4,590	Been there where u are, because my family are the same with me. They yell at me, cuss at me, calls me names and look for a fight. Because Hearing parents with a deaf child or adults always have "misunderstood commuications". We would fights lot. I get tired of that lot too. Some of it I get the beating for it when I talk back to them or cuss them out. So now they know they can't hit me anymore since they know I can call the cops. But they still cuss at me and verbal abused me. So, the only thing I can do is walk away from them and moved out! Now that I have a daughter of my own, they are trying to be a little bit nicer to me. But still my mother try to control over me and my child which I do not appricate. Since I have warned my family no more of this behavior and more fighting or I stop my visit and not let them see their grandchild. So they got a choice to back off to show a little bit respect. However, my brother living with me as my roommate and I plan to kick him out of my house since I gave him a fair warning no more cussing in front of my child and calling me rotten names. I get fed up with him being so lazy around the house. Pretty soon, I am kicking his ass very soon. So hopefully he will wake up. __________________ GarnetTigerMom "The rain may be falling hard outside, But your smile makes it all alright. I'm so glad that you're my friend. I know our friendship will never end." -- Robert Alan

02-04-2008, 12:43 PM	#23 (permalink)
SxyPorkie SxyPorkie Join Date: May 2006 Location: Southern California Posts: 3,095	Screaming is the verbal abuse.. so you are being abused by their screamings... go and get help... sooner or later you will be depressed... i did not realize i was in depression until three attempts of suicides... __________________ Life Goes On!!

02-04-2008, 09:24 PM	#24 (permalink)
Silentwolfdog a toku fangirl Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: Earth Posts: 689	Warth? Do you mean wroth or wrath? Yeah, I do agree, get some help. They might